Everything just falls out of hand, nothing works, others do not miss the chance at the slightest opportunity to mock you. You are in complete despair and nothing pleases you in this life. And when you are already completely desperate, a ray of light appears again and takes you to a happy white streak. And so it continues throughout life.
It is by being inside the white stripe that some people call happiness. And at the same time, they justify themselves to themselves that “there is never much happiness”, that “happiness is boring” and other excuses, just not to take responsibility for their lives into their own hands.
So why do periods of harmony and satisfaction with our lives appear in our lives, and sometimes irritation and depression. Everything is very simple. Your success and luck in life is determined by your attitude towards it. The more negative thoughts, irritation and despair you have, the less positive things are in your life and you gradually slide into such a hole from which it is almost impossible to get out without help.
You probably meet every day on the street gloomy and dissatisfied with everything in the world grandparents who are so angry at life that even at a distance you can feel the negative energy emanating from them. These people chose option B in their youth, and now, in their old age, they are only reaping the benefits.
Another type of people, floats with the flow of life. They try not to make decisions, most often they refuse the right to choose and enjoy what life presents them. They do not have a clearly expressed negative attitude towards life, but they also do not realize what is happening in their life. The so-called averages. Today a white stripe, tomorrow a black one, nothing depends on these people. If they earn little, the boss, the situation in the country, the parents or someone else is to blame. If they meet on the way only male villains or female bitches, then such people blame the opposite sex for everything and are indignant that normal men or women have long been dismantled. But of course they are never to blame for anything. They shift all responsibility for their lives onto others.
And, finally, the third option is a person who is fully responsible for his life and for all the events that take place in it. No one is ever to blame for such a person. He is positive, believes in himself and his success.
If you watch carefully, you can occasionally still meet an old woman smiling and contented with life on the street. Which, despite a beggarly pension, manages to dress decently, never complains about anything, and still manages to help her children and grandchildren.
With this, it seems, we have already figured out. That is, the more positive and confident you are about life and the events that are happening around you, the more pleasant gifts life brings you.
But in fact, not everything is as simple as described above. There are several other laws that govern the course of our lives. Let's go back to our white and black stripes in life. Why, when we are happy and everything is fine with us, we nevertheless attract trouble into our lives sooner or later. Somehow this does not fit with the previous statements.
We can say this: we ourselves create a white stripe when we pass a black one. And vice versa: we create all the prerequisites for black stripe when we are in white. Not very clear? I'll try to explain.
When everything is bad in your life, you try to do something, work on yourself, take some actions, albeit not very effective ones. And by doing so, you create a platform for positive changes in your life.
And exactly the opposite, when everything is in order in your life and you are happy with everything, you relax, stop moving forward, and sooner or later Ashe returns to inaction back.
That is, the principle of causality works exactly here. investigative connection. Did something, got a reward. He relaxed and did nothing - he also got what he deserved.
Therefore, if you are going through a black streak in your life today, then begin to strengthen your positive, self-confidence, constantly work on yourself. And life will surely take you to the wave of success. If today you enjoy life and are completely satisfied with everything, try to look a little ahead, for sure you will find “a lot of interesting things” there.
If you work on yourself for a long time, you can learn to predict events in the future. In this case, as soon as a person feels that trouble is approaching, he immediately begins to take steps to improve the situation in the present. And he simply jumps over the black stripes, constantly being on the crest of the wave. We call such people lucky in life. But in fact, it is just a skill that everyone can master. Although the lucky ones themselves most often behave correctly subconsciously and do not even realize why everything in their life is working out in the best way for them.
For greater clarity, examples can be given famous people. For example, Khodorkovsky or Michael Jackson. They have been successful and successful people for many years. They had everything. But they reacted incorrectly to their successes, did not foresee the impending black streak, and now they are where they should be.
And another example, Abramovich and David Beckham. People never cease to admire how lucky they are all the time. They have everything and it seems that they make almost no effort for this. Why is this happening? Because they have the right attitude to life, and they know how to treat their successes. Although it is possible that sooner or later they may make a mistake that will not allow them to continue to lead such a carefree lifestyle.
Returning to the causal relationship, I want to say that everything that you have today, everything good and bad, you created with your actions and thoughts in the past. And by reading these lines and reacting to them in a certain way, you create your future. Therefore, if you are more attentive to yourself and to the events that occur in your life, then you can behave in such a way that you always get what you want from life and forget the words “failure” and “bad luck” forever.
