Can you really read people's minds? Of course yes. Psychologists use this knowledge in their work every day. How to learn this for an ordinary person, says psychotherapist Ekaterina Ignatova*.
Let's make a deal right now. Reading minds is a completely pointless exercise. Not a single self-respecting psychic, not a single fortuneteller, and even more so, not a single professional therapist reads other people's thoughts. All of them are guided by more reliable sources of information - the emotions and impulses of people. Chasing the running line of a person's stream of consciousness, you can get lost in the wilds of his bizarre logic, read - self-deception. Silly job. Let him get confused. And we will deal with what he feels here and now, analyze his non-verbal signals and, based on this, draw conclusions about how he will act in five minutes, a week or a month. In general, we will read people and enjoy it.
Trap for catcher
Most often, they want to know the thoughts of others because they experience wild anxiety, they are afraid: they will deceive, let them down, leave them, they will not respect, they will begin to despise, they will not love. It should be noted that it is impossible to see a person through the veil of doubt and uncertainty. Moreover, in such a state, one can easily demonize the interlocutor: to see in him something that is not there, and to be afraid of the sinister shadow of his own unconscious fears. Psychologists call them projections.
Projection is the main trap for the thought catcher. This simple mechanism works as follows. A person attributes to another his own unconscious feelings. For example, if he is afraid of being deceived, he will be sure that they want to deceive him. In the most advantageous offer that they make to him, he will see a catch. Most often, our psyche does this trick with us if the interlocutor resembles one of our close relatives - father, mother, sister, brother, grandmother or grandfather, who in our childhood clearly showed that people should not be trusted. The resemblance to them can manifest itself in one detail, for example, in the habit of squinting in a certain way, smoking, or addressing us with affected coldness. After we have projected the behavior of a relative onto the interlocutor, we are automatically thrown back into childhood. We begin to communicate not as two adults, but as a little girl with her father or mother.
calmness , only peace of mind!
To really see the interlocutor, you first need to think carefully about whether he reminds one of his relatives. Exhale and quietly mutter: "This is not my mother, this is Zhanna Ippolitovna Kryzhovnikova." And then reflect on what kind of anxiety this citizen can cause us. After that, it is worth starting a calm study of the interlocutor. Or an interlocutor.
In order to understand what is happening with another person, you need to learn how to listen to him correctly. Let's take the same story with a friend. For example, she tells a sad story: the betrothed-mummer did not call. What do we usually say? “What a moron! Yes, let him look for such a beauty. Although instead it would be better to say with an affirmative intonation: “You are upset.” At first glance, it may seem that nothing more banal can be invented. However, it is precisely this reaction that makes her friend understand: she is heard, understood and not condemned. It will be much easier for her to open up, so much so that she won’t have to read any thoughts - she will tell everything herself. It remains only to guess from time to time, to voice the feelings of a friend that will arise during her sad story. And also repeat the most important of the phrases she utters. For example, a friend says: “And when I called him for the fifth time, he spoke to me as if I were nobody and there was no way to call me.” In this case, you can answer: "You had the feeling that you were nobody and there was no way to call you." And do not slide into an angry sermon. The psychotherapeutic technique is called paraphrasing. Just like the first, it gives the interlocutor the opportunity to understand that he is being heard.
Of course, reading the thoughts and feelings of a girlfriend is not too difficult. However, it is in communication with her that it makes sense to train. In place of a friend, there may be another person - a boyfriend, a colleague, or even a boss. All of them will tell about themselves that in other cases they would prefer to hide.
Find ten differences
After we show the notorious empathy to the interlocutor and start listening correctly, he will relax. Now you can safely move on to reading and studying his non-verbal signals. Basically, it's not very tricky science: all body movements that a person makes are quite simple. The difficulty lies only in seeing the entire set of non-verbal signals - paying attention to the tempo of speech, voice timbre, facial expressions, gestures, and at the same time not forgetting to listen to what he says and also answer. By and large, learning this skill is like learning the science of driving. At first we see only the steering wheel, then the steering wheel and a piece of the road, then we manage to notice traffic lights and pedestrians, road signs and - lo and behold! — Cars coming from behind! You can easily guess that a person with a view no further than the steering wheel cannot be called a good driver. In the same way, someone who can notice a couple of non-verbal signals cannot be called a great specialist.
