It contributes to the formation of our desires, the achievement of goals and getting satisfaction from them. Unfortunately, it can also greatly distort our perception of reality, leading us astray from our own path and leading us in circles. One of the reasons is the involvement in a variety of objects, phenomena, circumstances and people.
How to gum
Emotional involvement means that we do not remain indifferent, but rather, so involved in various situations that this is surprising. After all, at first glance, they do not seem so significant to us.
We can say that we move in the flow of life and constantly encounter situations in which we get stuck. You can even say, to which we stick, like chewing gum. Obviously, each such situation can cause a whole cascade of experiences. Strong experiences are not very good, because in them we lose control and take actions that are not easy to justify to ourselves. Moreover, strong experiences invariably affect our entire lives, and this is not what we really need.
Since childhood and naturally
It all starts, of course, in childhood. The child needs emotional attachment to parents and if they are cold towards him, then the child is unlikely to grow up psychologically healthy.
That is, in itself, emotional attachment is natural and necessary in many cases, especially in relation to relatives and friends.
This, by the way, is very well understood by PR-specialists who use the appropriate images in advertising. For example, images of children, loving spouses, old parents.
Employers, singing morning hymns, are trying to create a family from the team and get deep emotional attachments to work.
In general, there is nothing terrible in all this. The trouble starts when we get too involved. For example, in the office it is nice to feel a sense of comradeship and the readiness of colleagues to help, but, say, sacrificing your future for the sake of devotion to your work is probably not worth it. But it happens.
In cinemas, people cry, laugh, clench their fists for the main character. It's all emotional involvement. Some of them will meet their villain after the session and try to defeat him. And possibly hurt.
What's wrong with emotional involvement?
Excessive emotional involvement suggests that our personality is too susceptible to external influences. Our emotions easily override the voice of reason, and we, like a hungry dog, follow the situation. Another emotional involvement, as a rule, speaks of weakness critical thinking and the ability to make decisions independently.
Something you are doing right
realworkhard / PixabayEngagement says that you are doing something right in terms of your values, this is a reaction to them. Values are what you believe to be true and form your frame of reference. But their most important characteristic is awareness. Unconscious value is not a value, but an attitude instilled in childhood. All of them must be reconsidered when you enter the adult world. Attitudes are the world of our parents. Maybe they will suit us, or maybe not at all.
How to reduce your emotional involvement
If we are emotionally involved in something, then it is important to us. We are always able to see an increase in our emotional background in response to some external stimuli. So just look at exactly what situation it happens in. And, of course, ask yourself the question, why exactly do I care so much?
Understand
Thus, in order to reduce emotional involvement, you must first identify it and ask yourself what is happening.
Why do I need it?
Tell yourself that you are an independent adult person who does not give in to the first impulse, and does not break like an autumn leaf in the wind, at the first emotional urge. Stop yourself and mentally isolate yourself from the situation. Your self-esteem allows you to do this. At this moment, address yourself to yourself “What is happening to me now?”, “What am I doing right now?”, “What am I going to do right now?”, “Why do I need this?”.
“Reduce” the situation
Try to "reduce" the situations in which you "stick". Everything changes, the problems will end, everything will pass as always. Therefore, do not attach too much importance to everything.
Give value to yourself
Give more importance to yourself. - No person in the world can be higher than you, because you are a significant person and you can choose how to react. And, if someone emotionally asks for help, it means that he needs something from you, and this is his problem. Are you ready to make someone else's problem your own?
You come first
Business is like a baby. When he has problems, it's your problems. You take them as your own.
When people say they're leaving in 2 weeks. Or not in two weeks, but already. And leave you bare-assed.
When people promise to do something and don't do it. Or they screw up something. And leave you bare-assed.
When people shift responsibility onto each other like hot cakes, leaving you with the same bare ass.
You live by these problems, you live by this responsibility, but also by the successes that come with it. This is called "emotional involvement".
Problems and responsibility are usually not visible from the outside - good luck and results are visible. And you live, basically, with problems. There is not much time for celebrating good luck - we all grow, develop, run, and each success is followed by a new stream of challenges that give rise to new problems and new responsibilities.
