How does pride manifest itself? This can be compared to the growth of weeds: everything starts small, from a seed, but what kind of harmful plant will appear from it and how it will harm the good earth will become clear only with time. And it’s good if you manage to stop its growth in time, to distinguish the weed from the crops, without waiting for the most harmful manifestations of its essence.
Pride in a person is multifaceted and has many manifestations. It is conditionally possible to single out hidden (latent) and pronounced signs of pride in a person.
The definition of manifestations of the passion of pride can be built on the basis of those principles that were noted by St. Theophan the Recluse. He indicates how pride is manifested in relation to the one who ascends to himself, to his neighbors and to God.
1. Self-centeredness
The first manifestations of pride begin with a person's excessive concern for himself. Excessive love for oneself, the fulfillment of one's whims, insistence on the fulfillment of one's will indicate that a person is distinguished by an unreasonable and all-consuming love for his person. “The desire to eat and rest more than necessary” constantly prevails in him, he makes himself indulgences and benefits. He is characterized by an arrangement for convenience and comfort, a desire for something that can entertain or cheer him up: “I want to drink, I want to get up, I want to read the newspaper.” All these actions speak of self-will in a person. He determines for himself what he should eat, how much he should sleep, etc. Often, in need of something, such a person loses moderation in his desires: satisfying hunger or thirst, he cannot limit himself in the amount of food or drink, “shows special tastes, capricious in food ". He likes to talk about himself: how he slept, what he dreamed about and what happened to him, what are his needs and affairs; this is also the reason for his desire to initiate others into the circumstances of his spiritual life.
On the other hand, “temperance, diligence, frugality, patience, constancy give him the appearance of a strict executor of duties. in relation to oneself”, - says St. Theophan about a man ascending, who, according to the saint, only makes a pious appearance, but in fact, inside lies the desire to earn praise to feed his pride.The first manifestations of pride begin with a person's excessive concern for himself.
In addition, the behavior of a proud person is manifested in talkativeness, curiosity, fussiness - in all this he seeks to show himself, to become noticeable. Priest Alexander Elchaninov notes that such a person is pleased with himself, often laughs, whistles, sings, snaps his fingers. He likes to seem original, to amaze with paradoxes, to be witty. He talks with pleasure about his successes, deeds, his inner experiences, difficulties, even when this is not necessary.
Devoting time to himself, he expects the same interest from others. For example, “he collects his photographs from newspapers, although he knows that newspapers also publish photographs of criminals, and reads letters to everyone in which someone praises him. He annoys everyone and everyone avoids him. He establishes his glory on the most unreliable foundation - on people's rumors.
Bishop Peter (Ekaterinovsky), highlighting the signs of pride in a person in accordance with the property of one of the abilities of his soul, notes: in the mind - puffy sophistication, high dreaming about oneself, self-confidence; in the will - willfulness, desire for independence, harassment to put everything in its own way, arrogance; in the heart - self-pleasure, the desire to live only for oneself, for one's own pleasure.Such a person is extremely dependent on the opinions of others.
- Signs of pride in a person in relationships with others:
Dependence on someone else's opinion
A proud person seeks to be noticeable by doing deeds for show, thereby he wants to achieve favor from others, wants to hear praise addressed to him. Therefore, such a person, and this is noted by saints and ascetics of piety, turns out to be extremely dependent on the opinions of others. So, the priest Alexander Elchaninov says about such a person that he, from someone else's approval, "sometimes suddenly blooms, then fades and" sour "". Schema Savva (Ostapenko) also speaks of the painful experience of someone else’s disapproval and remarks and joy from praise: “From one disapproving word, his mood quickly changes, and he becomes lethargic, and from praise it blooms again like a “May rose” and begins to flutter like a moth” . A similar reasoning can be found in the Monk Paisius the Holy Mountaineer: “He who has a wide heart, he can bear everything, but he who has a narrow heart, faint-hearted, because of one remark, one unpleasant event falls into despondency, cannot bear it.” The narrow heart becomes from the fact that now only the proud person’s own “I” is placed there: “In the heart of a proud person, this own “I” occupies all space, and there is no more room for either God or neighbor.”
Suspicion and suspicion of others
Gradually, a person grows more and more confident in his own strengths, abilities, unwillingness to hear the opinion of his neighbors that disagrees with his own idea of himself. Therefore, a proud person is afraid of being ridiculed, because he does not see shortcomings in himself, considers himself a standard in all respects. “What hinders us most in our search for God is the fear of being ridiculed. Our pride, stubbornness, striving for self-affirmation will stand against sharp criticism and direct attacks, will withstand hostility and rejection. But it is extremely difficult to endure mockery, ”writes Metropolitan Anthony of Surozh. From an erroneous idea of \u200b\u200bthe people around him, a proud person develops suspicion of his neighbors, sometimes acquiring a delusional character of expecting evil either in general or on a specific occasion. The expectation of evil comes from the environment. They are talking about me, they are plotting something, a conspiracy is being prepared against me. Priest Alexander Elchaninov writes that if a person is suspicious ... then this is undoubtedly a sign of pride. It seems to a person that the surrounding society thinks disapprovingly of him, condemns him, speaks behind his back.