To understand what another person thinks, you need to learn to listen to him.
It should be noted that a signal taken out of context is generally not very informative. Take for example a very common gesture - stroking hair. In the first situation, a man is talking to a girl and runs his hand through his hair, rubbing the back of his head. What does this mean? Do not go to a fortuneteller - he likes the girl, he seduces her and sends an unambiguous non-verbal signal. Now let's imagine this person acting in exactly the same way when talking to his boss. The neophyte can easily conclude that our hero is gay or bisexual, trying to seduce the boss. And it will be fundamentally wrong. One and the same gesture can contain different messages. In the second situation, the man is simply nervous, cheers himself up by stroking his head, and in a very broad sense “seduces” the boss, that is, in other words, tries to please him. There is no sexual connotation.
Yes? No!
Non-verbal signals are very different, for the most part they tell others about a certain feeling that a person is experiencing (see Without words. - Approx. ed.). However, there are also those indicating his agreement or disagreement. Moreover, it often happens: a person claims one thing, but with the help of facial expressions and gestures, he broadcasts something completely different. Such behavior does not mean at all that a person wants to deceive. It is likely that he sincerely believes in what he says, and in this moment deceives himself. For example, if the interlocutor says the phrase: “Of course, I will definitely come” - and at the same time he barely noticeably turns his head to the right and left, and also leans back in his chair, he most likely is not going to do this. If the person we are talking to starts talking faster or otherwise increases the distance - steps back half a step, moves away - this, apparently, means: he non-verbally disagrees with us. Although in some cases this shows that he wants to change the subject, the subject of conversation is unpleasant for him. If the body of the interlocutor leans forward, he nods - he is interested in the conversation and with a high probability will agree to the proposal.
These are the pies
Why do people often act inconsistently? Why do they need it? The fact is that in each of us there are different subpersonalities that cannot always come to a compromise. Those of us who want to read people like an open book must take this fact into account. The American psychologist Eric Berne wrote that the Child coexists in a person - our idea of what we were like in childhood. The parent is a collective image, a kind of sketch of the parents, and the Adult is the calm and reasonable manager of our life. When, for example, we promise someone to come to a party, we start from the position of the inner Child who wants to have fun. However, at some point, our Parent takes the reins of government and forbids us to go anywhere on the eve of the exam.
Studying the interlocutor, it is very important to see in him the inner Child, that is, his immediate part, responsible for emotions, spontaneity and vitality. To cope with the task, you can simply try to imagine what this person was like in childhood. Or ask him a few questions on the subject. And then imagine how his parents treated the interlocutor, how attentive, understanding or strict they were. It is the derivative of this attitude - to others and to oneself - that a person will relay for the rest of his life.
Start with yourself
Be that as it may, any person interested in reading thoughts or emotions should begin by studying himself. Become aware of your own non-verbal signals, feel different subpersonalities, observe them. Only by thoroughly studying himself, he will be able to understand what is happening with others. And, of course, in this case it is impossible to do without love. If we do not like what we are going to study, there will hardly be a result. In general, misanthropes are not allowed to enter this field of knowledge.
Any who is interested in mind reading should start by studying himself
Without words
Basic non-verbal signals and their interpretation.
- seduction- nose, hair, area around the lips.
- Anxiety- any of the same type of repetitive movements: tapping the foot, snapping the fingers.
- strong emotion , in particular fear- swallowing.
- Aggression- clenched fists, clenched teeth, tense jaws, narrowed eyes.
- Uncertainty- shrug, fast pace of speech, higher-than-usual voice timbre.
- Lie- eyes up and to the left, the hand covers the mouth or wraps around the neck from behind, the pace of speech accelerates, the timbre of the voice becomes higher, appears in the story a large number of extra details.