The same principle can be used for business and health, even for family relationships. For example, in a few days, or sometimes even weeks, I feel that I can get sick or get into some kind of trouble. And immediately I change my thoughts, take concrete actions and transfer myself through this period of time.
In the family, if I feel that everything is too good, I begin to cool my ardor a little, I become calmer and more balanced. And then the troubles pass by, only touching me with the cold of their breath.
Start taking control of your life today. Learn to feel the events that are approaching. Treat the positive and not so positive events in your life correctly. And then you can always live the way you want and always be responsible for everything that will happen in your life.
It does not happen that in life you are always lucky. Black bars happen to everyone. The main thing in such a situation is not to give up.
What is a black streak in life, almost everyone knows firsthand. At some point, it begins to seem that the whole world is against you. How to quickly overcome not the best times in your life and return to the white streak?
“- I am 30 years old, but nothing good happens in life, a solid black streak. I recently broke up with a young man, and soon after that I was fired from my job. Friends are busy all the time, everyone has families, children, interesting work, and I'm all alone, no one needs me. I decided, while there is time, to go to the doctor, so they found a bunch of other diseases that I need to be treated for. I am in total despair!”
"I have in Lately only troubles - my husband lost his job, my father became seriously ill - I have to be there all the time and take care of him, I have problems at work. Court with neighbors in the dacha ...
I do not even have time to recover even a little after another trouble, as another begins. I recently broke my leg and had my wallet stolen with my entire salary. I live in fear and constant stress. It seems that the black streak will never end.
Why is there a black bar
The black bar is a series of bad luck, health problems, breakups, financial losses. All problems, as a rule, converge to one point. For someone, a serious illness will be a black stripe, and for someone it will be a series of troubles at work. What matters is how you perceive failures, because there is no list of factors by which one could judge the beginning of an unfavorable period in life. Someone imposes negative thoughts on themselves due to minor troubles, and someone does not even consider parting with a loved one a black stripe. It's all in your head - no more, no less.
Bioenergy experts have identified the most common causes of problems
Accident. Indeed, everything can happen purely by chance. Even the luckiest people can encounter one problem, and then another, and another. Usually people confuse chance with some kind of divine punishment or karma, but this is not always the case. If your soul is pure, then you should perceive problems in life as an accident, if there is no other explanation for them.
Karma. Almost all people have karmic problems. They may be hidden because you cannot know for sure what happened to you in past lives. You can call it whatever you want. If you are a believer, this may be Heaven's punishment for you, for example. If you are an atheist, then consider this an energy balancing, because everything in the world should be in balance. Perhaps in the past you have committed some act that was strictly negative, bad. Whether you believe it or not, everything in the universe must be in balance, which is why you may be experiencing a black streak.
Trial. Perhaps you yourself create conditions for yourself under which life becomes not so easy. Maybe now you are focused on performing some tasks that are not easy for you. It’s difficult for you, it’s hard, but this is purely your choice, which you simply forgot about.
Instruction of the Universe. Perhaps the Universe is trying to show you with the black bar that you are on the wrong path. This is a kind of hint that you cannot go where you aim.
How to get out of the black bar
To do this, you need to follow some important rules.
Try to stay calm. This is very important, because when a person experiences too much, anxiety clouds his mind, depriving him of the opportunity to attract positivity into his life. Here, in all its glory, one of the laws of the universe is revealed - the law of attraction. If you think you are a loser or a loser, then you will be. Don't let problems kill your smile and faith in yourself.
Accept these challenges. They have already happened, they are already with you, so concentrate on solving them as soon as possible. You do not have time to think about the reasons - you need to spend energy on the right things. You will deal with the reasons later, when everything settles down. Don't think that you are the only one. Troubles happen to everyone, everyone has bad periods in life.
Analysis. According to many spiritual practices, any situations, even the most difficult ones, are given to us for a reason. There is always a small signal first - some kind of sign that you need to pay attention to this area life.
If we ignored the warning and did not change the situation, a stronger signal follows, then even stronger, again and again, and then - a disaster. It's like that little pebble that rolled down the mountain, which can lead to a terrible collapse.
If something is not going well, do not rush to despair, think about what signal life gives you to change everything for the better.