Intervention in the affairs of othersPriest Alexander Elchaninov writes that if a person is suspicious ... then this is undoubtedly a sign of pride
Priest Alexander Elchaninov The trait of a proud person noted by St. Feofan - that he is "angry, perky and does not give himself rest" - is similar to the description inner world arrogant, as priest Alexander Elchaninov says about him: “He willingly gives advice and intervenes in other people’s affairs in a friendly way, involuntarily reveals an exceptional interest in himself with such phrases (interrupting someone else’s speech): “no, what can I tell you”, or “no, I know the case better”, or “I have a habit”, or “I stick to the rule”, “I am in the habit of preferring”; makes various tricks to attract the attention of those present; likes to talk a lot, and in his conversation one can hear the infinite "I" ". “A person encroaches on someone else's will (not enduring the slightest encroachment on his own), disposes of someone else's attention, time, strength, becomes impudent and impudent. Your own business is important, someone else's is nothing. He takes on everything, interferes in everything. Except for those cases when circumstances, commandments, conscience and so on require.
Comparing yourself to others
At the next stage, such a person begins to compare himself with other people. Pride here stage is still invisible. St. Theophan the Recluse notes that “in this state of affairs, a person keeps in his head ... the idea that he is better than others, brightens up his shortcomings and seems to himself always good.” At the same time, a proud person is distinguished by his unfair (usually low) opinion of others. When praying in church, the proud person loves to look at others, observe them, and judge them. He willingly compares himself with others, finding only flaws in them and not recognizing any virtues behind them, attributing unseemly aspirations and intentions to them, and even wishing them harm.
Neglect of neighbor
When a person begins to single out his person from society, then he begins to show indifference to his neighbors. Love for oneself destroys love for one's neighbor, as St. Paisios the Holy Mountaineer says. He gives a wonderful example of human indifference: “Recently in the hospital I witnessed such a situation: it was necessary to lift a bedridden patient to transfer to another room, the nurse did not move, although it was his job. “I can’t, my lower back hurts,” he said indifferently! Yes, you see, the man is inhuman! And the pregnant nurse, along with another, took and transferred it. They didn't think about themselves.
And she completely forgot that she was in a position, and rushed to help! . Shiigumen Savva (Ostapenko) also tried to show by life example how a proud person manifests himself, regardless of life circumstances or natural needs: “Here we go to a store or to a market and want to buy food or fruit. At the same time, we try to choose the best ones for ourselves, and leave the worse ones for others. Or there is a queue, and we try to go ahead and get ahead without a queue, again we do what is best for ourselves, regardless of others; let them stand, so long as we get what we need ... ".Being deceived by his righteousness, the proud person rises above others, and sees them as less righteous or even great sinners.
Demanding towards others
The sincere confidence of the proud in his superiority over others gives an incentive to command them. Schiegumen John of Valaam points to this distinctive feature: “We ourselves do not fulfill a single commandment, but we demand fulfillment from others. Lord, “let me see my sins and do not condemn my brother” . You can hear from the proud: ““I want it so much,” says one, “But it’s different for me,” says the other. Everyone strives for what he likes."
Hatred
At this stage, pride begins to manifest itself openly in hatred of one's neighbor, in anger, irritability, annoyance, anger, envy, vindictiveness, resentment, enmity. In his aggressiveness and disrespect for his neighbor, a person begins to meet a rebuff. He watches others very carefully, and does not give them much good mark. This happens because, deceived by his righteousness, the proud one rises above others, and sees them as less righteous or even great sinners. He hates his neighbor, despises him, does not descend to weakness. St. Basil the Great says that pride is expressed in hatred and contempt for others... It does not tolerate contradiction, because it offends a proud person and anger and irritability begin to act in him. In his letter to the monk Nicholas, the Monk Mark the Ascetic says that "anger and irritability are drunk with the evil water of pride." The Optina elders also point to this peculiarity: for example, St. Macarius of Optina says that such manifestations as anger are the offspring of the God-hating passion of pride.
Murmur
The proud one constantly grumbles. Murmuring is manifested in the fact that a person shifts all responsibility for his suffering to others, and ultimately to God. At the same time, he considers himself to be innocently suffering and complains all the time, scolds those who, in his opinion, are to blame for his suffering - and there are more and more “guilty” as a person sinks deeper into grumbling and becomes embittered. St. Ambrose of Optina writes: “From pride comes anger, from pride comes condemnation and censure of others, from it indignation, and murmuring, and self-justification, and unwillingness to endure anything.”
Self-justification and self-confidence
In relations with a neighbor, a person wants to defend his own righteousness; or wants to be thought better than he is; or at least thought exactly what he really is. Listening to ... advice, a person is first convicted by conscience, but at the same time, self-justification and an attempt to find mitigating circumstances for himself are gradually developing in him, in order to present himself in a better light. Priest Alexander Elchaninov gives advice to pastors on how to recognize the sign of self-love hiding in a person during confession. If a person in confession seeks self-justification, attempts to explain to the confessor “extenuating circumstances, refers to third parties who have led into sin, the lack of deep repentance (without tears), continuing to be in sin, all this speaks of self-love.”
Behind the feeling of being right, self-confidence creeps into the heart of a proud person. The infallibility of his actions is the guarantor of stability. The feeling of rightness is at the head of this proud manifestation. It is possible to make a mistake, but a self-confident person will never be the culprit, he is looking for guilt in other objects - people, machines, computers, etc.Envy is sorrow for the well-being of one's neighbor
Resentment and revenge
St. rights. John of Kronshdatsky Where the self-esteem of a person is excessively high, resentment always arises. Such a person sees an unfair attitude towards his person in everything. His resentment is desire better attitude to himself than what he sees. Of course, a person is offended when he considers himself deserving of a better attitude, when he is not treated as well as he sees him as fair and right. St. Simeon the New Theologian writes: “Whoever, being dishonored or annoyed, is greatly ill from this heart, let it be known about that person that he carries the ancient serpent (pride) in his bowels. If he begins to silently endure insults, he will make this serpent weak and relaxed ... ”The holy righteous John of Kronstadt, asking the question: how do you know that you are proud? - he himself answers, “that this can be found out if one of my acquaintances treats me dryly and carelessly, and I will be offended by this: this means that I am proud and proud. If a rough word offends me, it also means that I am proud. If someone objects to me, and I am offended and annoyed by this-I'm proud too." Wounded pride breeds revenge. proud man looking for various ways to take revenge on his offender. St. Tikhon writes: “The conceited person does not tolerate insults, but takes revenge or wants revenge.”