And at some point, emotional involvement becomes difficult to bear. There are more people, more cases, more problems and more responsibility, respectively. At some point, another person comes to you with a smile and tells you some other problem. And that's it. Stop. We've arrived. You take a step back - like Enelpers show an exit to the third position, in order to look at yourself from the side - and you say to yourself: here I am, and here is the business. Business is no longer inside you, not an integral part of you, but a separate independent entity. Emotionally withdraw from the business. When they come to you with another problem, you no longer perceive it as personal. Otherwise, you will burn right here, on the spot.
And business becomes a machine for the production of money, and the problem, the threat to business, is just an element of this machine. If this problem leads to the fact that the business will no longer bring you the minimum necessary money, you will close it. You just close stupidly, and that's it. If it doesn't, then fine. The most rational way of control is turned on, without any emotions, according to formulas. Build people for the system, not the system for people. System and order.
But stop! After all, the business of this very emotional involvement was good. And when people didn’t do what needed to be done – they didn’t do it out of malicious intent or spitting towards the company – no, they are also emotionally involved in the company’s activities and also root for it, for its interests. They may just have a slightly different idea of these interests. Moreover, the stronger, the more important people are more important- the more they are independent, the more they have their own ideas about the interests of business, about what is right and what is wrong to do. They are fucking smart! What and valuable.
Or you try to go back. There, where everything was small and there were few problems, where one could afford full emotional involvement. Where you were young So far, no one has been able to go back in time.
Or you will go further ahead and part ways with the very people who have been the essence of the business until now. And then you yourself will leave, your time will come very quickly. A business will go further, already with completely different people, and without any emotional involvement, of course. Management science teaches us that this is how it always happens - a company either goes this way or dies.
Here, in theory, there should be a spectacular ending about the fact that our development model will allow us, both the fish and the Christmas tree, to maintain emotional involvement without stopping development. Most likely, this is not entirely true. But we'll try. :) How exactly is a topic for another discussion.
Emotions-feelings-living - this is how our Master designated the dominant manifestations of the emotional-sensory body in each counterpart of experience.
Emotions are the fuel for the revitalization of the self-consciousness. Thoughts about myself and about the relationship of someone or something with me would be just empty if they did not cause an emotional response and involvement.
Some traditions simply do not allow followers into their ranks whose main way of responding is emotional. It was considered the "lowest" of all available to man. In a sense - overlapping the ability to learn. The seriousness of the seeker was sometimes determined by such criteria as the absence of a preponderance either in the direction of emotions, or in the direction of excessive intellectualization.
Emotions close the way to understanding, knowledge - wise teachers used to say.
Emotional outbursts lead to irrational expenditure of energy - its excessive loss. I have not a single problem, life task, just relationships were not resolved effectively and rationally when I was overwhelmed by emotional response.
The absurdity and uselessness of emotional involvement in the virtual world is especially visible - which I clearly saw in my example here on the site. This is the height of madness - to respond emotionally to invisible interlocutors, or rather not to them - but to the intentions that you attributed to them. I am sitting here, at the table, in front of the laptop - in comfort and coziness. And the emotions and the body seem to be participating in battles - engaging in imaginary battles with invisible mental opponents. For the sake of what and in the name of what to make this shake-up for the body, to create this artificial stress reaction?
Of course, if an emotional discharge does not occur in someone’s life, then such an alternative in the form of splashing out an emotional charge here on the site is very good way achieve this same discharge. Another thing is that this method only strengthens the world of an imaginary character.
I fully agree with Ngo-Ma, who realized that the maximum that can be achieved on the site is the understanding of the view. Removing from deep clues, living the teachings on experience is possible only at a personal meeting.
Therefore, seeing the constant running of a squirrel in a wheel - namely, emotional involvement in ghostly battles, which did not help self-exploration in any way - I left the site.
In my deepest conviction, the movement of understanding, awareness and true self-exploration is possible only where there is an atmosphere of acceptance and you allow yourself to feel, take risks, explore and open deep hooks and fixations, which are sometimes very painful. Here, in an unsafe atmosphere, this is simply impossible - unless, of course, you are a kamikaze. What kind of idiot would open up - putting himself at risk of being hit in a sore spot? Therefore, such "communication", as here, psychologists call communication "defenses", during which, after repeated attacks on the ego-consciousness, these same defenses are further strengthened.
What's more, by wasting my energy on this vicious habit of being on the site emotionally, I was simply wasting valuable time that would normally be used more prudently. Being here, however, brought practically no useful results in the form of deepening self-understanding or awareness of clues. Endlessly pointing to my commits didn't cause them to be reconditioned.