What to watch?
 |
Paul Ekman, The Psychology of Lies
|
 |
Yu.B. Gippenreiter, “Communicate with the child. How?"
|
 |
Gary Chapman, The Five Love Languages
|
 |
Everett Shostrom, Manipulator
|
Photo: Fotobank(1), East News(1)
Fascinatingly…
It would be interesting to read more, send me an email.
OK
We have sent a confirmation email to your email.
Telepathic abilities are inherent in the nature of every person. Some may need only a few months to develop, while others may take many years of training. It all depends on the regularity of practices, perseverance and natural inclinations. Success is achieved only if you work hard on yourself. In this article we will talk about how to learn to read people's minds.
Since ancient times, people have sought to master the superpower of reading the thoughts of the people around them. A gladiator engaged in a duel to the death would give a lot to penetrate the thoughts of an opponent. A commander who is trying to predict at what time and from which side to expect a blow from the enemy would not refuse the opportunity to find out the thoughts of the officers about the plan of attack. What can we say about a jealous wife, she certainly wants to know what “things” are holding her husband after a working day!
How you can learn to read minds: a technique
People who have mastered some of the skills of telepathy can give a lot of advice and even develop their own training program. Therefore, there are many methods. However, the essence of each of the methods is reduced to one. Telepathy, i.e. reading thoughts at a distance is an energy exchange of information. If we summarize all the recommendations and training systems, then the only conclusion suggests itself: you can learn how to read minds by learning a few principles.
- Any thought that is born in a person's head turns into an energy flow and becomes part of the information field of the earth. It does not matter whether the thought was expressed in words or not.
- A person who is able to tune himself to receive energy information signals and is able to transform them into a dictionary form is considered a telepath. The telepath acts like a receiver.
If these theses are taken as common ground, then we can say with confidence that it is real to learn how to read the thoughts of other people only by feeling prana in yourself, i.e. the energy of the information field of the planet. How to learn to read the thoughts of others with the help of prana? Yoga and various workouts will help develop the skill of receiving prana.
One way to train the reception of prana looks like this:
- Relax completely, try to distract yourself from all your affairs and forget about things that bother you.
- Sit in the lotus position. It is with the help of this posture that one can contribute to the concentration of internal energy.
- Try to imagine energy floating around you, then let the energy in, absorb it, and merge with it. Some people think of this energy as heat seeping in, others think of it as bright rays of the sun.
After you learn how to let in and receive informational energy with the help of training, it's time to train your telepathic abilities. You will need an assistant for these workouts. The assistant should try to convey the thought to you, and your task is to receive and read it. So, thanks to the assistant, you will learn in practice how to read other people's thoughts. It is worth choosing only the person whom you consider the most worthy. It is necessary to enter into a telepathic connection with another person only in good health and emotional calm. If you treat this with disdain, you risk harming yourself and your helper. Never drink alcohol or caffeine before telepathic communication.
The workout looks like this:
- You and your assistant sit opposite each other in the lotus position.
- Then you tune in to receive informational energy, into which your assistant's thoughts will be transformed.
- If you treat training responsibly and learn to accept informational energy, then the energy of your assistant will easily penetrate your mind and transform into words.
Be careful! The development of telepathic abilities is a rather dangerous occupation. The person who has the ability to read other people's minds is responsible for its use. Do not use telepathic practices for selfish purposes or to settle scores with your enemies. Use the developed abilities as you like, just do not harm others, otherwise you will not avoid retribution. In addition, in order to learn how to read minds, you need to be able to properly use the acquired power.
It is very important for a telepath to have complete self-control. Otherwise, under the influence of random emotions telepathic abilities may harm others. In order to learn how to control your emotions, you must perform the following exercise:
- Think about something that does not cause you any emotions and focus on this thought. For example, about the weather outside, a book you recently read, or a show you saw. Remember that you should not have any emotions.
- Then abruptly switch your mind to an object that can cause a powerful emotional reaction in you. For example, problems at work, relationships with loved ones.