Envy
Seeing the success and prosperity of the surrounding people, the proud begins to envy. Envy is, in essence, a hidden hatred for another person who seems to be more successful. Because of this, it is difficult for a proud person to tolerate equals next to him, and even more so those who are better than him. Saint Basil the Great says that "envy is sorrow for the well-being of one's neighbor."
Arguments and quarrels, unwillingness to give in
Rev. Macarius Optinsky Since self-confidence is associated with a sense of being right, it gives rise to extreme dissatisfaction when meeting with disagreement and is expressed in disputes, quarrels. So the Monk Macarius of Optina writes: “Quarrels and disputes, it’s true, happen for nothing and come from nothing else but pride.” St. Ambrose of Optina also highlights arguing as a symptom of a proud person: “ The goose, when there is something not for him, raises his wings and shouts: “Kaga! whoa!” So the proud, if he has any significance in his circle, often raises his voice, shouts, argues, objects, insists on his opinion. If the one who is sick with pride in his surroundings does not have any weight and significance, then from inner anger he hisses at others, like a goose sitting on eggs, and bites whom he can bite ... ".
A proud person does not want to repent of his actions, it is difficult for him to approach and ask for forgiveness, he is ashamed to kneel. He doesn't see himself as guilty. Metropolitan Anthony of Surozh remarks: “Our pride often prevents us from accepting forgiveness: how will I accept forgiveness, thereby admitting that I am really guilty? It is sometimes very difficult to accept forgiveness precisely because of this pride, precisely because we do not want to be restored to our dignity by someone else's mercy; we want to have this dignity in ourselves or earn the right to it.At the last stage of manifestation, the proud person breaks the connection with God.
3. A visible manifestation of pride in a relationship with God.
In the spiritual life, a proud person wants to show his progress, his superiority. He does not expose his good deeds. But not just like that, but in order to receive approval and appreciation. Such a person sees himself as a great miracle worker, seer, exorcist. During fervent prayer, he wants to be seen praying.
Others accept spiritual exploits as the goal of their lives. This is where the misunderstanding of asceticism comes from. In one of his letters, Saint Theophan speaks of a man who became proud that he was worthy of weeping at prayer. “And what did you think of being conceited about?! With tears! Tears are crying for sins. When vanity comes because of tears, you will shift your gaze to sins, and say to your soul: look what you have piled up! Is there something to be conceited about?!... This feeling is the most dangerous.”
Finally, at the last stage of manifestation, the proud person breaks the connection with God. Priest Alexander Elchaninov writes that at this stage a person “allows himself everything: sin does not torment him, he becomes a habit ... The state of the soul is gloomy, hopeless, complete loneliness, but at the same time a sincere conviction that his path is right and a feeling of complete security.” A person who is puffed up at people will be puffed up before God. "He who despises his own kind will gradually come to the contempt of God Himself." Such a person relies solely on his mind and on his abilities.
Not recognizing any authority other than his own, the arrogant one begins to blaspheme God... St. John Chrysostom writes that from arrogance comes blasphemy (impiety, wrong feelings towards God, rebellion against God). For it is natural that “when evil grows progressively out of selfishness, it comes to rebellion against God,” says the blessed Theophylact.
The last manifestation of pride is its ability to drive a person's mind into a frenzy, darkening it and overshadowing prudence, when a person, not noticing his shortcomings, considers himself not requiring Divine help. Evagrius of Pontus writes that the manifestation of pride is the frenzy of the mind, madness. This is how St. Ignatius describes a man in a state of insanity: “He doesn’t eat, doesn’t drink, doesn’t sleep, in winter he walks in one cassock, wears chains, sees visions, teaches everyone and denounces everyone with impudent arrogance, without any correctness, without sense and meaning. , with bloody, material, passionate excitement ... Holy, and nothing more!The last manifestation of pride is its ability to drive a person's mind into a frenzy, clouding it and overshadowing prudence.
St. Ignatius (Bryanchaninov) As a result, the proud man says: I believe in this, but I don’t, or he begins to come up with some of his own theories and deviations. Hence the conclusion: pride gives rise in a person to false concepts about God, the Church, dogmas. Since the proud do not recognize the Teachings of the Church, the holy fathers, he relies solely on his own mind and falls into various delusions - goes into sects, creates schisms. Saint Ignatius (Bryanchaninov) writes about the only path that protects against heresies, indicating the reasons for deviation into heresy - pride, self-pleasing, arrogance, self-will, self-will, disobedience: any teaching of an outsider, from their very understandings, until the mind is healed of its illness and becomes spiritual from carnal and spiritual. ”
Summing up, it should be noted that all the above-mentioned possible manifestations of the passion of pride in a person are not limited to the indicated signs. It is important to note that an orientated focus in understanding the essential signs of pride hidden in a person will help the priest in his pastoral work. The shepherd must watch over his spiritual children and confess them in such a way as to reveal manifestations of pride and offer a way to fight not with specific manifestations, but with passion itself.