In this regard, once again noticing my emotional involvement, the resumption of old ways of responding, I conclude, solely for myself, about the complete uselessness of spending time here. This does not mean that for someone such an experience will not be useful. And this does not mean that I will recondition myself with this text and suddenly stop responding, getting involved and writing here on the site. I only note for myself the inefficiency of an endless stay in the virtual world in the matter of self-exploration. I state the current state of affairs, which may lead to the search for more effective ways of self-study.
And one more observation. In psychology, there is a phenomenon of "splashing". So, after the meeting, it is still desirable to spend the energy received from the Master on self-examination, and not on supporting the usual functioning of one's usual ways of responding. Which is what happened in my case. So, it seems to me that the energy of the Master allowed the Clarity to manifest a little in me, or rather, the clarity began to be realized by me at some hundredth of a percent. However, stupidly, I leaked almost all of it here on the site in some stupid, useless skirmishes.
Of course, it will take a long time for the student to grow wiser. But I realized that I could not afford to both splash the energy brought from Satsang and waste it on imaginary skirmishes with imaginary "enemies".
This article answers the question of how to build an emotionally close relationship that satisfies both partners and improve communication.
Being together is not easy. Especially in our time, when traditional values are being replaced by new views on relationships, and many couples who come to me for counseling ask themselves: “How to maintain an emotionally close relationship? There was a time when we only thought about being together ... We were tuned in to each other ... But we don’t succeed ... How do we need to redo the relationship so that they work out?
Key need for partnerships
I dare say that you wanted to be loved and loved, to have a deep, mutual, comfortable and satisfying relationship. However, reciprocity presupposes the existence of a high-quality emotional connection, which is impossible without relationship work and dialogue. Unfortunately, we are not born with the ability to be in relationships, build them and improve them. These skills are acquired and developed.
The expression of love, understanding, attunement to each other occurs in communication. Often it is the problems in the process of interaction that act as the stumbling block that does not allow moving forward. How else can you convey your feelings to your partner - joy, pain, satisfaction, if you do not directly say this? We need a dialogue because we want more from communication, and not the simple satisfaction of basic needs.
But what prevents people from saying ordinary and understandable things,
stating your intentions honestly and openly? Habitual appeals “go-buy”, “late - tired”, “sleep-eat” create a swamp of everyday life and give rise to dissatisfaction. Dialogue is a real exit into the space of relations, as a new dimension, where there is "You" and there is "I". With all its weaknesses, shortcomings and virtues such as it is! And then the main question that the partners decide is: “Do you love me, the way I am?”.
We are pleased to hear words about love and sympathy, approval and support, because we are social beings by nature and cannot be completely autonomous. We are vulnerable, dependent, and not always as strong as we would like. The success of relationships, the quality of well-being and the assessment of our well-being depend on our ability to build emotional contact with another person. And, of course, this needs to be learned.
The Importance of Dialogue in Emotionally Close Relationships
Is it possible to communicate without words? Communication can be very different - gestures, glances, perhaps a hand placed on the shoulder, a hug, warming the warmth of the body of a loved one.
But for a dialogue, it is not always enough just to be present. Dialogue implies self-disclosure in the "here-and-now" situation of two equal participants, each of which is given space to place their thoughts, feelings and desires in the field of relationships - no one is more or less than the other. Relationships on an equal footing in psychology are called "I - You", and relations with the world "I - It".
The history of the development of the concepts of "I-Thou" and "I-It"
is associated with the name of the Israeli scientist, philosopher and religious figure, Martin Buber, who published in 1922 one of the most important books for psychology, “I and You”. Despite the fact that the author himself was very skeptical about psychology, his philosophical concept of building relationships with another person and the world was absorbed by many psychotherapeutic areas. Among them we find the existential analysis of Alfried Lenglet, the Gestalt therapy of Frederick Perls, depth psychology Carl Gustov Jung and his followers, in particular, Mario Jacobi, some aspects are present in newer directions based on the idea of dialogue.
Buber writes: "The basic word "I-Thou" affirms the world of relations." "I" cannot exist without "You", as well as without "It". The only difference is that when we enter into an I-Thou relationship, we participate with the whole being, when we turn to the I-It, we can never participate with the whole being. Between "You" and "It" there is a huge difference between the subject, equal to us, and between the object that we perceive as a thing that is used.
