Prepared by the teacher of the 1st qualification category Kovaleva Svetlana Nikolaevna, municipal budgetary educational institution No. 54 "Iskorka", Naberezhnye Chelny, January 22, 2014
"We all come from childhood"
Antoine de Saint-Exupery
"A little prince"
Somewhere out there, behind a fog of clouds and unrealizable dreams, snippets of conversations and the bitterness of losses, childhood remains. But it comes back ... Either with a sad smile in a child's photograph, then with pain in the heart from childhood insults, then with a joyful memory ...
“I came from childhood, as from a country,” wrote Exupery.
What is it, this country - bright and joyful or dark and sad?
Of course, it entirely depends on close, native people.
It is important that the first childhood impressions are bright and joyful, and not heavy and oppressive to the soul.
F. Dostoevsky wrote: “Know that there is nothing higher and stronger, and healthier, and more useful for life henceforth, like some good memory, and especially taken from childhood, from the parental home ... a beautiful, holy memory, preserved from childhood, perhaps the best memory is. If you take a lot of such memories with you into life, then a person is saved for life.
A child ... A moth under the foamy, sometimes cruel stream of life ... How to give strength to wings without reducing flight, temper without tiring, teach without upsetting?
It is hard to imagine how much pity a person needs throughout his life. Childhood should be fun and joyful. V. Sukhomlinsky wrote that increasing the sea of \u200b\u200bjoy of a child is the only correct course of parental behavior.
The life of a child is a river that cannot be entered twice. This means that every day we are dealing with a different person. That is why you need to talk to him every day, understand him, look into his eyes, catch new moments of a renewed child's soul.
The concept of "golden childhood" does not include a scream and a belt, prohibitions, punishments, indifference, it includes freedom, love, and joy.
Joy in the eyes of a child is the most important thing ... You need to ask yourself if the child is not full or if he studies well, but is he happy?
“Without the fullness of the experienced childhood, there can be no full-fledged adult life,” wrote J. Korchak.
The soul has a home, this home is the soul of another. This is how loving parents feel about their children.
Why do children love us? For mind, kindness, beauty, gifts?
Children love for one thing only - for love. You love - you are loved. There is not much love. From birth, the main thing for a person is unconditional parental love. How wonderful and simple - to fully and unconditionally accept the child as an independent person, as a special beautiful pure world, the world of childhood.
If the prohibition comes from the teacher, then the child experiences negative feelings towards the teacher, but if from the parents, then anger for the whole world.
Love… Positive emotions… Lack of them in children leads to neurosis, mental trauma. By the way, statistics have shown that criminals are most often people who did not know the love of their loved ones in childhood, which is why they developed cruelty and indifference to themselves and people. The man has grown up, but childhood insults, like a splinter, continue to stir his heart.
“People get into fast trains, but they themselves do not understand what they are looking for,” said the Little Prince, “so they do not know peace, they rush in one direction, and then in another ... - And all in vain ... Eyes are blind. Search with your heart"
“Children alone know what they are looking for,” said the Little Prince. “They give their whole soul to a rag doll, and it becomes very, very dear to them, and if it is taken away from them, the children cry” (Antoine de Saint-Exupery)
The life of a child is almost always filled with the magical light of imagination, dreams, secrets of the world. We do not see this light, it is hidden somewhere inside, like a hidden secret, but we must remember that the child has it, and try not to destroy it, this fragile thin ray.
Always be cheerful - this is the guarantee of health and your children. How more baby laughs, the better, his fun is an indicator of mental health, purity and a joyful feeling of being.
And you need to remember more often what you yourself were like in childhood, and it’s even better to keep the traits of childhood in yourself - trust in people, a joyful perception of life, the ability to enjoy yourself and please others.
Deep down, each person is a source of love, and this love itself, like a continuous stream, is transmitted from parents to children: from generation to generation, from generation to generation.
We all come from childhood... Carry this piece of happiness, love, kindness, gratitude in your warm palms and pass it on to your children. Let this circle not be interrupted and then the world will become a better place!
