Hello dear readers. Often in a relationship, when two characters are still grinding in, quarrels arise. Often a partner is offended by some act of her gentleman. In this article, you will learn how a guy should behave in such a situation, how to apologize to an offended girl. Let us separately consider the case when a young man admits his own guilt.
Why did the girl get offended
A guy cannot always understand why his beloved is offended by him, what exactly provoked such emotions in her. Sometimes such behavior of the chosen one is perceived as a way of flirting or a means of blackmail. Over time, the guy will understand in which situations the offense is real, and in which it is not.
You must be aware that a young lady can be hurt by an unsuccessful joke or a rude word. You need to understand that male humor is not always perceived by women. It is important to learn to recognize the behavior of your chosen one, to see what is in her soul, to notice resentment in a timely manner, so that it is easier to understand what exactly influenced this state of the girl.
To the most common reasons that make the young lady "pout" include:
- the guy accidentally called the girl the name of another woman, in particular his ex;
- looked appraisingly at his girlfriend's girlfriend or another representative of the beautiful half of humanity;
- was rude to his beloved when she called to work - at that moment there was a strong emergency;
- the guy joked stupidly, hitting the girl to the quick.
Preparatory stage
- Any act of a person must be balanced, carefully thought out.
- Before asking for forgiveness, you need to think over a plan of action.
- If you decide to apologize with the help of words, you need to think about what names will be appropriate in this situation, make sure that they will become convincing, will be emotional enough, not hysterical, there will be no obscene words.
- You need to remember words such as "sorry", "sorry". The offended young lady will definitely be waiting for something like that.
- Before making an appointment with your loved one, you should also think about the answers to possibly asked questions. The girl may be interested in:
- do you know what is the cause of the misconduct;
- what exactly allowed you to behave this way;
- How do you plan to avoid this behavior in the future?
Sequencing
- Be honest, be calm.
- Control the tone of your conversation, intonation and choose the right words.
- Start a conversation with the phrase "can I talk to you."
- Ask what exactly offended her, if you do not know the reason.
- Try to put yourself in her place and realize that this act really hurt the girl.
- Promise that this will not happen again in the future, you will try with all your might to prevent this from happening.
- If the situation calls for it, smile and kiss your partner.
If the girl has not yet had time to calm down, no action needs to be taken. It is better to wait, otherwise you can run into a big scandal and aggression on her part.
If a guy knows how to properly approach his chosen one in order to achieve her location again, then he is very lucky. It’s more difficult when a girl’s feelings have simply cooled down, if resentment is a way to bring parting closer. In such a situation, the young man will think about how to apologize, and the girl will look for a reason to be more offended.
If the couple, in principle, does not think about parting, then after asking for forgiveness, it is necessary:
- try to talk heart to heart, even if the girl is trying to put out the door;
- you need to explain the purpose of your arrival;
- if she wants to express her claims and throw a tantrum, no need to interfere;
- it is important to clearly explain the reasons for your act, to wait how the girl will react;
- no need to interrupt the young lady, let her speak out about everything that is sore.
If you plead guilty
If you offended your beloved and admit that you did wrong.
- Come to the girl with a guilty face.
- Ask to speak.
- Tell them right away that you are at fault.
- Try to explain why you did it the way you did.
- Sincerely ask for forgiveness.
- Point out that you are aware that you were wrong, you undertake not to do so again.
- Be sure to indicate how much you value your relationship.
- Try to take the girl by the arms or hug her.
When you talk about the reasons that prompted you to commit a bad deed, speak in a guilty voice with a pitiful intonation. Do not think that this will humiliate your dignity.
Possible mistakes
- If you are planning a meeting with a young lady in order to reconcile, but at the same time some event occurs that unbalances you, then it is better to postpone the date. Otherwise, the quarrel will only get worse.
- If the girl is not ready to see you yet, she is very offended, then you don’t need to follow her, be too intrusive, call often. Let her stay alone for some time, she doesn’t need to be reminded of herself, to annoy even more.