If you haven't been able to find a job for a year, maybe you need to start your own business or finally realize buried talents? If you suddenly fall ill before a important event maybe this is a signal that it's time to stop and think about your life? If you have relationship problems, do you have past grievances living inside you?
The life stories of celebrities are full of stories that various kinds of trouble forced them to do what they love.
1. A journalist who ended up in the hospital, who was given a terrible diagnosis, could give up on herself and indulge in sadness, but she begins to write novels and becomes a famous writer.
2. A mother of two children, left without a livelihood by her husband who left her, does not want to live in a black stripe and becomes the owner of a prosperous company.
3. A businessman whose wife left for his best friend, and even took over the business, leaves for the village, starts life anew and understands what true love and family are.
How often in life, when we lose something, we realize that by letting go of it, we gained much more and got the opportunity to become truly happy. Big problems become big opportunities if we carefully analyze what happened and find positive intention in any event.
Transfer. Our thoughts attract everything that resonates with them. For example, the heel broke. This is bad if you are in a hurry to get to work. This is very bad if you are in a hurry to work, where the boss is waiting for you along with very important clients. It's terrible if, in addition to everything else, your tights are torn, and today you forgot your wallet, and you can't buy new tights in any way - just like shoes.
The moment a heel breaks, you begin to think about the consequences that this event might entail. And you set yourself up for negativity in advance, and as a result, you look bad at the meeting, behave insecurely, the contract is broken, the boss is dissatisfied.
Then everything that you were afraid of in your terrible fantasies happens, because you yourself painted an insignificant event in black, concentrated on it, and thus fed this black band with your negative energy.
Thus, you yourself make your choice and go into the black band. If you learn to block negative thoughts, and even better - translate them into a positive channel, then there will be much less opportunities to get into a black streak.
Therefore, the best way out of the black band is to immediately switch to the white one. If you feel like you're getting swamped, say to yourself, "I'm moving into a parallel world, where in my life there are only positive events (you can list them and present them in detail)”.
Don't let negative thoughts take over you. As often as possible, move to a light strip and stay there longer.
For example, you are in a hurry somewhere and find that the subway pass has ended. Naturally, at this moment you see a huge line at the cashier. You understand that everything is a failure, you will be late, etc. In general, you start a chain of negative events.
The best thing to do is: you see the queue and say the affirmation. For example: “Thank you that circumstances are always developing for me in the most wonderful and favorable way.” You don’t think about anything else, but simply persistently repeat this phrase, driving away all other thoughts.
And then possible different variants development of events. For example, they can simply give you a ticket, sell you without a queue, the queue can start moving quickly, they can call you and say that the meeting is being postponed ...
But it may also be that you stand in line, you are late, and your opponents are even more late, and you still have to wait for them. Or they will not be late, you will disrupt the meeting, and then it turns out that everything worked out very well, because they wanted to deceive you.
In general, nothing happens just like that, and in every situation there really is a positive.
Use affirmations often, make it a habit to repeat them. Think of these positive phrases for various life situations.
This method gives us the opportunity to stop negative thoughts in the bud and allows us to stay on the bright side of life.
Physical activity. When a person has already fallen into a black streak and it has completely absorbed his moral and physical strength, it is very difficult to analyze anything. In this situation, the most The best way- to force yourself to do something physically difficult, but not requiring much thought. It can be anything.
For starters, perhaps just cleaning the apartment and clearing all the blockages that have formed. By the way, this action will help cleanse the house of negative energy.
It could be sports. Their benefit lies in the fact that a “happiness hormone” is produced that helps us think positively, which will help us overcome troubles much faster, and a good physical shape improves mental health.
From the same point of view, dancing classes are very useful, which allow you to clear the brain of negative thoughts. Enthusiasm will appear over time, and first you have to force yourself to do something, thereby “pulling” yourself out of the quagmire of trouble.
Creation. Creativity can distract from the most negative thoughts and situations. Creativity refers to any activity that gives you real pleasure.
When the goals are clear, the result is obvious, and the tasks and skills are in balance with each other, a person concentrates his attention and is completely immersed in his work. In the mind of a person there is no room for distracting thoughts and extraneous feelings. The sense of time changes: it seems that hours fly like minutes.
The harmonious combination of physical and mental energies leads to the fact that life finally becomes life.