- After that, switch back to completely neutral thoughts.
By using this exercise you will be able to establish control over your emotions and learn to forcefully get rid of negative thoughts.
It is possible to receive information not only from people, but also from objects. To do this, take the object you need in your hand, send a stream of energy into it and return it back. Thus, various images will begin to appear in your mind. The subject is able to convey to you all the accumulated information. This method was often used by the famous Bulgarian clairvoyant Vanga.
If you learn to read a person's thoughts, then you can ... oh, you can do anything. In any case, those who dream of being able to read the minds of other people think so. But if you think about it, how much will we really get together with reading a person’s thoughts? The ability to manipulate people, the ability to find an approach to them, to be able to communicate with them correctly? Hardly. For one simple reason - we often do not understand ourselves and our thoughts, let alone the fact that someone could extract from them at least something worthwhile for themselves, on which they could play. Our thoughts are often a chaotic set of rationalizations and excuses, and even indictments for those who are unpleasant to us. And this, in fact, is all.
Why does a person want to learn to read other people's minds?
What do people generally think about? What do these thoughts represent?
Why, even if it were possible to acquire the ability to read other people's minds, it would not bring the desired effect?
Is it possible to learn to understand a person, what drives him, his desires and his preferences in life, his psychotype?
The desire to read the thoughts of other people slips at some point in life for many. No, probably in the world of a child who would not want to eavesdrop on the thoughts of a teacher at school or parents. This interest is especially evident when we first realize that what we say does not always coincide with what we really think. Sometimes we lie, sometimes we don’t say anything, we hide something, we embellish reality. And naturally we guess that this is exactly what all other people do: but we would so like to know the truth.
In fact, the desire to eavesdrop on the thoughts of other people is built on a simple misunderstanding of the formation of thought itself. After all, it is in our thoughts that we form a deception in order to lie later. Similarly, with all other thoughts - they are always the result of our desires, and not vice versa.
They say "what a sober man has on his mind, a drunk man has on his tongue." This phenomenon is connected with the fact that alcohol disinhibits a person's psyche, removes cultural restrictions from him, and he can say or do something that he would never say when he is sober. As a rule, his drunken words will come as a surprise to himself, because while he was sober, all this did not occur to him - his psyche was hidden for himself. At least he didn't admit it to himself.
And yet, the longed-for dream of eavesdropping on other people's thoughts has been living among people for centuries. Naively, it seems to us that if we could read the minds of other people, then everything would change. We could do what we want and not do what we don't want. There are even many attempts to implement such a scenario in books and cinema.
How to learn to read other people's minds? What an absurdity!
Today, humanity suffers from a strange disease: we really want something, the meaning of which we understand little or do not know at all. As a result, we begin to dream about something that actually carries absolutely nothing in itself, like a soap bubble.
For example, we would like to travel to other planets to find other life there. And the desire to know and read the thoughts of other people is akin to this. We dream about what we know nothing about. Moreover, if we thought about the meaning and meanings of what we want, we would easily understand that all these are empty thoughts, thoughts that in 99% of cases are very mundane and relate to the pressing problems of a person, the desire to eat, drink, breathe, sleep .
In essence, if you know and understand the human psyche, you can understand his inner component from a single word, movement, posture, facial expressions and without eavesdropping on his thoughts. But this is studied not from the outside, but from the inside - through subconscious meanings. Understanding a person, his condition and his mood, we can unravel him and even ... predict actions and train of thought. And in this case, not only the rationalizations and justifications that fill his head, but also those that guide him, his actions, which make him make purchases, make this or that choice.
Eavesdropping on the thoughts of another person in this regard is quite simple. Touching the thoughts of another, we can become not only incomprehensible, but also unpleasant. We don't understand them. But what you can get real pleasure from is the ability to understand the human soul.
How to learn to understand another person, and not read his thoughts?