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Keywords:pride, interaction with passions, fornication, love of money, gluttony, despondency, sadness, anger.
There are also separate classifications of some holy fathers, ascetics of piety, church writers, who identify their own criteria by which one can consider pride in oneself. A fairly complete diagnosis for identifying pride is offered by the ascetic of piety Archbishop Jacob of Nizhny Novgorod: “To understand, to feel it, notice how you will feel when the people around you do something not according to you, contrary to your will. If, first of all, it is not the thought of meekly correcting the mistake made by others that is born in you, but displeasure and anger, then know that you are proud and deeply proud. If even the slightest failure in your affairs saddens you and induces boredom and burden, so that the thought of the Providence of God participating in our affairs does not amuse you, then know that you are proud and deeply proud. If you are hot to your own needs and cold to the needs of others, then know that you are proud and deeply proud. If at the sight of the troubles of others, even your enemies, you are happy, and at the sight of the unexpected happiness of your neighbors, you are sad, then know that you are proud and deeply proud. If modest remarks about your shortcomings are offensive to you, and praises about your unprecedented virtues are pleasant, delightful for you, then know that you are proud and deeply proud ”(quoted from the book: Overcoming Passion by Ascetic and Psychological Methods / Shekhovtseva L .F. and collaborators. - M.: Compound of the Trinity-Sergius Lavra, 2014. - P. 314.)
There is also a classification of the manifestation of pride, compiled by Abba Serapion, where passion is divided into the following signs: contempt, envy, disobedience, blasphemy, murmuring, reproach. (See: The Writings of Our Rev. Father John Cassian the Roman. 2nd ed. - M., 1892. - S. 54.)
A detailed classification of the manifestation of pride in a person is highlighted by St. Tikhon Zadonsky. The signs of pride are as follows: he does not submit to the highest; does not yield to equals and inferiors; pride is eloquent, eloquent and verbose; seeks glory, honor and praise in every way; highly exalts himself and his works; others he despises and humiliates; looking for how to show himself; shamelessly praises himself; whatever good he has, he ascribes to himself, and not to God; he also boasts of the good that he does not have; tries very hard to hide his shortcomings and vices; does not tolerate being in contempt and humiliation; does not accept admonitions, denunciations, advice; arbitrarily interferes in other people's affairs; having lost his dignity or honor, and in other misfortune grumbles, is indignant, and often swears; therefore, pride is angry, pride is envious: it does not want anyone to be equal to it and higher than it, to have equal or greater honor, but that it should exceed everyone in everything. Pride is not inclined to love, hateful. (See: Creations like in the Saints of our father Tikhon of Zadonsk. Flesh and Spirit. Volume 1. - M., 2003. - S.217-218.)
Church researcher Archpriest Sergiy Filimonov highlights the following essential features pride: to measure others with one's standard, self-gratification, self-pity, self-love, self-will, self-will, self-will, consumer attitude towards God, the Church and people, resentment, truth-seeking, self-justification, grumbling, the proud stubbornly defends his opinion, does not tolerate superiority over himself, is disobedient, envious. (Cm.: Sergiy Filimonov, prot. A series of 8 brochures "Struggle against passions". Struggle against passions on the basis of the teachings of the Holy Fathers. Sermons of Archpriest Sergiy Filimonov. - St. Petersburg, 2010.)
Bishop Varnava (Belyaev), in his book "Fundamentals of the Art of Holiness", based on the teachings of St. John Cassian, highlights the signs of pride in a person: loudness slips in a conversation, annoyance in silence, loud overflowing laughter in joy, unreasonable sorrow in sad circumstances , with answers - obstinacy, in speeches - frivolity, words break out without any participation of the heart, recklessly. (Cm.: Barnabas (Belyaev), Bishop Fundamentals of the art of holiness. Experience of presentation of Orthodox asceticism. T. 1. - N. Novg.: Publishing house of the brotherhood in the name of St. book. Alexander Nevsky, 1995.)
Priest Sergiy Dergalev believes that two striking manifestations can be distinguished: the first is contempt for one's neighbors; the second is attributing good deeds to oneself. (Cm.: Sergius Dergalev, Fr. Introduction to Orthodox Asceticism. - Belgorod.: Edition of the Orthodox Youth Missionary Center of the Orthodox Gymnasium, 2005.)
People are afraid of proud people. They are afraid, they envy, they don’t love, they don’t accept, they laugh… People, nevertheless, are afraid of them. But what is pride? A corset that tightly compresses the entire body and mind. Pride is a cage for the heart. Pride - when everything you say is not exactly what you would like to open, while it is incredibly, vitally important. This is when you often do not what you want, when you think in a certain way, but in fact it is impossible to even imagine that you can think that way ... Pride, no - not blind pride, but just pride - this is a disease that prevents you from stretching and straightening your shoulders . Let them have been straightened for a long time and for everyone - from the outside, but who can know how proud this corset is, how - in this cage ... how does he live there at all? ..
Parents to raise a child with dignity, but not proud - you need to have talent. Everyone has pride. It’s just that someone cultivated it, resisting something in childhood and adolescence, someone developed it, safely adopting it from adult relatives, someone simply raised it along with all other character traits, somehow by itself. And someone lives for himself and hardly notices her ... When nothing interferes in communicating with other people, in solving cases of any complexity, in communicating with her children, relatives, friends, strangers ... She does not notice for a single and pleasant reason - when she really doesn't bother...