We all come from childhood,
where is the street of Papa and Mama,
house number family
and happy color porch,
and a well with love,
Grandfathers, Grandmothers good Temples,
near Tenderness Garden,
where everyone has a tree.
* * *
This address is easy.
forever inscribed in any memory.
and the path there
across the field of hope lies,
past Lake Vera,
that shakes the blue dream
on the ship of tears,
if a cloud of sadness comes running
* * *
Thanks to the sun
shines brightly in the land of Repentance.
There is a source of warmth
beats with a key in the glade of Hearts
and drink with its moisture
lush Forest of Bright Memories,
where they walk now
holding hands, mother and father.
Quotes about childhood
Childhood is the dawn of fate in human life. Sonya Shatalova
I remember my childhood, and my heart is sick with tenderness. Anatoly Mariengof "Cynics"
It seems to me that one of the greatest successes in a person's life is a happy childhood. Agatha Christie
It's sad if you spent your childhood without really seeing it. Jodie Foster
When everything around is amazing, nothing is surprising, this is childhood. Antoine de Rivarol
Childhood is something that we lost in time, but kept in ourselves. Elchin Safarli "I'll be back"
The soul of a child is a pure tear, it contains warmth, light, and revelation, and sincerity, power of attorney in the eyes! And looking forward to good fellowship! Jean Jacques Rousseau
ESSAY
on the topic: "We all come from childhood"
Performed:
teacher - psychologist Quadritsius M.K.
Orenburg
Mother and father, father and mother -
these are the first two authorities,
on which the world is based for the child,
faith is built in life,
in a person, in everything honest,
good and holy.
G. Medynsky
Writing this essay was a difficult task for me, I constantly rushed from one topic to another. Entering the office, on one of the usual weekdays, after the lesson, I realized that I would write about feelings, about my own, about others, about children who are just learning to express these feelings.
Remembering myself in childhood, the same picture always pops up in front of my eyes - my mother in front of my father’s coffin and her words: “You loved tender and affectionate words so much, but I never said them, I was ashamed to put my feelings on display, now listen - you are my blood, my love, my meaning of life, I suffocate from fear of loneliness, from love for you, you are the most beautiful (father's death was terrible and 86% of the burns left little beauty on his face), the most beloved, the most dear …..” The stress from the experience played its role - now I am a psychologist and every day there are events that please or upset me, but from childhood I took one simple truth, it's all about education, how we were brought up, where they should have invested in us the ability to feel and express our feelings. We all come from childhood.
Childhood is different for each of us, and always leaves an imprint on the present moment. After all, remembering childhood, we succumb to good nostalgia, which beckons back, with our love and care of the adults around you. And when you imperceptibly matured, gained experience, learned to think differently, to feel, to be aware of the world around you, you begin to understand how short it was ... Your childhood ...
Days pass. The present becomes the past. And love, for people who have been around since childhood, you carry through your whole life ... Educators ... Teachers ... Parents ... These are the people who know everything about us: individual characteristics character of each of us, strengths and weaknesses, talents, ability to work. They love and believe in us no matter what. It is valuable and kept in our hearts. And we are grateful to them for this education of feelings and for this love. They gave us hope for the future, so we have strength in the present. Education of diligence, compassion, moral qualities, habits of behavior in society, attitude to the world, home, to people; attitude to nature, a philosophical approach to solving problems - this is what has been instilled in us since childhood. How much for our soul, our inner world mean people who have become an example for us in situations of interpersonal relationships. These people have revealed little man creativity, independence, ability to defend one's point of view. We live by their love, their care energy. In childhood, the foundation is laid for the personality of a person who, having become an adult, makes decisions, sets himself tasks, fulfills the conditions of the “game” that he himself will come up with, and the moral rules that he will derive for himself and make his life principle. It is very important that an atmosphere of mutual understanding and respect reigns in the family. A person who grew up in a caring environment of loving and attentive parents can always find a foothold in himself, becoming an adult.
