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"WHAT ARE THE PARENTS FOR THE CHILD"
Mother for a child.
Hello, dear parents, today we will talk with you on the topic "Mother for a child"Why do you think a child needs a mother?
This question - why does a child need a mother, is probably the most important, but it is the least often asked by parents who are thinking about the birth of a new family member. The mother is not just a source of satisfaction of the needs of the child, she is precisely the means and way of building oneself and ideas about the world. About how this world is for me, how it treats me, what to expect from it. And these functions of the mother in the development of the world by the child are constantly changing, and in the direction of complication. First, the child completely "merges" with the mother, as if using her to understand himself, his states, their assessment (what is good and what is bad?). Then the child begins to “separate”, and this is also a gradual and very complex process, and most importantly, “partial”. The child builds his integrity, as it were, in parts, finally “collecting” himself only by adolescence. This process occurs most intensively before the age of three, but begins already at the end of the first six months of life. It is at this age (up to three years) that the main figure in which the World is embodied is the mother. Later, others "help" her.
While the union and the first stages of separation are taking place, the roles of mother and father (and other close adults) are almost the same. All of them "unite" in the position of the mother, thus creating a more "diverse picture of the world" for the child. Of course, this world must necessarily be stable, because it is only still being built by the child himself (that is, they must be permanent adults, and not often changing). So far, there is no significant difference in the construction of themselves and the world by boys and girls. But later it appears, that is, the role of the mother for children of different sexes becomes not the same. For girls after three years, the main task is to master the sex role. For her, her mother is a model, that part of the world that needs to be “tried on for herself”, and at the same time everything connected with this: the attitude of the other sex (father to mother and to her as a future woman and mother), the attitude of children (doll - model of the child, in relation to which the girl plays the role of a mother, as her mother - to herself).
Boys at this age have a sincere, tender love for their mother, they are very touchy and jealous of their “competitors” (father, mother's friends, their brothers and sisters, and even other people's children). No less sensitive than girls, they perceive and assimilate the model of marital relations. For them, caress, sympathy from the mother are important - and recognition of their "manhood" at the same time.
Thus, a child always needs a mother, at any age, and always “in different ways”, but this difference is expressed not in a quantitative dimension, but in a qualitative one.
What role does a father play in a child's life? Dad for a child.
In our culture, the family consists of a father, mother and their children, and the roles of both parents in raising children are not the same. Like a mother, a child always needs a father, and at each age “in different ways”. Of course, it is easier to replace a father in any of his roles in relation to a child than a mother; there is a wider opportunity to partially or completely fulfill this role for other men in the family and outside the family. However, now we are talking about the father "in general." At the first stages of a child's development, the father can take on some of the maternal functions, performing them, of course, in his own way. His own role, different from that of the mother, is to protect and protect the unity of the mother with the child, to provide them with confidence, calmness, support, psychological comfort. It seems to create a rear, against which the child feels the world is strong and benevolent, and himself calm and confident in it.
Somewhat later, the father becomes the standard social norms and rules, it embodies the functions of a “demander”, “evaluator”, it supports the child in an effort to follow these rules. No less important is his role as a protector, and mainly from external influences in relation to the family. At the same time, the father performs another important function. It contributes to the personal formation of the child, his separation from the mother, both mother and child. He becomes a "third force" helping the child to build a new world separate from his mother. Even later (after three years), the father embodies the model of sexual, family and social role men. Here, its functions for a boy and a girl begin to differ. The boy first perceives him as a model of his future role in relation to his mother (which embodies the image of his future wife, the mother of his children). In this case, the father becomes a hypothetical competitor, jealousy towards him is possible and legitimate. Later, for a boy, a father is a model of a man in society. Well, of course, he always remains a model of the role of the father, which the boy will someday fulfill himself.
Who do you think is the father of girls?
For a girl, a father is someone who first loves her, but in a different way than her mother, and then loves her "like a mother." It is important for her that her father sees and appreciates in her the same qualities that, as she herself sees, he appreciates in her mother (femininity, coquetry, gentleness, and, of course, motherhood - the ability to give birth and raise children). IN preschool age a girl may be jealous of her father for her mother. Later, she "trying on" his image on her friends and potential partners. Of course, her father always remains her protector and connoisseur of her developing femininity.
Thus, the functions of the father and mother for the child are at first almost the same, then they begin to differ, and the further, the more. However, both parents are needed at any age. One thing is clear. A child absolutely needs parents, apparently even more than he needs them.
If you like psychological tests, then this one will definitely interest you. It is designed in such a way that depending on the result, people are divided into two categories. Each of them has its own characteristics. Look at the picture and say who the mother of this baby is. And maybe then you will learn a lot about yourself. Forward!
The choice fell on the woman on the left (in a red dress)?
If you decide that the baby's mother is on the left, then you belong to the majority of the inhabitants of the planet. 70% of people who take this test think she looks more mature and serious. Agree, they want to see a mature woman in the image of a mother. Unfortunately, we have to disappoint you. Is not right choice. The real mother is on the right. Although the choice is wrong, but this is also the result.
Features of your personality:
- If you chose this woman as the correct answer, then in life you focus more on details. But at the same time, try to appreciate the whole picture. You are able to push the rigid limits of the rules and implement your own vision of the situation.
- Another feature of your personality type is the ability to communicate freely with big amount of people. You are not shy about saying your point of view, even if everyone else says otherwise. You are the center of the company, but you also love and appreciate those moments when you can be alone.