Proud people are shunned. And they do it right. It's hard to be proud. After all, strange as it sounds, believing in your dignity and carrying it proudly and being proud is a pity, but different things. It's a pity. But people are afraid of proud people. And these proud people are often as weak as invalids with outwardly healthy bodies. No one under the body sees this crippled problem ... Few people see: you can and should communicate with the proud in the same way as with other people. That they are no worse, no better, but no worse than everyone else, with whom it is not difficult to communicate. But sometimes, it is impossible for a proud person to utter a word, while everything from the inside screams all those things that he must say, but ... a corset and a cage ... They do not give.
You can laugh at the proud. You may not even bother to understand them. You can generally leave them to live their own proud lives. Let them live, let them be proud. But who among you knows how often and unbearably they need at least someone nearby, or the one they drive away, or the one they do not call. It's a disease. Silence disease in the presence of all healthy organs of speech and voice. Next to you is not proud, next to you is a dumb person.
Don't run from proud people. They need a little more time to get used to the place, to any of you, even to their own reflection. They are the same people. Just a little different. They can also love strongly and give everything they have. They can also wait, appreciate, believe, be friends.
Proud people… They themselves often do not know how much they need your help. To give them the opportunity to express themselves. In order not to be angry with them, not to mock them, not to envy them in their corsets and cages, to try to accept them. To simply not be afraid of them. Anyway, no one is as much afraid of them as they are of themselves.
Pride and pride are two different concepts with the same root. Pride is an emotion, pride is a side effect of that emotion. If pride can still be brought down from heaven to earth, then in the case of pride this is not possible.
A proud person is also a narcissist, as practice shows. We will not denounce anyone, but we will talk about such people in more detail.
What is pride and pride?
Perhaps we should start by clarifying how these concepts differ.
Pride is an emotion related to the subject. Pride is a pathology. For pride, the reason can be in reality, for example, you can be proud of your homeland, your loved ones, if they deserve it, your own achievements. And be proud of it, without raising yourself above anyone.
Pride teaches otherwise. As noted above, this is a pathological state of false superiority. Often completely without foundation. Unfortunately, these days more and more people are overwhelmed with pride.
Is it a sin?
From the point of view of Christianity, pride is one of the strongest mortal sins. All the worst things that a person is capable of come from a sense of pride. The proud man is extremely proud, but it is worth hurting his pride, i.e. pride, and away we go. If we fall into pride from time to time, safely then leaving this state, then one has only to fall into pride. You will stay there like a fly in a web.
Causes of pride
An overly proud person - for the people around him. You can’t even approach this once again, because it’s impossible to predict what the reaction will be. What are the reasons for pride?
Excessive self-esteem. Loving yourself is okay. But when a person loves himself too much, for no apparent reason, this is already a pathological condition.
Lack of trust in others. We all face certain challenges throughout life. Complicated, painful, after which it takes a long time to recover. But this is not a reason to become an embittered person, for whom only he is interested. The proud are often simply not able to pass such tests, while maintaining the openness of the soul. They become embittered, withdraw into themselves and begin to look down on this world and people.
Selfishness. Who is the proud man? First of all, an inveterate egoist. We are talking about pride as a pathological feeling, and not about healthy self-love. The egoist does not know empathy, sympathy. He laughs at deeds of mercy, helping others and compassion. He is his own light in the window.
Narcissism. Not to be confused with self-esteem. An ordinary proud person can give the impression of being touchy. It is difficult to approach such a person, he does not need anyone. But such a proud person does not impose his worldview on anyone. In the case of pride, its carrier strives to subjugate others to his own view of the world. He imposes his point of view on people.
Three ingredients for a cocktail
What kind of person is a proud person? Which consists of a cocktail called pride. This cocktail is based on three strong components:
False prestige. Pride makes a person put their own interests much higher than anyone else's. People always put concern for their own destiny higher than for another. But a proud person, with this healthy emotion, respects not only himself. He is able to understand, and with pride, a person is sure that she is the navel of the earth. Everyone owes her. Someone should give her their personal time, someone - ideas, and someone - to subordinate life. A person overwhelmed with pride does not think about harming people with his behavior. She just doesn't care.
Feelings of inferiority. Something, but the concept of pride and inferiority somehow do not converge, right? However, the origins of pride lie in this feeling. A person who acutely feels his inferiority begins to delve into the shortcomings of others in order to convince himself that there are much worse inhabitants of the planet Earth. And gradually, succeeding in this search, the proud man rises above the others, sincerely believing in his superiority. It's stupid, at least. Wise and strong people begin to change themselves, rather than trying to seek out negative sides in others.
Diffidence. It forces people to play other people's roles, to try on other masks. And this mask merges with the real face to such an extent that a person begins to believe in the image he is wearing. He thinks that no one is more important than him. And this is not so.
Essence of Pride
What is a proud person? We have considered the meaning of this concept. What is the difference between pride and pride? The main difference between pride and pride is disrespect for another person. If an ordinary proud person respects another person and her choice, then one subject to the passion of pride does not consider others. There is me and no one else.
Conclusion
A proud person is not one who is ossified in this emotion. He is capable of compassion and respect for another person. Unlike the one in whom pride rages. This should be known and remembered. Pride reminds of itself from time to time, pride lives in a person.
What is the difference between pride and pride? Some consider these concepts synonymous, while others are sure that the terms are absolutely opposite in meaning. In fact, the words pride and pride are paronyms that make up a paronymic pair. They are similar in spelling and consonant, but differ in meaning. You can determine what kind of feeling a person experiences, pride or pride, by examining in detail their differences.
What is pride?
