Elizabeth Babanova
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2 months ago I started writing down the basic rules by which I build my life.
I wrote them for myself, but not so long ago the thought began to visit me that they could be useful to you, my readers.
And today I decided to open to you this intimate list of what inspires me and helps me develop.
These 100 rules are the sum total of my experience in personal and professional development.
Most of these rules are aimed at developing internal qualities, which, as you know, are less amenable to change.
The winner in professional and personal development is always not a "sprinter", but a "marathon runner" who is able to regularly and consistently integrate new knowledge into his life.
- Start your day with gratitude for everything you have.
- Get up early ().
- Drink plenty of water (3-4 liters a day).
- Take a contrast shower for healing.
- Plan your day.
- but don't get attached to them.
- Farewell, farewell, farewell to your friends and enemies. You are not perfect, so forgive others for their imperfections.
- Spend at least 15 minutes a day outdoors, 30-60 minutes is even better.
- Don't drink after meals.
- Avoid negative environments.
- If you still find yourself in a destructive environment, learn “from the opposite”, i.e. what "not to be".
- Be true to your dream.
- Surround yourself with worthy people who will contribute to your realization.
- Do sports every day.
- Perform during times of crisis.
- Learn from a professional mentor who will help you accelerate your professional growth.
- Work while enjoying.
- If you don’t like the job, but it is necessary for growth and brings you closer to the goal, keep doing it.
- If you don't like the job and don't get closer to your goal, leave it.
- Believe in yourself.
- Breathe deeply as often as possible throughout the day.
- Pray or meditate every day, cleanse your soul.
- Regularly update the playlist of your favorite songs, listen to them when you need an energy recharge.
- find the best teachers in every area of life and learn from them.
- Give 10% of your income to charity.
- Do not skimp on praise, especially for your team.
- Be emotional in praise and restrained and delicate in criticism.
- Remember: no matter how good you do, someone will always be dissatisfied. It's unavoidable.
- In success, be grateful for the victory. In defeat, be grateful for the experience.
- Be a child sometimes, let yourself be fooled.
- Remember that .
- Apply as often as possible the principle of "two in one" (simultaneous exercise and listening to audio books, morning marathon and motivational video).
- To experience happiness from work, think only about the return, and not about how much money you will earn as a result.
- Strive for growth, do not be afraid of obstacles.
- Remember, it takes at least 10,000 hours of hard work to achieve excellence in anything.
- Small daily improvements lead to big success.
- Greet people first and smile at them. only strong and successful man can afford to be the first to show goodwill.
- The only worthy standard is the best.
- Delicately say goodbye to those people who do not contribute to the realization of your potential.
- If they are your relatives, love them and accept them for who they are. They will most likely never change.
- Don't try to change anyone at all. Trying to change the people around you is the surest way to unhappiness.
- Inspiration comes from the right lifestyle. The worse the food and the less mobile you are, the less desire and passion in work.
- Be an "elevator" for the people around you. Pick them up.
- Treat critics with understanding. These are unrealized people who have no greater pleasure than expressing their disapproval.
- If the critic is qualified and speaks from the heart, make him a friend. Let him help you become better, and you, in turn, find a way to compensate him for his contribution to your success.
- What is behind in your life and what is ahead of you is a mirror image of what you have in it now.
- Motivation must come from within. If it is not there, then there can be only two reasons: either there is no energy, or you are doing the wrong thing.
- Never make any vital decisions in a bad mood. First enter a positive peak state, then decide how to live on.
- Read mail, Twitter and Facebook 2 times a day. Maximum.
- Words inspire and words destroy. Choose them with sensitivity and love.
- To love a person is to help him realize himself. Even if it is to the detriment of your own desires.
- Enjoy being alone.
- It's never too late to start a new business new habit and start a new hobby. Keep looking for something that will broaden your horizons.
- The opportunity and ability to inspire others to reach their potential is the highest reward that exists.
- Keep a diary of success, especially in the categories you work on the most.