The desire to read the thoughts of another person is usually built on the desire to manipulate the other person, to get some kind of benefit for himself. And to a lesser extent, it is an interest in arranging someone else's soul. In principle, there is nothing wrong with this - we want to get the most out of life.
Today there is already real knowledge about the human psyche, which makes it possible for a person not to manipulate others, but to feel happiness and joy because of the opportunity to understand people, to know much more about them than they themselves know. We are talking about the system-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan. In the training, a person's desires are revealed in opposites, which makes them very easy to understand for any person.
With knowledge of system-vector psychology, there is no need to try to eavesdrop on the thoughts of another person. Such interest disappears literally after the first training sessions, because it becomes obvious that a person's thoughts are just the surface of an iceberg. And those depths that his soul keeps, where no one has ever looked, are much more interesting. Moreover, understanding other people, we begin to understand ourselves and our own thoughts, distinguish their meanings and understand how to achieve exactly what we ourselves want. And this is worth a lot!
I would like to know - .
In addition to manipulators and others who want to influence people, there are people with a stuck (paranoid) character and hidden fears, anxiety, suspiciousness and suspicions ...
Such a person wants to know what and how people think, what they think about ... He thinks that how to read minds, so people will be under his power, and nothing threatens him ...
Today, on the site, you will find out: is it possible and how to read people's minds, And what you need to do…
How to read people's minds
In order to find out how to read people's minds, first you need to determine what “thought” is in general, and how a person thinks ... how the thought process goes on in a separate individual - in particular.Thought is a product of human thinking, i.e. activities of the mind, consciousness and subconscious.
Thoughts can be verbal (verbal) and non-verbal (in the form of images, pictures and representations). Most of a person's thoughts are accompanied by emotions and feelings, both positive and negative (depending on the thought itself).
Depending on the type of thinking (figurative, objective, verbal-logical ...), certain thoughts are formed in people. Every thought can take the form of ideas, judgments, inferences, beliefs, rules, assumptions, attitudes, and beliefs...
At one point in time, a whole stream of thoughts can go through the head, most of which are not realized by the person himself. That's why, to learn to read other people's minds, for starters, it's a good idea to learn how to read your own.
In fact, literally read people's minds, in the form in which they flow in the brain of the thinker himself - no one knows how (the thinker himself is often confused in his own thoughts).
In other words, to learn to read other people's minds, You need to learn to observe people, or rather, observe what information they convey to you, both in words and posture, facial expressions and gestures, tone of voice and articulation, behavior and emotions, as well as physiological, vegetative reactions (reddening, change in breathing, heartbeat, etc.).
Those people who manipulate, deceive others, use fraud and rule - they cannot read minds, but they are well aware of the subconscious desires and needs of people (in a word, weaknesses), they know how to put their thoughts into your brain ... and you will already think like this , as they need ... which means they will know your thoughts ... (that's the whole secret).
Superpowers - something from the realm of fantasy, often comics. When people are asked for fun what kind of extraordinary ability they would like to have, there are some of the most common answers. We chose telepathy as the topic of our article. So how do you learn to read minds? Let's take a look at several approaches to this problem.
Telepathy: term and modern meaning
Reading people's minds is called telepathy. This term is of Greek origin, it means "to feel at a distance." Modern meaning concepts reflects ancient ideas about the ways and levels of information exchange between people.
So, telepathy is the ability to transmit and perceive the thoughts and feelings of people without their direct (material) manifestation. The ability for it was attributed to the Egyptian priests, the wise men of the East and other special sections of the population of ancient civilizations. People belonging to many sacred cults often chose such a way of understanding the people as learning to read the thoughts of others.
Is it possible to penetrate the thoughts of others?
It is difficult to believe in the reality of telepathic abilities. Manifestations of the ability to read thoughts around us everywhere. Everyone at least once in their life has encountered a mysterious situation when the state of another person becomes clear to us without words or actions.