The concept of pride means self-esteem, the ability of a person to respect both himself and other people. People of this type are able to determine the value of their abilities and achievements. They treat other people fairly. Such a feeling as pride can indicate shortcomings that still need to be worked on. People with a sense of pride always treat themselves judiciously, because they do not try to hide the presence of shortcomings. They are clearly aware of the existence of problems and do not avoid them. Due to this, such people become less vulnerable than others. Because they are precisely aware of the presence of weaknesses and do not experience complexes. Such people consciously accept the fact that every person has his own shortcomings. And they understand that shortcomings should not be hidden, but simply work on them.
What is pride?
Such a concept as pride is always perceived negatively. Pride results from an individual's excessive pride in himself. Such people usually have negative qualities like arrogance and selfishness. Proud people always put themselves above others. They are sure that they are the most beautiful, successful, they know everything, they can do everything, unlike other people. They believe that they know how to live more than others and are much better than others in many areas.
In most cases, the manifestation of pride is completely unreasonable. The individual is proud of some far-fetched things, not noticing the reality around. At the same time, he criticizes and humiliates others. In Orthodoxy, pride is considered one of the deadly sins. Pride is equated with the intention to become at the level of God, to be higher and more important than others.
Such people quite often suffer from delusions of grandeur. Proud people are not empathetic at all. If you tell them about the problems, they will only scoff and completely consider the person a loser. Therefore, it is usually better not to open up to them and not ask for help. It is by no means pleasant to communicate with such people, due to their constant attempts to put themselves above others, at the expense of other people's failures. Proud people constantly strive to prove, both to themselves and to other people, that everyone knows. They always consider themselves right in everything and the most knowledgeable.
Where does pride come from?
Most often, pride arises from the ordinary need to become necessary and necessary for others. After all, it is believed that the one who knows a lot is needed by society. For this reason, pride makes a person direct his forces to the proof of omniscience. He does this not in order to acquire status, but in order to gain recognition, proof of his importance and significance.
Very often the cause originates from early childhood. When the child did not get the attention of the parents, and he felt not needed. After such a shock, already in adulthood, a person tries to return the missing attention. And he does it in every possible way.
Pride and pride difference
Since pride and pride are the same root words, many people think that these concepts have the same meaning. But in reality, these concepts are different. The main difference is the emotional coloring of concepts.
Pride has a negative emotional connotation, as it causes the individual to put himself above others, through humiliation. Arises as a result of hatred, not perception, not respectful attitude towards others. All these emotions are negative.
Pride has a positive emotional connotation. Since, this feeling helps to simply rejoice in the achievements, both one's own and those of others. A proud person does not at all strive to appear better than others, and therefore has no need to offend or humiliate others.
What is the difference between pride and arrogance?
Such a feeling as pride helps to manifest positive feelings: sympathy, justice, patriotism. Pride, on the contrary, helps to reveal negative emotions: hatred, envy, neglect. The proud individual strives to be honest and just. With such a person you can consult and seek help. The proud man thinks only of himself. Unable to understand or help.
Another difference is achievements. Such a feeling as pride arises only if a person has really achieved something. He clearly assesses his capabilities and is proud goals achieved. A proud person is proud of far-fetched achievements.
If you think about how pride differs from pride, then you can determine: pride is strength, pride is weakness. The manifestation of pride in the readiness and ability to sincerely admire the successes of others. Such a person is really happy with the achievements of others. A proud person is not able to rejoice for others. On the contrary, he feels envy when others are more successful.
Signs of pride
Identifying a proud person is quite simple.
- He always thinks only himself is right.
- Does not take into account the opinions of other people, calls their opinions stupid and not true.
- Regularly tells others how stupid they are.
- He considers himself above everyone, and the rest somewhere below.
- He invents the stages of distribution of people himself. He never puts anyone on the level with himself.
- He can come to the rescue only in rare cases from which he can benefit for himself. If such a person did help, then he will definitely demand an answer. With all this, arguing that it is the most necessary.
- He very rarely asks for help.
- He always tries to achieve something on his own, so that in no case does he share with anyone.
- If, nevertheless, he cannot cope without the help of others, he will ask, stepping over the principles. But he will try in the end result not to be due and not to feel that he helped.
Pride makes a person think that the whole world will simply collapse without him. And others can not live without help. The individual claims to be all-knowing and all-knowing, and others must line up for advice or help. But in fact, it turns out that he himself needs this help, which he does not admit to the last. Always ready to give advice, even if no one asks for it. With all this, I am sure that people will definitely use his advice. That only increases his credibility in his own eyes. Pride does not make it clear that in fact all people have their own opinion and do not need his help at all.
Another distinguishing feature of a proud person is the desire to take on all the worries. He constantly tries to be in time everywhere, to redo a bunch of things. Because I'm sure they can't do it without him. A person suffers, wastes a lot of time and energy. And if the desired does not work out, he begins to blame everyone around for the failures. It will be told how he did everything possible and not possible. And fate is to blame, other people, anyone but not him. If, nevertheless, he managed to achieve success, then he will take all the merits exclusively for himself. Always criticizes other people who does what he wants. Absolutely not adapted to listen to other people's advice. Since he regards any advice as an attempt to manipulate him.
Pride- this is the quality of a person, which is formed as a result of excessive pride in an individual. It is identified with arrogance, selfishness and arrogance. A proud person believes that he is superior to others in everything, in work, clothes, in tastes, in general way life. In addition, often he does not have good reasons to unfairly treat others and humiliate them, so pride often carries an element of lies in itself. To understand what pride is, what it is, you can turn to religion.
Pride in many religions refers to mortal sins, because a person tries to rise almost to the level of God, while humiliating others, stepping on their heads.