Genuine dialogue does not involve manipulating the other person
"You" as well as "I" can only be yourself and no one else. “You” has the right to be or not be around, to want or refuse, to live your life and share with “I”. "It" can be useful, sometimes it's just a function, a thing, a conduit and can be replaced. "You" is unique. The I-Thou attitude characterizes a truly adult quality relationship.
When the relationship is genuine, in which there is real self-disclosure, it is impossible to confuse the other with someone else: mom, dad, child. In such a relationship, it is impossible to dictate conditions: “Do only this!”, “Live as I say!”, “Do not feel!”. You can only negotiate, and for this you need to hear your partner, be attuned to him.
People who ask questions: “Why do we need men at all?”, “Look how many women walk down the street - take any!” not in relationship. They see the partner as a function, not as an equal. Functional relationships are oriented towards the I-It attitude and are fully reflected in the workflow, which has certain expectations: “You have to, because you were hired for this. Your work is worth as much as the company is willing to pay for it. There is a hierarchy and conditions here.
In quality partnerships, such attitudes are unacceptable. The balance of relations is disturbed and a hierarchy appears, where someone becomes the main one, and someone becomes the subordinate. There is no room for dialogue.
Emotionally close relationships in a couple and violations
In order for the relationship to become qualitative from ordinary, it is necessary to develop both personal and in pairs. When each of the partners gives the other a chance to become better, to change. A chance cannot be missed, a chance is not a rake for endless bumps on the forehead. This is an opportunity for joint development.
However, more often we see a different picture, when two adults, actively engaging in interaction, cannot say anything valuable to each other, and their relationship is more like an appearance, where one dominates and the second is removed. They pour reproaches, accusations, not understanding how to deal with the feelings of a partner. There is no emotional involvement and interest - only requirements. There is a desire to be together, but there is no knowledge and understanding of how to implement it. It turns out loneliness together. Resentment, anger and discontent. Running in a vicious circle.
What does it take to build a dialogue relationship?
Dialogue requires simple words that regulate what is possible and impossible, rules and requirements, as at work, what is important is a deep sincere interest in each other, words expressing feelings and states, a mutual desire to understand the other, orientation to the other in communication. This is the meaning of our relationship.
People cannot empathize if they don't know what is really going on with their partner. People cannot be kind to each other if they do not feel supported by their partner. They cannot open if there is no interest. Can't stand negative emotions partner, because they do not know how to respond to them correctly. They cannot change their behavior if they do not realize that the partner is lonely or unhappy. There are people who avoid frankness for various reasons. Some are not used to talking about their feelings to someone, others are afraid of rejection, others are ridiculed, others have lost hope for change, and others simply do not know how to do it.
If there is no emotional involvement, interest and empathy for the partner, then the relationship lacks the necessary connecting element that makes them happy and fulfilled.
One of the founders of family therapy, Carl Whitaker, said important words: "Since intimacy is one of the poles of the dialectic "belonging - individuation" * and since most people have a need for intimacy, the desire for it far exceeds the ability to endure it - we are mostly in intimate relationships are victims of superficial social relations suffering under the pressure of the world.
Which situation do you like best?
First.
The husband comes home and sees his wife in bed. He enters the bathroom - the washing machine is full of freshly washed linen, which no one hung out. Returning to the room to his wife, he begins to scold her:
“Here, you’re lying here, you haven’t hung your linen!” What have you been doing here all day? - voice trembles with anger.
The woman starts to cry.
- Well, here you are again! Nothing can be said! Immediately to tears!
"Get out, you idiot!" I have a temperature of 38, it's minus twenty-five outside! How do you think I should go out onto the balcony with the temperature and hang out the laundry?! Go away, they can't look at you!
In this situation, we observe that anger is on both sides and no one can contain it. Both partners are injured. No interest or emotional involvement. The main thing is the household chores done, and not at all an interest in another and not the health of a loved one. The lack of emotional involvement is perceived as a violation of the relationship, which causes reciprocal anger.
Second.
The husband comes home and sees his wife in bed. He enters the bathroom - the washing machine is full of freshly washed linen, which no one hung out. Returning to his wife's room, he asks her a question:
- Hi how are you? I see that you are lying, and there is laundry in the washing machine ...
“I had a high fever in the evening. Heat. I can't go out to the balcony in this state. Can you help me hang up the laundry? - The husband agrees.