- Fulfill agreements. To do this, do not promise anything if you are not 100% sure that you can do it.
- Avoid gossip.
- Follow the news, politics, the economy, develop spherically.
- But remember that the meaning of life lies elsewhere - in a deep understanding of the laws of the universe and following them.
- This will lead to happiness.
- “Of the active and smart, the active ones win. And among the active - the smartest. Combine mind and activity.
- Analyze each significant event In my life. What lesson did you take from it?
- Stop doing things that are not conducive to your fulfillment.
- Eat plenty of alkalizing foods (raw vegetables) and healthy fats (avocados, vegetable oils, nuts) as much as possible.
- The better physical health, the more energy, which means the more benefits you will bring to this world.
- My home is where I live.
- Break the chains of attachment. Be independent and give complete freedom to those you love.
- Once a week, allow yourself to do nothing. Most likely, these will be the happiest, most fulfilling and productive days of your life.
- Do important creative work in peak condition.
- While doing creative work, do not get distracted by urgent but not important things.
- Remember about. Don't get carried away with one while forgetting about the other.
- Study the lives of great people.
- Surround yourself with the most talented and happy people you can find.
- Never take anything from a person if you are not ready to give what he needs from you.
- If you've been betrayed, it's your fault.
- The steeper the climb, the more painful the defeat that follows. Be ready for it (create a rear and a reliable team).
- Defeats are inevitable. These are your main teachers. Love them.
- The stronger the fall, the more seriously you need to work for the next victory. It is from the deepest defeat to the next upswing that true success is measured.
- Be open with people close to you in spirit, and closed to those who are far from your values.
- Always record all agreements in writing. Sometimes people forget them, and sometimes they “forget”.
- Be generous with generous people. With greedy - greedy. Then you will not violate the law of energy interchange.
- To give a lot to people, you need to take a lot and qualitatively from life. It can be quality food, quality rest, sports, sauna, swimming, sun, communication.
- Remember that often in life “the black stripe becomes a take-off”.
- Strive for nobility in all respects.
- Develop inner grace - the totality of wisdom, dignity and kindness.
- Pay no attention to people from your past. Because there is always a reason why they are not in your future.
- The best investments are investments in education and relationships.
- “The wall is the same step. You just have to grow up to it."
- At the end of your life, you will regret more what you didn't do than what you did.
- "Sometimes a step forward is the result of a kick in the ass." People who have been successful in your business can serve as that motivating kick.
- The more responsibility, the more power. The more power, the more opportunity to help other people. The more you help others, the happier you become.
- Regularly put things in order in your life and ruthlessly get rid of trash.
- Always tell people your expectations and find out their expectations for you before entering into any relationship or making deals. 99% of quarrels and resentments are due to a misunderstanding of the expectations of the other side.
- Life is like: if it’s hard for you, then you are on the rise.
- Take deliberate and calculated risks regularly. It trains intuition and character.
- Buy yourself a new dress at least once a month. Or shoes. Or a hat. As a last resort, buy something from technology. But do not stop pleasing yourself with material things, because you are a woman!
- Madonna is an example of how you can become a superstar without much outstanding talent. Mother Teresa - how you can change the world through service. - how to overcome any trials and become yourself powerful woman on TV. - how to heal people's souls through music. Remember the uniqueness of each of these women and develop your individuality.
- The main task of a woman is to learn to love, to create comfort, warmth and a benevolent atmosphere wherever you are.
- Love all, be friends with a few, be with one.
100. Happiness is your maximum realization in all spheres of life.
Today I have two messages for you:
1. Write your main life credo. If you have more than one, write them all.
2. Which rule did you like the most, and which one seemed unexpected (which you had never thought about before)?
Elizabeth
9 things to remember when you're having a bad day
Even from the greatest difficulties and troubles, there is a lesson to be learned that will help you become a better person. Are you in a bad mood? Here are 9 things to remember when you're having a bad day.
1. No one promised that life would be perfect.
If you seek perfection, you will never be satisfied.