Parents try to be always tactful when communicating with children, so as not to offend or offend the feelings of their child. They are tolerant of the mistakes and selfishness of their maturing child. By their behavior, teachers and parents show how to behave, how to treat situations correctly, how to carry oneself through life with honor and dignity. They bring up a highly moral, spiritual personality.
I think that in fact, the conditions of modern life sometimes do not allow parents and children to maintain strong emotional relationships with each other. And this is where the misunderstanding comes from. And it happens that parents cry: “What should we do with our son? He doesn’t understand a kind word. You teach him - this is good, but this is bad; this is possible, but this is impossible - but he seems not to hear ... Indifference to the word - a big trouble in upbringing. Having lost the hope that it is possible to educate with a word, parents use cuffs and a belt ... How to prevent trouble? How to ensure that the word educates, so that there are strings on the violin of the child's soul, and not ropes? In early childhood, a person must go through a great school of subtle, cordial, human relationships.These relationships are the most important thing that we can take for ourselves from childhood.
Childhood is a wonderful time ... It is time for the development of artistic and aesthetic taste, purposefulness, and self-confidence. Here it is necessary to draw a fine line between the acquisition of material values, and spiritual world so that everything is harmoniously combined with each other, and developed with the help of a highly moral attitude to this process of self-education, when the child already thinks like an adult individual.
There is such a wise saying: “I respect your thoughts, because they will become your words. I respect your words, for they will become your deeds. I respect your deeds, for they will become your character. I respect your character, for this is the essence - your destiny.
... And everything begins with the thought that our parents, our educators, our teachers bring up in us - their children, pupils and students ...
For the second year I have been working as a teacher-psychologist in a kindergarten, and this, however, like last year, the Mother’s Day holiday is coming, the day of that dear little man who pushed me to the idea that life is fleeting and unpredictable, that we are the arbiters of our own fate and only we can decide what we should be - sincere or deceitful, evil or kind, frank or secretive. On this day I want to say all the most good words her, the one thanks to whom I am a psychologist.
So, a new day, another lesson - children, today we are learning to say affectionate words to our mothers. What affectionate words do you call your mothers? How would you affectionately call your mother and address her? What kindest and tender words would you like to say to her? Imagine her now in front of you and turn to her .... The answer is silence. Someone does not quite understand what exactly they want to hear from him, someone simply did not hear, perhaps someone did not understand my questions, and someone knows these words, but is afraid to pronounce them out loud. Why is this happening? Why do children feel a sense of fear or shame when they say something good, bright and kind? Do tired mothers always have enough time to not only call their child by name in a conversation, but to address him with a gentle and affectionate word. Having chosen this profession, I want to teach little “future adults” what parents do not have enough time for, and in the classroom, children, speaking kind, good and affectionate words to each other, reveal the ability to express their feelings in words and perceive, sympathize and empathize with feelings other children. I am sure that when she comes home and turns to her mother with an affectionate word, mother will break away from her constant worries and hear her child, and reciprocate.
“Where are we from? We come from childhood, as if from some country ... I'm not very sure that I lived after my childhood passed ”A. de Saint-Exupery
"Every person is a child who has not grown up."
“Why do I need this meditation? My childhood has long passed, all the events, good or bad, joyful and not very, have become so far away that I remember them very rarely. You can think in this way, postponing indefinitely the study of deep processes that were formed precisely in childhood and affect our entire subsequent life. The consultative practice of psychologists shows that the problems inherent in childhood manifest themselves in adolescence and adulthood.
Marina Targakova in the seminar “Windows to the World of a Child” comes to the conclusion that pregnancy and the first 1.5 years of life are the most important period in which the features of the human psyche are laid. Very often, fears and other problems in the current life are associated with the prenatal period and childbirth. At each stage of development (before birth, 0 to 6 months, 6 to 18 months, 1.5 to 3 years, 3 to 6 years, and so on), we must satisfy our natural needs for love and unconditional acceptance, care and protection. Another thing is that in real life it doesn't always work out.
“Every person is a child who has not grown up, who did not receive this experience of unconditional love and full unconditional acceptance of him as a person in his childhood.”