Here we see that the necessary things will be done, but the quality of relations is put in the first place and no one starts communication with accusations, no one offends anyone. Everything fell into place. Respect is preserved and the emotional field of relations is not violated. There is a balance.
High-quality emotionally close relationships are created through emotional involvement.
Why do people look for each other, get into relationships and get married? If we discard fantastic assumptions or mercantile considerations, such as: to find a prince (read wizard) in a Bentley without an absurd mother-in-law, a busty princess with a large living space and without an annoying and ubiquitous mother-in-law, then a normal life motivation is the desire to see a loved one nearby, a kindred soul .
In order for us to feel emotional closeness with a person, mutual interest in the personality of the other and joint development is necessary, which will allow the couple to develop and go through life, overcoming difficulties.
Once I was talking with my friend, who has been married for over 20 years, about how her family life:
We look at life the same way. We grew and developed together (in a personal sense, ed.), helped and continue to help each other. Of course, we quarrel, get tired, but we always had and have only our time when we can calmly discuss our affairs and relationships. We drink tea and laugh at our mistakes. We have fun when we realize what fools we were.
An opportunity to laugh at each other's mistakes
Not malicious cynical ridicule of shortcomings, but caring consolation, in which partners feel a sense of community and connectedness. After all, there is nothing wrong with the fact that someone misunderstood someone - you can always ask again and clarify, support your partner if he made a mistake, and laugh at himself when he made a mistake himself. Such relationships imply that partners trust each other enough to open up, be vulnerable and show their weak sides without protection, knowing that no one will intentionally hurt another.
Here is what Susan Johnson, founder of Emotionally Focused Marriage Therapy, writes, citing contemporary Scientific research: "Strong love relationships also contribute to personal growth and self-actualization and are associated with a coherent positive self-image. In fact, there is growing evidence that the "nurturing comfort" provided by close relationships protects us from physical and emotional ills and builds resilience."
Emotional involvement
This is indifference to the emotional experiences of a loved one. Being involved in a partner's life does not mean doing everything for him or for him, becoming an errand boy or an errand girl, a personal fairy or a genie from a lamp, it means participating in the life of another, being available and considerate, expressing acceptance and support, respect and interest without grimace, ambiguity and condemnation.
Emotional support often means much more than direct help. After all, we can not always be next to each other. Work, business, responsibilities. However, a warm word is also pleasant for a cat. As a result of simple sympathy and understanding, a calm attitude towards many difficulties and even troubles appears.
When one “it’s hard for me” a person gets “I’m there, we can handle it” instead of a whole stream of unnecessary and useless words: “Stop whining! Everyone endures and you endure!” or “Are you small? Pull yourself together, you're a man!
We create an emotional connection with another person for the sake of receiving a positive exchange, love and joy. Think about it, who wants to have an emotionally close relationship with a person with whom they are always at odds?
About objections
I often hear that communication through dialogue is accessible to a few and it is too artificial, it is impossible to communicate like that in real life. Could there be other ways to achieve emotionally close relationships?
These objections are quite natural. It is true that such communication needs to be learned, like any useful skill. Contrary to popular belief that emotionally close relationships include the mindset “Anything is possible!” - and yell, and give in the forehead, the method of dialogic communication says the opposite. For comfortable self-disclosure and discovery of one's feelings, a genuine attitude to what is happening, an atmosphere of security is necessary. In dialogic communication, we can be more human, loving, responsive, caring for the feelings of another and show a genuine interest in the personality of a partner.
Unfortunately, there are no other ways to build relationships, because only in communication can we either become closer to each other or move away forever.
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Come reconnect.
Sincerely, family psychologist, Maria Romantsova
During the seminar, the trainees will take part in procedures that at first glance are not related to the objectives of the training. Sometimes it is enough that only the trainer is aware of why a certain element of the program is needed, and sometimes the participants also need to know this in order to feel more comfortable. For most groups, it is enough to be told that the general meaning of what is happening will become clear only at the end and that some procedures are designed in such a way that their implementation is possible only on the condition that no one knows in advance what exactly they are intended for.
From time to time, draw the attention of the participants to the goals of the program and the practical application of its results. For example, when participants begin to demonstrate new skills and knowledge, you can purposefully orient them towards success. This simple and effective technique is based on the use of a specific plan of action and promotes the practical application of acquired knowledge and skills.