Lev Tolstoy
Your happiness shouldn't depend on living up to the expectations you set for yourself. It's not bad to be ambitious, but you can never be perfect. And if you think otherwise, your life will be constantly filled with disappointments.
2. Success doesn't come overnight
Trees that grow slowly bear the best fruit.
Molière
No need to deceive yourself and hope that success will come quickly. It's not always easy to be patient, but anything worthwhile takes time (and sometimes quite a lot!) If you get frustrated and lose faith, remind yourself why your goal is important to you and why you started working towards it.
3. From any difficulties you can learn a useful lesson.
And when the storm subsides, you yourself will not understand how you could get through it and survive. You won't even immediately believe that she really backed off. Only one thing will be clear. You will emerge from this storm not the same as you were before it. This is the meaning of the storm.
Haruki Murakami
Never complain about how terrible your life is. Although we often want to whine and sympathize with ourselves, but thinking about the bad, you are unlikely to feel better. By trying to learn from the problem that is tormenting you, you can make positive changes that will prevent similar situations in the future.
4. Without the bad, it is impossible to appreciate the good.
Strength does not come from victories. Strength develops struggle. Facing hardships and not giving up is strength.
Arnold Schwarzenegger
Whatever happens, don't despair. When we lose, it's hard to find a reason to smile, but how else can you find a way to improve yourself? By looking at failure as part of your growth process, you will stay positive and be able to persevere and consistently move towards your goals for as long as it takes.
5. It's okay to cry
No need to apologize for your tears. Without emotions, we would be just robots.
Elizabeth Gilbert
Don't be afraid to cry. This is not a sign of weakness, but rather an acceptable way to let off steam and get rid of negative emotions. If these feelings accumulate and do not splash out in any way, then over time it will become more and more difficult for you to cope with them.
6. Don't Worry About Everything
Anxiety does not free your tomorrow from worries, but takes away strength from your today.
Corrie ten Boom
You don't have to worry all the time. It is human nature to imagine everything possible options events, but in the end, these worries turn into a psychological nightmare that we arrange for ourselves. By getting rid of thoughts that you still can’t control in any way, you will have the strength to concentrate on those things that can be changed.
7. The lives of others are not always as beautiful as they seem.
A person who pays attention not to what his neighbor does, says or thinks, but only to what he himself does, receives the gift of time, which he spends righteously and holyly.
Marcus Aurelius
No need to compare your life path with what other people show you online. There is nothing wrong with chatting with friends on the Internet, but you should not believe everything you are shown. If you feel like your life pales in comparison to the lives of your acquaintances, remind yourself that you are comparing your entire life to the main points in their biography.
8. It takes courage to ask for help.
The most pressing and urgent question in life is what are you doing for others?
Martin Luther King
Don't be afraid to ask for help. Putting yourself in a vulnerable position is not easy, but opening up to a friend will surely make it easier for you to solve your problems. If you feel like a burden, remember that few people achieve success without someone else's support.
9. You deserve love and happiness
Most people are only as happy as they choose to be.
Abraham Lincoln
Think about what you are grateful for. It could be the cup of coffee you drank this morning, the puppy waiting for you at home, or the healthy eyes that made it possible for you to read this article.
When we get upset, it becomes very easy for us to lose sight of such seemingly insignificant, but very pleasant little things. Try to develop the habit of paying attention to the good. The next time you're upset, think about what makes you happy. Do this every time until it happens automatically. Negative thoughts will lose their power over you only when you stop clinging to them!
1. The principle of the mirror. Before judging others, you should look at yourself.
2. The principle of pain. An offended person inflicts insults on others.
3. The principle of the upper road. We are moving to more high level when we start treating others better than they treat us.