- If the girl is the first to call or somehow hint that she is ready to communicate, there is no need to pause. It is better to immediately make contact, offer to meet and go for a walk.
- It is unacceptable to immediately insist on sex after reconciliation. At such a moment, the girl will be touched, there is no need to trivialize everything. An exception is if the beloved begins to act on her own.
Apology Examples
How exactly to ask for forgiveness will directly depend on what happened. I bring to your attention four examples of apologies.
- Excuse me, I understand that my act greatly offended you. I won't justify my behavior. I understand that this is impossible. Please remember the good times we had together. Is it really because of my thoughtless action that everything needs to be crossed out?
- Forgive me for what I did. These actions were based on natural instincts. I want you to understand that I don't need anyone but you. I only looked at your friend out of curiosity. I love you, other girls do not exist for me.
- Sorry for being rude. At that moment, I was very busy and could not give you proper attention. To a greater extent, you fell under the hot hand. I understand that such behavior is unacceptable. I shouldn't have offended you. I'm ashamed that I couldn't. I promise that I will start working on myself so that this does not happen again.
- Sorry for the inappropriate joke. I didn't think at all that she might be unpleasant for you. I won't do such reckless things in the future. Please forgive me.
Reconciliation in VK
- Leave graffiti with words about forgiveness on her wall. Reinforce it with a heart or a kiss. A sad face would also be appropriate.
- You can choose music or video clips that contain words about forgiveness. And send a selection to the girl on the wall. It is better to pre-listen to the songs from beginning to end, so that it does not happen that some phrase will anger or upset your chosen one even more.
- You can send your favorite collage of your joint photos, namely pictures happy moments of your life. So the girl will see what she can lose. It would also be useful to add words about an apology, maybe a music track, especially one that symbolizes the beginning of your relationship.
- A guy can make a video in which he will ask the girl for forgiveness and say how much he loves her. Send such a video to the Vkontakte wall.
In a letter
Sometimes it’s very difficult for a guy to step over himself and say “I’m sorry” to a girl. In such situations, a handwritten message will help to apologize correctly. It could be:
- a note attached to the mirror or left on the refrigerator, on the table;
- message on a social network;
- a letter sent by e-mail;
- romantic option - a regular paper letter left in the mailbox;
- you can send a courier to her house with a bouquet of flowers, in which there will be a note with apologies.
To understand what to do if you messed up a lot, you need to listen to the following recommendations.
- No need to tell everyone in a row that the girl was offended. People can stand up for the young lady. And some individuals can tell the girl herself about this, slightly turning your story around. Which will further aggravate the situation.
- The guy must analyze his actions, determine the cause of the offense, think carefully about how he will apologize.
- You need to be sincere, let the girl see a real desire to improve relations.
- Apologize better words. You need to speak in a calm and confident voice, be able to control your emotions.
- If you still don’t understand what exactly influenced the girl’s resentment, then it’s better to apologize anyway. It will be good if you can later clarify what kind of act upset her. It is important to do this in order to avoid such mistakes in the future.
- Asking for forgiveness is necessary in person. It is better to appoint her during the day, correctly guessing the time so that the girl is free.
- The guy should start his conversation with the phrase "I realized that I did wrong ..." or "I would like to apologize ...", or "I am very sorry to you ...".
- Along with an apology, you can present a small gift, something symbolic or handmade.
- It is important to discuss what happened, to think about how to behave in the future.
- No need to give up, even if the girl pushes you away, does not allow you to apologize. Perhaps she was just very offended. She needs time to cool down.
Now you know how to apologize to the girl you offended. Remember that the representatives of the beautiful half of humanity are very vulnerable. Think over your every act and word so as not to hurt your beloved. If the girl is already offended, then do not delay with an apology. Speed up reconciliation if the young lady is really dear to you and there is no desire to lose her.
Baby please excuse me
I don't deny it, I screwed up a lot
You gave me a dream
I bathed in happiness with you.