Man's pride is a destructive feeling that poisons the soul. No one hopes for such a person in a personal matter, they do not want to share their achievements with him. No one wants to talk about personal problems or joys; in one case or another, a proud person will show an inadequate and not friendly reaction. If a person comes to him with a personal problem, he will not sympathize, he will amuse himself with the fact that people are such losers, although everything is not much better for him. Such a person is a priori incapable of. And if a person comes with some success, he will stumble upon a wall of misunderstanding and. A proud person often does not understand that he is thereby committing fatal mistakes in life. By showing his inattention to others, ingratitude and bragging, he alienates many people from himself and makes enemies for himself. The desire of a person to be the only one in his environment who can be respected and loved leads to megalomania.
Pride and pride
Often people do not know what is the difference between the concepts of pride and pride. Through a similar sound, they are identified, but there are differences between the concepts of pride and pride that you need to know for the competent use of these two different concepts.
Pride and pride of difference. The first thing to say about the difference between pride and pride is emotional coloring.
Pride is always a feeling with a negative connotation. It is negative because it does not have a positive product, it is only fraught with negative results in all human relations.
Pride is a concept colored with positive emotions. This is sincere joy for oneself, for one's successes, without a share of arrogance and exaltation of oneself above others. Pride motivates you to set big goals and achieve them, while pride is fixated on one thing, not giving you the opportunity to develop.
Pride is always only a positive attitude towards oneself, one's personal values and disrespect for the values of other people.
A proud person treats other people fairly, respects their values and rules, shows empathy and sincere joy for their achievements, and is able to express support at the right time. With such a person, people like to communicate, come to him for advice or just talk. A proud person is guided by the rule of honor; pride in itself does not have a single gram of this feeling. Pride in oneself, country, compatriots - these feelings are caused by sincere joy, and make a person happy, this defines him as collectively directed. A proud person is always personally focused only on himself, he is incapable of collective joy, he can experience envy, contempt, and disgust in relation to the group. Therefore, a proud person rarely belongs to any social groupings. Wise people they sympathize with such a person, sincerely pity him, because they see what he is doing with his life and where he is heading in his attitude towards other people. But they know that the time will come when he will be cured of this ill-fated feeling.
Proud people always have a sense of confidence through relying on their own merits, they know that they can rely on themselves, they know their worth, because this is confirmed by true facts. The proud, in most cases, have nothing to look back in their past to experience pride in actions that would also be recognized by other people. A proud person knows his own worth, has dignity and knows the value of his actions, he is invulnerable.
A proud person, demonstrating himself in all directions, can be very vulnerable internally. IN problem situation such a person begins to outwardly say that he is strong and will cope with all life's barriers, but in fact, being alone with his thoughts, he understands how scared he is and he needs support, and not a single gram of demonstrative confidence in him remains, because he still knows the value of his abilities.
What is the difference between Pride and Pride? If you think about how pride differs from pride, then we can say that a proud person is positively directed towards others and their achievements. A person endowed with pride is more capable than others of being truly happy for others if they have achieved something, because she herself knows well the price of these successes. Often they look at such a person with admiration, and are ready to be equal to her. A person who has an excess of pride will never become a motivator for others, they will not be equal to him mainly because of the lack of honor and justice in him.
Signs of pride
To define the concept of pride, what it is, what are its signs, you do not need to be a particularly observant person. A proud person has an unshakable conviction that all around people are wrong and constantly make mistakes, and they try to instill in him their false, as he believes, beliefs. And only his point of view can be correct and truthful, and everyone around him must adapt to it. He believes that if the opinion of others is wrong, then they themselves are unreasonable people, it follows from this that if it is so that all others are unreasonable, then I am the smartest. And then there comes a moment of jubilation, he accuses others of stupidity, although he himself does not see what is really happening, that it is he who, with his boasting, looks stupid and narrow-minded.
A proud person creates a conditional hierarchical structure for the people around him, by which he judges them. At the top of this structure, of course, he himself stands, and no one will ever stand on the same level with him at the same time. And all the others are much lower than it, arranged according to certain criteria. It happens that such a person needs the help of others, in response he can offer his own help, but such help is insincere. You cannot count on a selfless act on his part. By helping someone, this person emphasizes his importance in the faces of other people.
Signs of pride in a person. A proud person often repeats that the world is nothing without him and other people cannot be complete without his society. Such inflated self-esteem, focus on one's own person are sure signs of pride, and the more a person thinks that no one can cope without him, the more he pushes everyone away from him. He is trying to attract all the attention to himself, so that in all conversations it was only about his person. He does this with the help of material objects (car, house), or, doing outrageous acts, the main thing is to be on everyone's lips after that.
A proud person tries to be independent in business, so that in case of successful activity, he himself will reap laurels. But, it happens that he cannot do without the help of others, then with difficulty, stepping over internal prohibitions, a person asks for help. But he does it in such a way that later he does not have any connections with this person and does not owe him anything.
A proud person always gives advice to everyone left and right, even when it is not required. Giving advice, he wants to be followed without fail and without fail, thereby strengthening his authority and superiority. By giving instructions to others how to live and act, a person fulfills his needs for management. He believes that he has a great worldly experience and can teach everyone how to live correctly. It is this trait that most annoys everyone around, because everyone has their own head on their shoulders and does not always need advice.
Also a sign of pride is hyperresponsibility. Such individuals are firmly convinced that everything that happens is their merit, and they try to show how much is entrusted to their shoulders. They are constantly reminded that everything is going smoothly only because they themselves are trying. They take on all the worries and believe that they are doing the right thing, but often no one needs such hyper-responsibility on their part.