At such moments, the consciousness is filled with various experiences, and these experiences are in perfect harmony. Contrary to what we often experience in Everyday life. At such moments, our feelings, our desires and our thoughts are in harmony with each other.
Forgiveness. Often troubles and failures appear in our lives if our heart is overflowing with resentment and anger. All this negativity, hidden deep inside us, is embodied in the events of the world around us. This is because the world is our kind of mirror.
To attract into your life good events and get out of the black band, forgive everyone you are angry with, ask for their forgiveness yourself, and also forgive yourself for allowing yourself such emotions.
It is not necessary to do this in reality. Well, even if you do this work of forgiveness in your soul. You can imagine giving the abuser a token gift and thanking him for teaching you how to be a generous person.
You may have to go through the process of forgiveness many times over many days so that you can truly feel that your soul has been released from the negative burden. Once this happens, there will be room in your life for happy occasions and bright streaks.
Gratitude. The method is that as soon as you notice some hint of trouble, you immediately begin to behave as if everything is going fine, and thank fate for it.
For example, you are sick. In addition to the main treatment, direct all your thoughts to recovery. Repeat to yourself the words of gratitude to the Universe for being healthy. For example: "Thank you for the fact that I feel great, alive, healthy." The text depends on the nature of your illness. You need to do this often - especially when you want to be sad and complain.
If trouble happened to your loved ones, this technique also works, only you need to thank not for yourself, but for the one you are worried about. By the way, if you expect some unpleasant news, events, you can use this technology "in advance".
Get into such a useful habit as daily gratitude for everything that happens to you - for a good day, friends, husband, health, work, etc. This attitude to life helps a lot to stay only on the bright side and never fall on the black strip.
Faith. In this case, the main thing is to convince yourself that everything is fine with you, and most importantly, so that there is not a drop of doubt about it. Faith works miracles. If you are a believer, then it is even better - go to the temple, pour out your soul in front of your favorite icon and be sure that God will help. It is clear that usually changes do not occur overnight, but if you continue to believe, changes for the better will inevitably come. Build your faith in the undeniable truth: “I'm fine! It doesn't matter that today I lost money, it was necessary, I lost it on purpose - this is a bribe to my fate - to lose in small things in order to gain in big ones. As you understand yourself - impose on yourself faith in the best in any case, even when everything goes badly out of your hands.
This faith will simply take you by the ears from the streak of failures to the golden streak of luck.
Confidence, confidence and more confidence. The state of your spirit in the role of a winner, the owner of your life inspires and does wonders. They begin to perceive you differently, they begin to notice you, and just luck itself begins to turn to face you. Self-confidence will drive you the right people, your energy will vibrate in a different quality, dispersing failures like the wind of a cloud.
We welcome failure with joy. This is a very effective and powerful lotion. Its meaning is that the event that causes in you negative emotions- meet (convince yourself, play along with yourself) with a positive emotion, joy. I know that at first it is difficult, unusual and illogical, but the skin is worth the candle. If you meet every failure joyfully and with a smile, then any troubles will run away with horror from you.
Yes, it all went to x ... Many have noticed such a thing: you worry, you worry, you don’t sleep at night - everything is getting better early, but you just have to put up with it in your soul, spit on everything and send it to hell and everything is decided by itself in at its best. Spit on everything and do what is right
Bad luck is contagious, but so is luck. This has been proven a long time ago, so try to avoid the losers and vice versa rotate in the circles of the lucky ones. Especially carefully select your interlocutors during feasts - it is then that there is a greater energy exchange with each other. It will not be superfluous to watch channels and programs where beautiful and rich houses are often shown, happy families and about the lucky ones.
Surround yourself, communicate and make friends with people whom we used to call lucky and then you will definitely become as lucky as they are.
There is nothing impossible in life - everything in it changes, because this is the basic law of physical matter. There is a place for everything in life: joy too, and no matter how hard it is for you today, remember: everything ends and the black streak too, but for how long it will drag on depends primarily on yourself.
Hell and heaven already exist within you - just choose what you support.
Axioms of light and dark stripes
- The world is neutral towards us.
He is neither evil nor kind, he absolutely does not give a damn about us, he is exactly the way we accepted him inside ourselves. The world around you is a reflection of your inner state.
- Faith is a very strong genie in our hands.
What to believe is up to you. You believe that everything will be fine - “according to your faith it will be for you”, you believe that life is a cruel “thing” - get your own, the law works in this case too. You sincerely believe that God and all the forces of light stand as a mountain for you - be sure that it is so.