4. The boomerang principle. When we help others, we help ourselves.
5. Hammer principle. Never use a hammer to kill a mosquito on someone's forehead.
6. The principle of exchange. Instead of putting others in their place, we must put ourselves in their place.
7. The principle of learning. Every person we meet has the potential to teach us something.
8. The principle of charisma. People show interest in a person who is interested in them.
9. Principle 10 points. Belief in the best qualities of people usually makes them show their best qualities.
10. The principle of confrontation. First you should take care of people and only then confront them.
11. The principle of stone rock. Trust is the foundation of any relationship.
12. The principle of the elevator. In the process of relationships, we can lift people up or down.
13. The principle of the situation. Never let a situation mean more to you than a relationship.
14. Bob's principle. When Bob has problems with everyone, main problem usually Bob himself.
15. The principle of accessibility. Ease in relationship with ourselves helps others to feel free with us.
16. The principle of the trench. When you prepare for battle, dig a trench for yourself so that a friend can fit in it.
17. The principle of agriculture. All relationships need to be cultivated.
18. The principle of 101 percent. Find the 1 percent that we agree with and focus 100 percent of our efforts on it.
19. The principle of patience. Traveling with others is always slower than traveling alone.
20. The principle of celebration. The true test of a relationship is not only how loyal we are to friends when they fail, but how much we rejoice when they succeed.
21. The principle of friendship. Other things being equal, people will tend to work with those they like; under other unequal conditions, they will still do it.
22. The principle of cooperation. Collaboration increases the likelihood of joint victory.
23. The principle of satisfaction. In a wonderful relationship, it is enough for the parties to enjoy simply being together.
In the 11th grade, I firmly decided that I would go to study psychology. This idea seemed to me not only funny, but also very useful for life in general. And I want to say that I made the right choice. After all, this science helps a lot understand not only ourselves, but also what is happening around us.
Why do you need a reminder
In each life situation already visited by someone before us. “Balconies fell on someone”, someone already got into the same stupid or very important situation, and someone has already lived his life with great experience in many matters. And it is very important when people, having experienced certain events, share advice how to avoid mistakes.
memo- this is an "instruction" in a particular issue, which is significantly makes it easier to understand complex issues.
Golden rules that will definitely help you in life
These notes help me. Hope it helps you too:
- Don't be afraid of mistakes. This is probably the most important rule. Humans tend to make mistakes. Remember that you live for the first time!
- love relatives. Even if you have such a period in your life, as if it seems that no one in the world understands you, and even more so your parents, do not rush. Never offend those for whom you are the most important person. Time will pass and you will see how right they once were and always loved you.
- Give compliments. This is a great way to connect with other people. If you want to please someone, find a reason, pay attention to appearance, clothes or behavior. But! If you have to give a compliment through "I don't want it," it's best not to give it at all.
- Try to be as honest as possible. Not always and not in everything we can remain honest. But it's always worth trying.
- Optimism. Optimism and only it rules the world.
- read books. Do not believe that it is not fashionable. It's not fashionable to be stupid.
- travel. Nothing diversifies your experience and life itself like new impressions.
- Love yourself. You should make people want to love you, not pity you.
- Be kind. This is the cheapest PR and the most needed medicine for the soul.
You can always add to the list by its own rules. The main thing is not to stop there.
Golden Rules for Good Relationships which include 21 useful tips that will help you win over the people around you.
Relationships are the basic tool through which the path to success and achievement of life goals lies. People who lived in Soviet time felt the need for good relationships more acutely. After all, in order to get something, acquaintances were needed. For example, if it was necessary to buy meat, instead of counter bones, one had to know the butcher or someone who knows the butcher. Even today, those who do not know how to build relationships find it difficult in life.
We have collected twenty one Golden Rule that will help you build good relationships with other people.
1. Support and praise people at every opportunity. Your approval acts like fertilizer for a person's growth.
2. Never make fun of or humiliate anyone.
3. Say only good things about a person. If you have nothing positive to say about the other, it is better to keep silent.
4. Be attentive to the affairs of people, then you will always find a reason to praise others, and not to flatter them.
5. Focus on positive qualities person. If he is not yet noble and wise enough, then see him as such a person. And this person will definitely want to confirm this.
6. Don't criticize people. If you nevertheless set about criticizing, then let it be directed to his actions, and not to the personality of the person.