People who have pride present themselves as a suffering person through worries taken upon themselves. They exaggerate their capabilities too much, then complain about fate, and about other people, how irresponsible they all are and how they can generally live in peace while he is so unhappy carrying his suffering cross.
A proud person always condemns the actions of others. It seems to Emu that everyone is doing the wrong thing and does not even think that this is not even his business at all. And he never misses an opportunity to point out to people their wrong actions, to show that they could have done differently. This one ignores any advice because he believes that people are trying to lead him.
People who are inherently proud consider themselves the smartest, but they can attribute diagnoses to others, label them and call names, considering this to be normal. All people owe them something. They expect their whims to be fulfilled, even before they have voiced them.
Proud individuals are incapable of sincere gratitude. If they think they have to thank the person, they do it in a very dry manner. Because they believe that to give thanks means to a certain extent to be dependent on someone, and consequently to be lower than him. There is a stamp in their heads that those who ask for something are inferior, helpless individuals. If they were rendered a service, then they perceive it in such a way that it should be so, that they should always be rendered services, especially disinterested ones.
Proud people are often guided by the rule "I came, I saw, I conquered." Their appearance in the company often looks like a performance on stage. The personality came to the company, went through the rehearsed scenario, criticized, offended, turned around and moved on. And what she left behind in the hearts of people does not bypass her.
Sometimes, the concepts of pride and vanity are used in the same way. Vanity, as well as pride, has the ability to develop into megalomania. Vanity gives a person the illusion of his own superiority. Such people are confident in their genius, beauty, they are very self-satisfied. Although often there is no superiority, on the contrary, there is spiritual baseness. A person does not see how his sense of dignity turns into a sense of insignificance. The desire to be above others is baseness, because the use of people for selfish personal purposes cannot be positive. Proud people are energy vampires, they feed on the energy of other people, their experiences. Proud people are looking for that weak spot of a person for which they can prick, cause suffering, resentment, and then they themselves remain in good mood such deeds are very low, insignificant.
Pride and vanity equally lead to the unhappiness of a person, and his isolation from the world.
How to get rid of pride
As experienced people say: "everything will pass, and this too." This rule also applies when a proud person comes to realize his actions, realistically evaluates them and sincerely says that he wants to change, and is looking for ways to deal with pride. A person who has lived for a long time in his own illusory world, where he was a king and a god, cannot immediately rebuild, he needs the help of others so that the process of getting rid of pride is effective and not so difficult.
There are several ways to get rid of pride. First, a person needs to understand that he is proud, not proud, often people confuse these concepts and misinterpret them in their behavior. After realizing the differences between pride and pride, a person should look for vices in himself and think about how to eradicate them. Many people think that it is very easy to do this, as if you can understand everything at once and not do it again. Very few people can really do this and change in an instant, but this requires a very strong will and a strong character so that even the thought of self-pity cannot arise.
A person needs to clearly understand the world and himself in it, to understand his true place. To see the real world and people, cast aside all your prejudices about them, stop criticizing, discussing other people and accept the fact that someone can actually be much better than him. The main thing is how it is, with all its oddities, pluses and minuses. Stop wasting your energy creating intrigues around you. To learn not only to accept help from other people, but also to give something in return, maintaining a balance in the nature of relationships.
To get rid of pride, a person needs to think about what good he can give people. Every person has a purpose, it must be found. It is required to carefully analyze oneself, come to self-knowledge, understand what inclinations there are, and then already act in a certain area of occupation and improve oneself in this area. When a person learns to spend his life energy correctly, then he will come to harmony with himself and with the world.
Opposite to pride are such qualities as humility, gratitude, honesty, philanthropy, diligence. If a person purposefully works on their development, he will be able to overcome all his vices.
If the techniques of internal conversation are used together with behavioral ones, then the result will be much greater and getting rid of pride will come faster.
How to get rid of pride and arrogance?
One of these techniques is the performance of work that a person considers low, dirty and unworthy of him. Being engaged in humiliating work, but in such a way that some people do every day, for example, work as a nurse, dishwasher, cleaning lady, the system is broken in the mind of a person. By doing this work several times, a person changes by himself, he becomes more mundane, the feeling of superiority decreases.
How to get rid of pride Orthodoxy. A bow will help a person get rid of pride. Bowing, as a physical action, but with a built-in deep meaning. When a person bows, he bends down, lowers his head in front of something. Worship is an expression of respect, reverence, humility and recognition. The more often a person bows, the faster he gets used to the fact that he recognizes others, bows to their personas as a token of gratitude, or respect. Also, a person should bow in prayer, purify his heart and thoughts.
A proud person needs to learn to carefully perceive the interlocutor, delve into what he is talking about and understand what emotions he has, accept his experiences, and show empathy. Having learned to listen to other people, their problems, their experiences, a person changes his attitude towards them, he understands that he was actually mistaken in a person and himself attributed other qualities to him.
To eradicate pride, you need to learn to thank people from the bottom of your heart. It doesn’t matter whether it’s friendly help, or advising the seller in the store, everyone needs to be thanked. Each person tries, spends his strength and time, and his work should be appreciated, and a sincere “thank you” will not take much time.
It is very difficult for a proud person to accept other people for who they are. He will either criticize them, or he will come up with their life story for them and will spread rumors. But such a person must come to terms with the fact that not all people are the same, everyone has their own characteristics and the world is built on this. And no one has the right to remake another person for themselves.
All of the above methods of how to deal with pride are effective if a person really realized that it was time for him to change, accepted his vices and was ready to improve.