A mature personality is a person who has gone through all stages of development harmoniously and correctly. We are all leaders for someone: a husband for a wife, a mother for children, older brothers and sisters for younger ones, a company leader for wards, and so on. An adult is someone who can take responsibility for what happens, for unplanned things, and most importantly - for what he is not to blame.
“I am ready to answer for something in which I am absolutely not to blame!” - only one who has correctly passed all stages of personality development, starting from infancy, can think like that. (Ruslan Narushevich, "Emotional Culture of a Mature Personality", 6th International Festival "Psychology of the Third Millennium")
And your inner child happy?
People suffering from unsettled family life, women with low self-esteem, dysfunctional teenagers - who are they? These are children who have received psychological trauma at one of the important stages of development. Many modern social projects vividly demonstrate obvious truths: inappropriate behavior of adolescents, depression, uncontrolled aggression and other similar conditions have deep causes in early childhood.
There are many such children, to be honest, it is easier to say who has no problems in this area than to list people with certain psychological herbs of childhood. These children are now twenty, thirty or more years old, but this did not stop them from deep inside crying and asking for help. This topic difficult to understand, it often causes a feeling of injustice and internal protest among the participants of the training.
We may begin to blame our parents for not giving us the love and attention we needed, for hurting us, sometimes without knowing it. Marina Targakova speaks very categorically in this regard:"Let the curse of your kind end on you!"
Looking for someone to blame can go too far, and what's the point? Just get the necessary resource of love and acceptance from available sources.
Try to get back to yourself little child, and say: "I love you, love you and accept you the way you are."Let this baby experience unconditional love let him experience that he is loved and accepted for who he is.
Often in courses for women, one simple exercise is carried out. To help boost self-esteem, girls are encouraged to find their childhood photos and admire themselves - a small, defenseless and such a beautiful girl! Remember how wonderful we all were as children.
Go back in time and tell yourself: "Don't be afraid of anything, baby!".
Editor: Larisa Kokstova.
The article is based on the materials of Oleg Gadetsky's meditation "Cleansing the Memory of Childhood".
“We all come from childhood!
After all, all adults were children at first,
only a few of them remember it.”
A. de Saint-Exupery.
"We all come from childhood .." - wrote Antoine de Saint-Exupery. The impressions of childhood are deposited in our subconscious for life. Sometimes, some childhood experiences carry with us for a colossal period of time and determine our actions and our relationships with people already in adulthood. Conflicts childhood determine the conflicts of adult life. Anxiety in adulthood, depressive moods and affects are a consequence, an echo of experiences in childhood.
I am a teacher-psychologist. In his practical work I am faced with the manifestation of aggressiveness, anxiety, insecurity in children. Today, a huge flow of information falls upon the child. The desire of parents to improve the financial well-being of the family and, as a result, their lack of attention to their children. Therefore, children have difficulty in mastering the norms. modern world. And because of their age, they choose as psychological protection those emotional and behavioral reactions that have already been learned and that are able to pay attention to them: aggression, isolation, whims, fears.
Children always look forward to when their parents come for them, joyfully run towards them.
Leaving kindergarten, I pay attention to parents with children. More often, children run after their parents, explaining something, proving, crying, and mom or dad go, not paying attention to the child or on the go, reacting with irritation to his requests or desires.
I often talk with children about what they do at home, with whom they communicate, what and whom they love. And, alas, the answers, as a rule, are the same: I watch cartoons, I play computer. The film “The Influence of Foreign Cartoons on the Mind of a Child” clearly shows rudeness, harshness, irritability, distorted images of an incomprehensible gender ... Everything flashes, spins, explodes ... What can a child understand for himself? What will learn? Where is mom's affectionate word, dad's caring gesture?
- kiss the child;
-Hug your child 50 times a day;
- kiss the child;
-stroke on the head, saying "What (th) you are my smart girl, well done ...!"
-whisper in your ear the affectionate words “my sun”, “my (I) beloved (aya)”, “my happiness”, “my treasure” ...;
- communicate with the child "eye to eye";
- live in the interests of the child.