I'm sorry, please don't be angry
Let's sign the world
Rodnul, please, smile,
Let's forget all the bad!
After all, without you there is no peace,
I languish all day in sorrow,
Forgive me, I beg you
You are the only one I ever need!
Forgive me for my temper,
I know it's very difficult for me!
I love you with my heart and soul,
Dear, without you I'm so anxious!
Forgive me for this bitterness of stupid phrases,
That flew from the mouth like bullets!
I really miss your eyes
Which brought me happiness back to life!
I hated myself
I became disgusted with myself -
Hurt your beloved
Thus, he fell very low.
Forgiving me is hard,
In agony I wait for the answer:
Is there even the slightest hope?
Will you forgive me or not?
Do not be offended by me,
Don't get angry and don't look angry.
Madly I love you!
Please, forgive me, let the bad be forgotten.
I know I'm guilty before you
Well, if you want, scold me a little,
And then smile and hug
After all, we have a happy road ahead of us.
I won't let you be sad anymore
I won't let the smile leave my face.
Now I ask, just forgive me
For all my thoughtless mistakes.
I'm sorry. I'm begging.
It's not easy for me,
But only you I worship.
I'm sorry. Forgive me for all.
I'm sorry, I declare:
Come back to me, my love!
I freeze, I die.
You are so beautiful, so light.
I will be better. I promise.
I will change. Trust me.
I blame myself for everything
And without you, I'm just at the bottom.
Forgive me, my dear.
I behaved badly.
I offended you very much, I know
And that's why you're right
You look at me angrily
Don't hide your resentment.
I will change for you.
Forgive me, my dear!
I sit alone, in an empty apartment,
And I listen to the silence.
You are not related in this world,
How could offend? I don’t understand.
Work, vanity, worries,
And nerves clenched into a fist.
For a moment I forgot who you are...
What a fool!
Shouted and reproached, scandalized,
And I did not notice your tears.
I've been wasting my time
Now I just realized
All the warmth, love and affection,
You only gave to me.
I'm sorry, and I will return us to a fairy tale,
Lost through my fault.
I offended you, my love,
And I hurt your own heart.
But God knows I didn't mean to hurt you
And bring sadness and grief.
Do you remember the wise words:
“Resentment is like a wall, and we don't need it.
After all, love is needed
Not walls, but open spaces.
I offended you, and I know it,
Because sometimes we hurt the ones we love.
Forgive me soon, my love
And let resentment become a drop in the ocean.
I'm very guilty
In front of you, dear.
I want to fix
All the things he did.
Forgive me for everything
I beg you.
I'm sorry that I am you
So little appreciated.
Your love from troubles
Always kept me.
I'm very guilty
That he didn't appreciate it.
I so want to return
Trust and tenderness
I'm sorry that I
Involuntarily offended.
I will not repeat my sin.
I will love from now on
You are even stronger
Than before I loved.
Forgive me, dear
I don't know what's wrong with me.
It's like a demon has taken over me
Terribly evil and alien.
I made you cry
He spoke bitter words.
I want to fix it soon
What he did himself.
I hate myself
For your stupid act.
And I swear I won't offend
With my own head!
Any man, at least once in his life, found himself in a situation where he had to ask for forgiveness from a girl. The female psyche is a delicate structure, and one careless word is enough to bring confusion into the soul of a girl. Moreover, the word itself may not even have a deep meaning. Both the intonation, the place and the time of its pronunciation have meaning. If the meaning of the word is so great, then the male act has a more destructive effect.
Sometimes it is difficult for a man to understand the true cause of female resentment. A logical analysis of the situation makes it impossible to see anything that could destroy the relationship. It's all about the perception of the situation.
Someone else's act is not as destructive as resentment. Resentment is the result of a complex chain of thoughts, reasoning and conclusions, supported by emotions. It is she who is able to lead from a trifling situation to life conclusions. And in this situation it is already difficult to understand the true cause of the destroyed relationship, because, in fact, it is no longer important.