Future orientation
If the participants in your training are constantly getting new information and are engaged in all kinds of exercises, then the course itself will be exciting for them. And understanding the direction of the course to achieve certain goals will create additional motivation, which will benefit the participants of the seminar.
Questions of motivation are more acute in situations where the future is presented to the participants as vague or bleak. The attitude of the participants to their work may not have a direct impact on the course of the seminar, but its success depends on the level of motivation of the participants. Without motivation, it is impossible to succeed at work, which means that some programs will only be successful if we can help participants solve problems that bother them outside of the workshop.
One of the methods is to work with the participants on the positive and negative options for the development of events in the future. Some people are motivated by positive aspects and some by negative ones. For the former, motivation is based on the possibility of achieving the goal. We set a goal for the participants and help them understand why they need to achieve it. Negatively motivated participants need to be aware of the fear and horror they will experience if no change occurs or if they fail to reach their goal. This is especially true when participants are apprehensive about the outcome of the workshop as such, as may be the case during strategic meetings about mergers, downsizing, overproduction, or any other drastic change. But even considering the worst case scenario, such as losing your job, can bring some relief. Once participants have expressed their worst fears, they have the strength to accept the situation and move on.
In any motivational project, it is wise to make time for both the positive and the negative so that no one is left behind. When we show participants these opposite types of motivation (positive and negative), we make certain issues explicit about which our students can make their own decisions.
Scenarios for creating motivation
First explain to the trainees that change is inevitable and maintaining the status quo is not an option for them.
When working with positive motivation: focus on the positive aspects of changes happening to a person; give examples of the positive results of such changes; create a realistic, detailed scenario of future events.
When working with negative motivation: communicate all possible negative consequences as early as possible in order to accelerate the start of the change process; for any convenient occasion give examples of possible negative consequences.
You will make a strong impression on the group if you take the participants on a tour where they can see two sites - a modern example of the best approach and an abandoned factory that at one time did not take into account the difficulties similar to those it is currently facing. their company. A tour will have a greater impact on participants than watching a video, which in turn is preferable to a still image, which is still better than a detailed description of events, which in turn has a better impact on the seminar participants than a vague warning.
Research shows that people who have goals achieve more success in life than people who don't. The poet Robert Browning clearly captured the inspiring nature of human aspirations in his lines: “Oh, yes, the pie in the sky must be higher than a man can reach, otherwise why then Paradise?” (Robert Browning, 1845).
Helping participants set their own goals will be more beneficial to them than having you (or their sponsor) do it for them. Motivation in achieving the goal that you yourself set is much more effective than any other external stimulus. The realization of the personal goals of the participants will rather be perceived by them as something happening in their interests, and not in the interests of the managers of their enterprise. Once a person has agreed on a goal and taken the first steps towards its achievement, for example, writing down the goal or telling someone about it, he begins to participate much more actively in the process aimed at achieving it.
Depending on the type of program, you can ask participants to identify what goals they would like to achieve during the program and what they would like to achieve at the end of the program. Participant confidence grows with the number of goals achieved. The motivation of the participants will be higher if: the goal is formulated in writing; participants work together to achieve the goal; possible difficulties and obstacles on the way to the goal are discussed; there is a plan to overcome these obstacles.
Note to yourself that the actual achievement of the goal is not the most important part of the process. For some people, the fact that they almost reached the goal means little, for them it is more important than their efforts and achievements in the intermediate stage. Others strive specifically to achieve the goal, and some participants will be especially happy if they manage to do something beyond the intended goals. Nevertheless, the main thing in all situations is precisely this presence of purpose.
Researchers Sims and Lorenzi (1992) write: “Although the pursuit of the goal determines the performance of the best performers, they do not always fully achieve them ... The emphasis is on improving the process of performance itself, and not on the goal perse ". A well-defined goal is more effective for the execution process and its results than an ambiguous goal of "show what you can do." So ask the participants to be more precise in their definitions. A good test is to see if there is a way to check if the goal is achieved. Can the participant who has set a goal explain how he will know that the goal has been achieved?
Due to the fact that more complex goals contain an element of challenge, they contribute to more efficient work than simple goals. The task of the trainer is to create an atmosphere in which each participant wants to be more demanding of himself.
WHY DO GOALS INCREASE MOTIVATION?
Goals: help to concentrate; cause actions; help mobilize efforts; contribute to the directed application of efforts; contribute to the development of strategies, since the goal can be achieved in various ways.