- A sense of empathy for others and a desire to help your friends at any moment make you a true friend.
The choice fell on the woman on the right?
This is the correct answer. Many studies of child behavior have shown that when playing, babies always turn to face their mother. This happens on a subconscious level. Thus, the child wants to receive her approval and praise. There is another version of this behavior of children. Babies try not to lose sight of their mother, so they often glance in her direction.
Features of your personality:
- You belong to the 30% of those people who rely more on logic and rational thinking when making a choice. Emotions rarely get the better of you. Most decisions are made by the head, not the heart.
- You are not one of those who at the first meeting will tell about yourself all the details. You try to keep information to yourself more and share less with people around you.
It turns out that a simple picture can reveal many secrets of our personality. So, without much effort, the FBI will find out all the secrets. Do you agree with the test result?
The psychological test is based on what we choose with our attitudes and beliefs. In this test, the main thing is to make a choice and it will tell you very accurately about you, you yourself will be surprised.
Take a simple test, the picture below shows two women and a child who is playing nearby. You need to choose a woman who you feel is the mother of the child. Having made a choice, try to explain the reasons for this particular choice.
If you chose the woman on the right
About 70% of people believe that the woman on the right is the mother of the child. Most likely you were prompted to this decision appearance women: neatly tied hair, the position of the legs and arms, in general, inspires peace.
People who choose this option tend to be creativity but rarely use them to the point of exhaustion. They are excellent listeners, they know how to ask leading questions and can easily lead you to the most unexpected (for you) end of the discussion.
Such people have a well-developed sense of responsibility, they are observant, notice the slightest mood swings and quickly navigate in a situation where someone needs help.
If you chose the woman on the left
Only 30% of people choose this option. And these people are very interesting, well-read, with well-developed intuition. They are always looking for something that can explain the situation logically, and they never make hasty decisions. Rest assured, their every step has already been weighed and thought out by them long before you knew about it.
People who choose this option are distinguished by a rare ability to be reliable friends. They can equally sincerely sympathize with you and rejoice for you. The personal qualities of such people are very different, and the good in them, by the way, outweighs.
Such people are very sensitive parents, they know how to educate in children (and in themselves) positive thinking, resilience, the ability to approach conflicts with "cold" thoughts. To be in the close circle of such a person means to get a chance to learn a lot.
The answer will tell a lot about you and your character.
Any psychological test is based on one simple mechanism - thinking determines the choice. It seems to us that we are just choosing the color of the wardrobe, drawing polygons and looking for associations in blots, but in fact we are making a choice, a simple choice that will tell even more about us than we want to know about ourselves.
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If you chose the woman on the right
About 70% of people believe that the woman on the right is the mother of the child. Most likely, the appearance of a woman pushed you to this decision: neatly collected hair, the position of the legs and arms, which in general inspires peace.
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People who choose this option tend to be creative, but rarely use it to the point of exhaustion. They are excellent listeners, they know how to ask leading questions and can easily lead you to the most unexpected (for you) end of the discussion.
Such people have a well-developed sense of responsibility, they are observant, notice the slightest mood swings and quickly navigate in a situation where someone needs help.
If you chose the woman on the left
Only 30% of people choose this option. And these people are very interesting, well-read, with well-developed intuition. They are always looking for something that can explain the situation logically, and they never make hasty decisions. Rest assured, their every step has already been weighed and thought out by them long before you knew about it.
People who choose this option are distinguished by a rare ability to be reliable friends. They can equally sincerely sympathize with you and rejoice for you. The personal qualities of such people are very different, and the good in them, by the way, outweighs.
Such people are very sensitive parents, they know how to educate in children (and in themselves) positive thinking, resilience, the ability to approach conflicts with "cold" thoughts. To be in the close circle of such a person means to get a chance to learn a lot.
Tests are useful for developing our skills, they can reveal a lot about your personality, in the process of testing you test your intuition, says Porquenosemeocurrio.
Remember: the decisions you make every day say a lot about your lifestyle and how you see the world around you.
Look at the picture, you see two women, they are sitting and looking at each other, while a child is playing in the center. It's very simple, give the answer: who real mother child?
Think as much as you need, analyze and decide.
Ready to know the truth?
If you chose the woman on the right...
So you made the wrong choice, like 70% of the rest of the respondents. Your answer shows that you have impressive abilities, your ideas are fresh, original and attractive. You are a creative person with a good imagination.
You know how to listen and also make great suggestions. Your friends need you because there is a lot of wisdom in your words, and you know how to inspire someone who is discouraged. You are sensitive. You can be called a mature person and very focused. You have an incredible personality!
If you chose the woman on the left...
Congratulations - you have great intuition. Only 30% of those who took this test were able to correctly answer the question.
Your choice shows that you never give up, you are always looking for the best solution to a problem and you are not afraid of obstacles, because by overcoming them you grow.
You try to see the positive in everything, you are not afraid to take risks and change something, although you always prefer to analyze every detail, because you do not want to make all possible mistakes along the way.
First you think, and then you act, trying not to offend anyone. You are enterprising, but sometimes your inherent perfectionism takes over because you are also demanding.
You know your strengths and try to use them to the fullest. You are a good friend, so you will always be surrounded by friends who can trust and rely on you.
Correct answer:
The woman on the right sits with straightened legs, as if defending herself, while the child usually turns to face the mother during the game. We see these two signs in the picture.
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