7. Do not constantly demonstrate your superiority over other people. In this way, you will only make enemies for yourself. If you want to be friends with people, then let them feel their own importance next to you.
8. Always notice your own mistakes and guilt - and apologize.
9. To be listened to, it is better to offer than to issue orders.
10. Irritation is a signal that a person needs help and support. Therefore, treat this state of people with understanding.
11. Be a good listener and talk less.
12. Sometimes let's understand that good idea came from another person. After all, it doesn’t matter who was the first, what is more important is what it can lead to.
13. If you think that a person is wrong, then by interrupting him, you still won’t stop him. Until he speaks out, he will insist on his own.
14. If you want to be able to end any dispute, then admit that you may be wrong. Then the cause of the conflict will disappear and the dispute will stop.
15. Give gifts to people more often for no reason. This will show that you are not waiting for the holidays, but want to please a person every day.
16. If something annoys you, be patient, shut up, restrain your emotions. Don't cut everything from the beginning. Just let the person speak, and you pay attention to those moments that appeal to you. At the end of the conversation, notify the opponent that you will think about what was said.
17. Make it your motto: be interested in people rather than arouse their interest.
18. Smile.
19. Address the person full name. This is much nicer than hearing a shortened name or some kind of nickname. This way you show respect for his personality.
20. Try to end the conversation in a way that leaves the person in a good mood.
21. Learn to forgive.
Apply these rules to improve your own relationships with other people. Do not try to cover the whole spectrum, start practicing a little, so that in the end you can do everything. As soon as you achieve perfection, people will be grateful to you and reciprocate.
Golden rules to help you in life
I am an open-minded girl and a veteran of a free life. But recently I agreed to become a wife, and I will explain why I did not do this earlier. I was surprised no less than others by my engagement last December. I have known the groom all my life: we went to school together, thirteen years ago we met for a whole summer, but then each went his own way. When my friends find out that Gosha and I spent all these years apart, they begin to lament that they were lived completely aimlessly. But personally, I believe that these are my years - my wealth. Gosha, I'm sure, also does not regret anything ...
“The foundation has settled, the house is strong, and what is understood with difficulty is dearer to us,” as one blond sang. He knew what he was singing about: valiant fun requires a certain degree of freedom. They also allow us to accumulate the experience of intrigues, which insures against attempts to know good and evil to the left of the family hearth. After analyzing my experience and the experience of a good dozen of my friends, I came to the conclusion that in the life of every woman there should be 10 turning points. And, just before she decides to say "yes" the right man and then keep your word. These moments are the golden rules that will help in the life of each of us. How they helped me once.
1. KNOW TO REFUSE AND AGREE.
My friend Anna is 28 years old and she is a reasonable woman. At the same time, she considers going through torments a valuable experience in love. Five years ago, Anna dated a guy she was attracted to, despite the fact that the words “there will be problems” flashed on his forehead. One evening in a bar, he proposed to her. And she, under the influence of alcohol and his piercing eyes, agreed. But two months before the wedding, she changed her mind and turned off the affair. Why? “Instead of a planned romantic trip with me, he waved to Peter for a bachelor party, which he notified me by email.” Anna did not answer the letter, as she did not bother to return the ring received from the shalopy. She went on a trip alone and gambled well on the proceeds from the jewelry handed over to the store. On the beach, she met Tolik, not at all an alcoholic and not at all a talker. After a couple of months, they signed - without too much noise and diamond dust.
2. DON'T BE AFRAID TO TRY NEWS.
In the crowd of my friends, Alice, 27, is the most pedantic. He even takes his jeans to the dry cleaners. And this fifa declares that her fiancé brought one of those manuals where an acrobatic pose is recommended for every day of the year. The groom insisted on the “mill wheel” (the woman rests her hands on the floor, and the partner lifts her by the legs). “I didn’t really smile like that in front of my beloved, who has yet to propose to me and call me his forever. But curiosity took over. And I didn't regret it!" The groom also liked these exercises - and the offer was not long in coming, but Alice was playing for time. She still thinks that the matrimonial bedroom is not so easy to turn into a tasting room. And the groom tries. Persuades.