It should not be reduced either the opinion of people close to the girl, to whom she will have time to emotionally tell about your quarrel, while attracting her feelings, experiences and worries. Negative consequences quarrels will be exaggerated several times, in proportion to the number of listeners.
It is for this reason that it is important to prevent the fireworks of the girl’s thoughts and you need to apologize right away.
However, do not be discouraged if the girl is offended. Women's anger is easily replaced by mercy under appropriate circumstances. This circumstance can serve as a male apology. It is important to know how to properly apologize to a girl.
Need to take a little break
"Women's passions" have a peak and a recession. Do not ask for forgiveness during the peak of stress. Remember that it is not the word or deed that hurts, but the thoughts that comment on this behavior. The so-called "winding" occurs much later. Therefore, if it was not possible to apologize immediately, as they say, in hot pursuit, then it is better to wait for a pause so that the girl experiences her thoughts and is ready to accept others. A long pause can sow doubt in the girl’s heart: is the guy really to blame for everything, or is there part of her fault? A very long pause can make a girl feel possessive and anxious. The girl will begin to doubt the correctness of her resentment, she will begin to get bored, and maybe even want to take the initiative in reconciliation. In any case, your attention after a while will be a joy to her.
Arrange a personal meeting
Do not call or text. You need to see the eyes of your chosen one. It is there that you will find the answer to all questions and the willingness to forgive you. If for some reason you do not have the opportunity to meet in person, then it is better to come up with something original: a letter in an envelope, a telegram, a carrier pigeon (with a courier). The girl will appreciate your act, which means you will be forgiven.
Show special interest in the girl
A girl must believe that she is the one, special, the best. Each girl considers herself unique, but it is much more pleasant to hear this from a loved one. Tell the girl how much she means to you, how beautiful and charming she is. Focus on its individual merits, not the details of your conflict. Do not justify yourself or repeat individual phrases of a quarrel. You need to make the girl believe in your remorse without focusing on the details.
Do an act
If the first attempt did not work, then the reason may be either your deep guilt or the girl's excessive stubbornness. In any case, the usual apology is clearly not enough and it is necessary to perform a special act that will elevate her in the eyes of others. Women have always depended on the opinions of society. And the ability to surprise others will cause a girl more delight than a sincere intimate apology, especially since the latter has already been used to no avail.
We offer several options for special surprises:
- A traditional large bouquet of flowers, given under the condition of a gathering of people who are significant for the girl: work colleagues, classmates, friends.
- A special way of giving gifts: balloons, kite, parcel, courier in a special carnival costume, etc.
- The inscription with a declaration of love on the pavement, banner, poster.
- Announcement on the radio, selector, at a lecture at your request, etc.
Surprise options are limited only by your imagination.
The opinion of authoritative people
This option of reconciliation is actively used in diplomacy and is well suited for personal situations. It is necessary to attract to your side people who are authoritative for the girl: friends, parents, relatives, leader, etc. Try to explain to them that you made a mistake and are very sorry. People who are not emotionally involved in this situation will look at it from a logical point of view. And, most importantly, to convince them in two situations: you love a girl. and you are very remorseful.
Be persistent but not intrusive
Continue to show signs of attention to the girl: personally and in absentia. Any sign of attention is pleasant and will make you closer to your cherished goal.
Show your pride
If for a long time your efforts do not have an effect, stop all efforts. Let the girl remain without your attention for some time. If you really love her. Start again with the first tip.
Remember that there are no non-criminal fortresses.
And a few more tips:
- Be patient. Remember that an offended girl can do rash acts. Forgive her in advance for all unnecessary words.
- Try not to make excuses for your behavior. The fact is that in the eyes of the girl there is no excuse for him and it is useless to do this. Better to just admit your mistake.
- Make it a rule not to use harsh words when communicating with a girl. This will keep you out of trouble in the relationship.
May your relationship be filled with love. And love can forgive everything.