- Love can do everything.
Love is not a selfish desire for possession, of course not. Love is the highest vibrational energy. Love does not seek or fawn, it is full and self-sufficient, it can turn any hell into a blooming paradise. Love is God loving no matter what. God forgives us not for our actions, he forgives us because he is God (love). The closest energy to true love is maternal love. The more love in your life, the brighter, better and smoother your life.
- Like attracts like.
Negative thoughts and emotions attract negative situations, which in turn give rise to new negative emotions - this is similar to vicious circle and if it is not interrupted, this can continue for a lifetime. Conversely, joyful emotions attract good events. The conclusion suggests itself.
- By changing our thoughts, emotions and beliefs, we change the course of our lives.
Filter every emotion and thought, choose only positive and correct ones, cultivate them in yourself.
- Guilt triggers the mechanism of punishment.
This is why confession is so important. Take your mistakes as important life lessons, and therefore, like any lesson, you need to learn it and understand the meaning of what you experienced. As soon as you realized your mistake, you turned the tide, you learned your lesson, and after that, have the strength to forgive yourself and others.
- Living in the present, you choose the best option possible.
- There are no hopeless situations.
Closing one of the doors, God always opens another.
- Take action after making decisions.
You have an active always more chances than you have the same passive. So do not lie on the couch - act.
It happens that everything collapses - a beloved man leaves, problems begin at work and with health, conflicts arise literally from scratch. We call it a black streak and often just give up, waiting for it to end on its own. But in vain! This scourge can and must be fought. And here's how - this is what we'll talk about today.
We are looking for root causes
But first you need to find out where the legs of this black stripe grow from. After all, nothing happens just like that, without a reason. And there can be several reasons for your misfortunes:
1. You have been jinxed
There are people who are haunted by other people's happiness and successes, even if they do not directly affect their interests, and in this case, that is, in relation to the black stripe, we are not talking about envy as such, rather we can talk about selfishness and low self-esteem of a person , which causes the evil eye. For example, there are two relatives - mother and daughter, sister and sister, grandmother and granddaughter, etc., and one of them, having adjusted her personal life or successfully making a career, breaks away, moves away from the other. She begins to devote less time to her, or even leaves for another city. Accordingly, this becomes the cause of resentment and the desire to return everything to normal. By and large, close relatives do not even need to be specially carried out - if the desire to regain their close relative is too great, then everything happens on the mental level - obeying the "kindred" order, reality begins to fall apart.
2. You have been corrupted
Corruption is already deliberately inflicted harm, evil that acts purposefully. The cause of damage may be an unseemly act that you have committed and for which you are being avenged, or a desire to take possession of what you possess. Damage is mainly manifested in the context of the black stripe in health problems. Often comes along with a love spell on a man whom you consider your own.
3. You are envied
Envy - great power, but in order for it to become the cause of the black stripe, it must come from a person very close to you who knows your strengths and weak sides and may, in one way or another, affect you. If a neighbor envied you because you bought a new fur coat - it doesn’t matter - her problems, but if a close friend envies you for a long time - this is already much more serious. Her envy accumulates over the years and at some point begins to consume not only the energy of your friend, but also your own, then a black streak may appear. There is only one way out - to urgently figure out this "good" friend and get rid of her company. Once and for all.
4. Write for peace
This is in some way akin to damage, also a targeted method of causing evil, but it generally concerns all aspects of life. It is precisely because of these actions that a black streak most often occurs, since a person, suspecting nothing and not being able to resist, becomes a victim of a curse. And it disappears only when similar problems begin in the family of the bearer of evil. However, this is what happens most of the time. Therefore, a black streak of this origin must simply be experienced. And further. If you have not found other explanations for your misfortunes, go to church, talk to the priest. Perhaps some of his actions will speed up your getting rid of the black bar.
5. You made the wrong decision some time ago.
Often, breaking everything in our lives, Fate shows us that we went the wrong way - we fell in love with a man from whom a serious danger came, we chose a job that does not meet our internal needs, we committed meanness. And in order for us to be able to fix this, what we have is sort of taken away from us. In this case, you just need to analyze what you did wrong. For example, every day you, overcoming yourself, go to work that brings neither moral nor material satisfaction. It can last a year, two, three, or maybe just a couple of months - it all depends on your stamina. But sooner or later your body begins to take revenge on you for the state of constant stress. Health problems begin, endless sick leave, and, as a result, the refusal of a place. And all because you went against your nature and did not live in harmony with yourself. Something similar happens when Fate points to your true destiny over and over again, and you remain deaf and blind to its signs. Then she just takes and puts you in a position where you have no other choice but to follow your own.