3. BE ABLE TO RECOGNIZE YOUR WEAKNESS.
Oh yes, this is truly the golden rule. A little less than a month ago, my boyfriend Gosha took me to the store to pick out a desk. “I like the one with the white top,” I said. - He has nicer legs though. Gosha laughed: “In my opinion, you don’t know how to make decisions at all.” I even choked with indignation, and he continued to smile until it dawned on me - damn, he's right! This is the moment when you calmly and humbly admit to yourself and to him that in some way you are still weaker, and it means that the pieces of smalt have formed into a simple and beautiful pattern - a single whole. Recognizing oneself in something weak is not easy, but necessary. The pain of admitting your shortcomings lasts no longer than the pain of depilation. But the joy of the certainty that he knows and understands you perfectly warms the soul all his life.
4. Learn to accept.
My friend Sasha, 25 years old, is sure that the fight with tears and abuse turned her life upside down. It all started with the fact that Sasha's pretty predecessor began to flirt in a bar with her ex, and now Sasha's boyfriend. He got excited, my girlfriend - too. “I was furious! But I realized that if we do not explain ourselves, we will part forever. I had to admit that this bastard is prettier than me. But how we put up with him later! Actually, here the situation was largely saved by the same ability to admit one's weakness. And the ability to compromise. And without this family life- just nowhere.
5. DON'T BE SHAME TO SEND A SOS.
We rarely show our weaknesses to men. And in vain, as my friend Evgenia found out, 26. “Somehow I decided to hang bookshelves on my own,” recalls the former independent woman. - And I almost succeeded - until the screw fell out and the whole structure began to fall on me. I yelled, he ran up and caught the shelf. And he said: “This is not a royal business, and certainly not a woman’s. Didn't want to ask? And I, by the way, am glad to fulfill any of your requests. Moral: love - accept his help. And to hell with emancipation!
6. BE ABLE TO PRIORITIZE.
Following this golden rule, the main thing is not to be late with conclusions. A couple of years ago, an enviable boyfriend turned up for me: handsome, rich and thoroughbred - let me not bore you with his pedigree. But as soon as we went somewhere, I felt embarrassed. He was rude and hysterical in public with or without reason. Finally, he stopped calling me, and. I felt better. Looking for a man according to the list of virtues is a waste of time. In general, I crossed out the word "money" and wrote "humor" on top. And life smiles at me to this day.
7. DON'T BE AFRAID TO GO UP.
They say that a person is best known on vacation. My friend Yulia, 25, said that after a trip to Burma, her two-year relationship with a certain Marik suddenly blossomed. Once a guide took them to a mountain where no Westerner had ever set foot. “We have never been seriously involved in tourism,” Yulia says. - And the route was laid almost on sheer cliffs. Nerves give up, and in order not to break down, there is a great temptation to break into someone who is nearby. However, this never happened - Marik, not the most agile type in the world, turned out to be hardy and selfless. And I realized: if with such a man I climbed a mountain and got down from it alive and unharmed, then we need to run with obstacles along the plain of living together. Since then, they have been running: together and not without success.
8. BE ABLE TO FIND A JOY.
We criticize our own body for years, and there is no better therapy for this self-torture than someone who adores us all without a trace. Here is what my friend Ira, 30 years old, says about her husband: “We have been together for a long time, but when I undress, he is still numb with happiness. Thanks to his enthusiasm, I am confident in my sexuality and in the strength of our relationship. What can be added here...
9. KNOW TO SURVIVE COOLING.
Marital sex is monotonous. This is an axiom. But intimate frosts will certainly be followed by a cheerful thaw and relying - according to all the laws of the universe - heat. Another thing is important: the desire, against all odds, to know someone until the end of the days allotted to you.