Most simple examples penetration into thoughts is a relationship between close people. A mother intuitively knows what her child needs and what he is doing now. Lovers guess each other's desires in order to make a pleasant surprise. official science recognized that married couples who have been married for a long time, most effectively use the acquired skills to understand each other's thoughts. At the same time, there is no reliable real data on how to quickly learn to read minds. So far, such knowledge is part of the mystical doctrines.
Ways to solve the problem
You can penetrate the thoughts of others, understand what they feel and think, in different ways. The path to knowledge lies through two roads: paranormal (mystical) perception and psychological interpretation
Of particular interest, traditional, is the supernatural understanding of the thoughts of strangers. It is impossible to speak specifically about telepathy: it is difficult to record evidence of it. The faith of people in it is almost equal to the children's faith in fairy tales and UFOs.
telepathy theory
People's knowledge of telepathic abilities has acquired some theoretical provisions. So, there is even a conditional classification of ways to read people's thoughts. In accordance with it, telepathy is sensual and conceivable.
Sensual telepathy is the one that manifests itself involuntarily. It is not controlled by the "reader" and to a greater extent arises as a special emotional wave. That is, the main difference between such perception is the spontaneous feeling of the emotions of another person.
Thinking telepathy is based on a directed desire to be imbued with the sensations of a chosen person.
The science of how to learn to read people's minds
Researchers of such a phenomenon as telepathy claim that many people possess this ability to one degree or another on an intuitive level. This concerns sensual telepathy: a person may not even assume that at some point he will understand what his work colleague or soulmate is thinking about.
Scientists also delight those who are interested in how to learn to read people's minds. Ability can be developed in both directions: sensual and mental. In order to master the skills of reading minds, it is important to be healthy physically and mentally. You will also need a powerful reserve of psychic energy.
How to learn to read minds: what to work with?
Reading other people's thoughts is based on the fact that the neurons of the brain emit streams of positive or negative charges. They are, in essence, signals sent to the world. To understand what a person is thinking, you need to catch these signals and decipher them.
Let's get back to science. Interestingly, according to the assurances of Eastern scientists, a separate part of the brain - the pineal gland - is responsible for telepathy. It is also depicted in sacred drawings as the "third eye". The walls of Buddhist temples are full of them.
To understand how to learn to read other people's thoughts, let's turn to the practice of Buddhists. They spend a significant part of the day working on themselves, meditating and studying spiritual works. Having gone through this, you can open the same "third eye". However, do not assume that such an activity is like a vacation. To develop the paranormal, including telepathic abilities, you need to prepare to work hard.
Psychology to the rescue
In addition to understanding the train of thought of a person in a supernatural way, you can learn about him by external manifestations. Psychology during its existence has collected an impressive stock of knowledge for interpreting facial expressions, gestures, and human behavior. The results are sometimes amazing.
Physiognomy deals with the interpretation of emotions and thoughts of a person by facial expression. It will help you both learn to read minds and hide your own, which is an invaluable skill. The position of the eyebrows, the curve of the lips, the expression of the eyes, and many other features and movements of parts of the face express certain emotions. They can be bright and barely perceptible. In the aggregate of all movements, facial expressions represent a more or less complete picture.
Next to physiognomy there is always an expressive language of gestures. The movements of the hands, the position of the legs, the turn of the head - all these are signals sent by a person and indicate what he is thinking about at the moment.
Now we have a choice of how we can learn to read minds: by developing paranormal abilities in ourselves or by studying psychology. Each of the methods is effective and deserves attention. Telepathy, as is commonly believed, requires a special gift.
Summary
How to learn to read other people's minds? How to understand people without words and the slightest signs? This superpower makes us want to possess it and use it in everyday affairs. No matter how many omissions, problems came to naught with her help!
Telepathy, or as we have learned, the ability to sense emotions and understand other people's thoughts, comes in many forms. It is customary to distinguish two types: conceivable and sensual. Their main difference is that the first happens consciously, the second - spontaneously.
Indulging in spiritual labors and meditations, studying the meaning of facial expressions and gestures, one can come to desired result: understand how to learn to read other people's thoughts and master this skill. It remains only to wish patience and enthusiasm!