6. You have a serious enemy
Joyful feelings are replaced by anxious ones, happiness alternates with unhappiness. A person knows that the black streak in life will someday end, and in the future, pleasant moments and bright events await him again. But what if troubles, problems and trials accompany a person for quite a long time? What to do when plans are constantly falling apart?
Causes of Protracted Bad Luck
Don't be patient with adversity. It's time to stop complaining and listen to your feelings. Often fate presents people with certain opportunities, but a person does not notice them, does not respond to the prompts of fate. To get rid of the black stripe and get out of the negative, it is necessary to eliminate the main causes of failures:
- Laziness. Thirst for knowledge, spiritual impulses are considered success stimulants. Therefore, a lazy subject will not achieve a result if he remains on the sidelines.
- Aggression towards others. Disappointed in everything, a person holds back emotions. Negative energy accumulates in him, which he splashes out on others (attacks, nagging, etc.), so the rest simply turn away from such an attitude. As a result, all the negativity returns back to the irritated person.
- An insult to the whole world. People with chronic bad luck blame everyone, because it is much easier to console yourself, blame outsiders and refer to evil fate.
- Inability to see beauty. Lucky people know how to enjoy every little thing. They treat success not only as the acquisition of life's goods (money, an apartment, etc.). People try to live in harmony with themselves and others, appreciate good weather, pleasant conversation, a cup of coffee, etc.
- Angel complex. Bad luck is the result of excessive shyness, indecision. If a person is afraid to ask a question once again, he will automatically deprive himself of the right to vote in making any decision.
- Life on the principle of "draft" (carbon copy). Attempts to copy someone else's life will not help to find the answer to the question of when the black streak in my life will end. Often there are people who copy the behavior of the stars. But they forget that society does not need two identical individuals. Such a fake society will simply ignore.
The human body is not a garbage container. Much in life depends on physical and psychological health. If you do not reconsider your views, then it will be difficult to cope with even the simplest stresses, which means that it will become impossible to stop the emergence of new problems.
Methods for dealing with a losing streak
What if the problems don't go away common man difficult to understand. Psychologists recommend creating a daily routine, distributing important things. You should not deny yourself walking, going to the cinema. The main thing is to stick to the developed scheme.
Unresolved issues need to be brought to the fore. Stop complaining about evil rock take control of yourself and get on with your life. Narrow the circle of contacts, refuse to meet with pessimists. On paper, describe the goals as clearly as possible and soberly assess the chances of success. Is there a real opportunity to solve the problem quickly? You should immediately draw up a plan for further actions (steps) for its implementation. After a couple of days, a person will notice that another streak has begun in his life - white.
Folk ways
You can throw a pinch of salt over your left shoulder. The method will help to interrupt the appearance of negative events in a person's life. Astrologers and numerologists offer on the 29th day of the lunar month, perform the rites:
- smoke incense;
- read the conspiracy.
After that, you should become in the center of the room with eyes closed. Feel how every cell in your body relaxes. Imagine that multi-colored rays are flying towards you from 8 sides. For example, from the north - a blue ray of good luck, from the southeast - a red ray of love, etc. All the rays connect in the place where the person stands.
You need to enjoy this moment. The described visualization is required to be carried out several times a month so that luck always remains with a person.
To get rid of the black streak in life and remove troubles, you can contact a priest. He will recommend fasting and reading prayers in the morning and evening for 7 days. After that, you need to come to the temple for the evening service and give alms to those in need. During the service, one should confess and take a blessing for communion. Do not have dinner on this day.
The next morning, come to the morning service and take the sacrament.
Main conditions for positive change:
- take communion once a month;
- follow the advice of the father.
Trials and bad luck contribute to personal development, make a person stronger and more resilient. It must be remembered that faith in oneself and one's strengths, goodwill and optimism are considered the main "recipes" for changing life for the better.
What to do if a black streak has come in life?