10. KEEP A SECRET.
Let there be only one, but I have one. Tell? Figushki. That's why he's a secret, so as not to blurt out the details. Okay, I'll give you a hint: it was in Cuba under the palm trees. I carry these memories in me like a second heart, hearing the beat of which I lose my head. The presence of secrets indicates that life still did not pass by. And they are also necessary so that even at 95 years old in a rocking chair it will still remain a mystery to those who sway nearby.
Of course, you can argue about 10 turning points in the life of every woman for a long time. Someone has more or less of them - it's not so important. The main thing is to go through them before you make the most important choice for yourself. Pass, following the golden rules that will help in life. Be able to understand yourself. Accept yourself. And then everything will work out, and be decided, and put on the shelves, and will not break against the wall of banal problems. Never.
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Memo "Golden rules that will help in life", how to make?
Need 7-10 rules
The rules by which a person lives are to a large extent a reflection of his inner convictions, his upbringing, and social environment. However, there are general rules suitable for each individual, by adopting which you can significantly change your life. Here are just the most important ones.
1) Study life: look for new experiences, new goals. Reason is given to man to move forward. It is thanks to the mind that a person has a unique opportunity - to be the master of his life: to think, evaluate, explore the world, discovering new sources of material and spiritual pleasure.
2) Only worry about things that are within your control. The key to resisting hardship, without which any life is unthinkable, is to cultivate a certain attitude towards adversity, based on a critical distinction between those things that we can control and those that are beyond our jurisdiction.
3) Friendship, love, affection - this is what fills our life with meaning.
4) Avoid small and momentary pleasures. Remember that true pleasure is disciplined and restrained.
5) Don't let anyone break and remake you: resist any external force which can limit your thoughts and actions.
6) Try to live in harmony with the world. Any excesses and excesses cause more harm than good.
7) Learn to evaluate yourself critically and treat yourself responsibly: you do not need to shift the blame for your actions to other people, circumstances or your own weakness.
To live in harmony with yourself and the world around you, you need to know the Golden Rules, which are very helpful in life. In order to follow them and never forget, let's try to write out these rules, and make a reminder. Over time, this will be deposited in memory and developed over the years in behavior.
- We need to love the people around us, namely relatives and friends, always be sympathetic towards them, treat the people around us on the street well.
- Learn to see only the good in people, their virtues.
- Learn to forgive.
- Know how to ask for forgiveness for the offenses you have caused, if you have offended someone, upset or done badly.
- Do not be shy about your feelings, the manifestation of sympathy and compassion are good qualities of a person.
- Try to help if possible.
- Do not try to please everyone and make everyone happy, start with your loved ones, they need you more.
- Before you judge someone, learn to put yourself in their place.
- Be polite to those around you.
- Watch your diet and health.
- Never justify yourself, draw conclusions, something didn’t work out or shed, take it and do it next time, you shouldn’t blame someone for your failures. Everything depends on you and everything is in your hands. Do not say that you are not understood or appreciated, do it for yourself.
- Do not lie, do not envy, always strive to do something of your own, and achieve success and goals. Envy is a bad feeling, it destroys a person.
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Memo golden rules that will help in life
1. do it yourself. If you have the choice to do a particularly important job yourself or successfully "blame everything on your brother" - choose the first. Quality and moral satisfaction about the work done will be a good reward for you.
2. Sincerity, kindness, morality. With each generation, people become less and less moral. Mat, causeless rudeness, anger at everything and everyone - this is just the beginning of the list. Try to change. Live and enjoy every day, instead of throwing mud at each other.
3. physical perfection. Physical strength has been valued at all times, and the "fashion" for this will not work. Optimal physical activity daily will bring brilliant results.
4. Intelligence. Being smarter than many means achieving a lot in life. Study, study and study, learn everything new, be interested in many things and read a lot - the path of knowledge.
5. Don't delay for tomorrow. "I'll do it tomorrow .." - familiar words, right? forget about them, do today, rest tomorrow.
6. Health is gold. Watch your health! This is one of the most valuable things in a person's life. Proper nutrition physical activity is the main thing. And no bad habits!