All misfortunes are actually given to us so that our souls become stronger. (John Gray)
We live in an age of adversity; but life at all times presented people with ups and downs, good luck and trouble. Problems are part of the overall process of life. Even the happiest people, whom everyone considers lucky and minions of fate, from time to time face misfortunes, and a black streak in life comes to them too.
But why does it seem to us that troubles never overtake such people?
It's all about how they behave during such periods of their lives. Positive in nature, these people are able to overcome difficulties without bitterness and regret. They are not afraid to ask for help and support when they need it. Lucky people learn from situations in which others simply give up and try to see something good even in the worst. They control their own destiny and create their own lives. Such people, it seems to us, never live in a world of suffering; however, this does not detract from the feeling of unhappiness, which even in them can be very deep, and sometimes even destructive. They just "work out" these feelings, which cannot disappear overnight, while the rest simply sink to the very bottom of despair.
Why don't we take a cue from the best?
First of all, admit to yourself that the trouble really happened to you. Admitting to ourselves that a black streak has come in our life, we, no matter how strange it may seem, thereby reduce the emotional shock from the hardships that have fallen on us.
Now try to understand that all misfortunes are temporary and rarely affect not individual stages of life, but the whole fate of a person. You can lose your job, money, housing; but your family still loves you, your friends are ready to lend a shoulder, you yourself are alive and well. You have kept the most important values, and everything else can be earned.
Awaken your gratitude. Be grateful for what you have instead of complaining about what you have lost.
Realize that you have the ability to control your response to life's challenges. As soon as you begin to experience pain, immediately change your focus - look at things with a different look. Positive side in any case, it exists for every event, even for the most unpleasant - it all depends on how you look at it.
Achieve a higher state of consciousness, learn to control your thoughts, feelings and reactions. This will allow you to see things more clearly at the cost of less emotional involvement.
Decide what practical steps you can take today to help yourself. As small as these steps are, each one is important because it brings you closer to solving the problem. And in the end, you will get to a place where you really feel that you have the strength to cope with the situation.
Several ways to deal with adversity
Life is really unpredictable, and sometimes troubles take us by surprise. And then it is very important to know what to do if in life a black streak has changed the streak of luck. At a time when we are going through a difficult period, it can help us to have specific plan actions. Only action can clear the way through the jungle of adversity to give us room to move forward! The points of this plan may vary, it all depends on the individual and on the difficult situation in which he got. But the basic steps are still the same for any case:
One of the first stages of grief and other forms of unhappiness is usually a refusal
We refuse to admit that something bad has happened to us. And we try to hide from everyone what happened to us. This can only make the situation worse, because we do not give ourselves the opportunity to cope with the reality of the situation and rationally perceive the consequences of the trouble. The sooner we accept reality, the better our chances of moving forward. Remember what the articles shared with us in Nale successful people- after all, they, too, first of all recognize the fact of the onset of a streak of bad luck.
Mobilize all your inner strength, try not to let despair take over you
Don't panic by any means. Do you know what can happen to a non-swimmer who unexpectedly falls into the water? There are two options: in the first case, he will start to panic, flounder randomly, and eventually swallow water and drown if help does not arrive in time. And in the second case, this person will try to calm down, and the water itself will push him to the surface. By staying calm and relaxing his muscles, he will be able to control his body position and keep his head above the water. So in life - if you remain calm, you have a much better chance of resolving the situation.
Break down a difficult situation into smaller, more manageable and manageable tasks
You can even eat an elephant, biting off a small piece of it over and over again! By using this simple strategy of breaking down a complex problem into several simpler ones, you will be able to quickly see the solutions to the problem. You will dispel anxiety, restore organized, rational thinking, and direct your thoughts in the right direction to see the next right move.
Be proactive, don't let despair discourage you from taking action.
You can always find a way out! By taking away some of our opportunities, deprivation gives us the chance to take advantage of others. Imagine a person who has lost arms or legs. This is terrible for him and for everyone who loves him. And, of course, no one would dare to condemn the unfortunate if he fell into depression and lost the will to live. But we all saw (and in real life, and thanks to television and the Internet) there are many examples of people who survived such a loss and directed their efforts to what they can do, and not to what was not available to them. An armless musician playing beautiful melodies on the piano with his feet, an artist who paints pictures holding brushes with his teeth, a ballet dancer without one leg who dared to go on stage and dance with the same crippled ballerina - yes, they dance so much that you don’t notice a crutch at all guy, nor the absence of a girl's hand! These strong-willed people set themselves challenges when they lose the ability to do something in the usual way, and work to solve them. They are not just reacting to a tragic accident in their lives, but purposefully looking for ways to continue an active life. We need to learn from them not to fall into despair and at any cost to look for a way out of the streak of bad luck and failure.
Seek support and do not refuse the offered help
There is absolutely no need to fight troubles and troubles alone. Interesting fact: scientists conducted all sorts of studies, trying to unravel the phenomenon of centenarians. You can come up with all sorts of theories, starting from the characteristics of nutrition, environment and other factors that could cause such longevity in respectable elders. But one common factor unites these people, who have managed to survive more than one adversity in their long life - this is their connection with other people, the ability to accept help and provide support to everyone who needs it.
Very often, victims of failures and misfortunes remain captive to their past.
They retain the feeling that they have been let down or betrayed by circumstances, people, or even life itself. Their souls are wounded and bleeding, the joy of life is lost. Remaining thoughts in their past, which brought them misfortune, they kind of agree that unpleasant events can happen again. It is necessary to take responsibility for your life, for your physical, psychological, emotional and spiritual well-being, and not allow all the circumstances and situations that you face to manipulate you like a puppet.
Stay strong in the face of danger
Resilience allows you to cope with adversity, overcome stress and be able to recover from grief, gaining valuable experience. Each of us has the potential to bounce back from setbacks and return to normal life. If we do not use this potential, then over time we lose it. But we can increase our ability to overcome adversity and achieve amazing results even in the most challenging environments. It is the desire to learn how to successfully cope with failures and adversity that can make us successful and happy - both now and in the future. And they will also say about us that we are lucky and lucky.
What else can you do to get these useful skills faster?
Re-read the list of everything that would be useful to pay attention to, and choose the most relevant items for yourself. You can expand this list by adding what would help you the most to weather life's storms.
Enjoy life, every ordinary day;
Smile at your reflection in the mirror every morning;
Relax calmly in the evening, knowing that during the day you have done everything that was required of you;
Rely on your curiosity to learn something new every day, expanding the boundaries of your world;
Exercise your sense of humor, laugh as much as possible;
See contact with people who have experienced mental trauma as an opportunity to study at the university of life;
Watch, read, listen to the stories of people who found the strength to endure misfortune and return to ordinary life. It is inspiring to become more resilient in the face of your own adversity;
Write down or draw your emotions. Try to talk more often about what is good in every event that is not entirely pleasant for you;
Try to be in such an environment more often that makes you revitalize and lift your emotions;
Get yourself a pet - this will help you immerse yourself in joyful experiences even more;
Come up with a new hobby;
Read the sayings wise people, quotes about fortitude and overcoming difficulties - this “clears” the brains very well!
Exercise not only the mind, but also the body. Previously, it was not in vain that they said that “a healthy mind in a healthy body”;
Periodically spend time alone or with the closest person in the bosom of nature. It relieves stress and tension very well;
Volunteer at least occasionally at hospitals and hospices. You will not only feel the satisfaction of being able to help someone, but you will also be able to make sure that your troubles are nothing compared to the misfortune of some people.
There is one very good exercise. Imagine that you are in a boat on the river of life. Sometimes the river is calm, the sun is shining and there is a beautiful landscape around. But around the corner, the river begins to boil, it starts to rain, a thunderstorm rumbles. And you are still in the boat and remain calm. You know the rain will end soon. You can't control the rain, but you can control the boat to move forward to where the river flows smoothly and calmly again.
It's the same in life. Do not try to control circumstances, command only yourself. Just be the captain of your life.
Overcoming adversity can be difficult, but it is always possible to overcome them.
Overcoming adversity can be difficult in times of despair, when a black streak of failures and misfortunes begins. It is not surprising that we may feel pain at first, but the acquired skills and nurtured resilience will help us overcome any changes in life. Our life can be like a roller coaster with many ups and downs and twists and turns. You must follow your own thorny path without stopping and without going back. It may even be scary at first, but don't give up! Life can be harsh and tough on us; but just like a rollercoaster ride, the hard times will come to an end and the disaster will be in the past.
Trouble means change - our life is changing, we ourselves are changing. But it depends only on us whether we will find the strength and opportunity in ourselves to eventually return to ordinary life and move on with it.