7. Do not give up! Failure in life? Sat in a puddle? Find the strength to keep moving forward. Philosophers spoke correctly (I don’t remember which one): “The main thing in life is to get up 10 times after you have fallen 9 times!”
8. Friendship. Connections. without them for the present century nowhere. The more acquaintances, friends, buddies - the more chances to achieve a lot. Learn to connect with people.
9. Zomboyaschik - in the trash. Stop watching TV. Clear your mind, there will be a lot of free time. There is a lot of dirt on TV, you should not get dirty.
10. The main thing is the right goal. Set the right goals! “Great achievements begin, of course, with a dream to achieve them!” (also the words of some philosopher, but I don’t remember the name, unfortunately).
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Rules of psychology, what are they and why are they needed? We live in a rapidly developing world, we are constantly in contact with people, we strive for something or fall into apathy, we are happy and sad, but you can make life easier and happier. It all depends on our attitude to life, the internal rules of life that we use in practice every day, sometimes not noticing what drives our actions. In the article, we will consider wise advice for life or the rules of psychology for happiness, helping to live a full and happy life, enjoy a new day and achieve any desires.
Golden Rules of Psychology for Happiness
The psychology of human life is very multifaceted, including the psychology of success, development, communication, personal growth. What is the first thing you need for a happy life? Consider the basic rules of psychology for a happy person:
1. Our life is our thought, a reflection of aspirations
A person cannot change the circumstances of life, but he is able to change his attitude, opinion, thoughts. A person's life moves in the direction of the most powerful thought, concentration of attention, it is useful to learn to direct thinking towards success, prosperity, happiness. Thinking positively, we create new world, and planning new achievements, we create the foundation for a new life, future success.
2. My life is my choice
To find inner harmony, happiness, it is important to realize that our life depends on the inner choice that we make every day. Only the person himself decides what to do, with whom to communicate, what activity to devote his life to, whether there will be love in life. Internal protests can interfere with the fulfillment of desires and plans, it is important to believe in yourself and the possibility of self-realization, finding satisfaction in all areas of life.
The rules of psychology simplify the attitude to life, make it possible to believe in own forces to learn to create life, to change it for the better.
3. Rule of self-respect
A sense of the importance of one's own personality, recognition of features and abilities is necessary, then it is possible and happy life. You don’t have to be like everyone else, it is important to discover your potential, learn how to use features in life. Availability high self-esteem and respect helps to achieve high results, psychologists say: it is important to learn to love and accept your own personality in order to receive a response from society. An insecure person cannot reveal his inner talents, attract attention, and receive the respect of society. The process has a direct relationship with internal evaluation.
4. Right to be wrong
In the process of life, people tend to make mistakes, wrong actions. This is a normal process - only falling and rising, we learn to walk, in life, too, wisdom comes with age, thanks to the accumulated experience, which is not possible without mistakes. Do not reproach yourself, draw conclusions and live on, avoiding similar actions in the future.
We are not talking about compliance with the laws, this is mandatory, the main thing is to listen to the inner voice, intuition and conscience, they will not deceive when choosing a solution. And small miscalculations should not affect self-esteem, the more bumps, the more knowledge, the main thing is to continue moving forward with faith in your heart.
Difficulties are given to a person for growth, overcoming a new frontier - we become stronger, stagnation in life awaits without difficulties, and development is necessary for a happy and successful life. Problems and difficulties are the tasks of life, they must be solved, not experienced.
5. Right to self-identity
For a happy life, it is important to understand: each person is unique, everyone has their own characteristics, it is useful to develop their own style, look for interests, inclinations, aspirations inherent at the internal level, seek and find. Do not be afraid to be a "black sheep", it is innovators and people with non-standard thinking who reach heights in life, become famous writers, artists, musicians, politicians.
It is they who are often leaders, heading business companies, organizations, parties, interest groups. The ability to think, generate ideas, find non-standard approaches are indispensable in life, as well as recognition of one's own characteristics and advantages.
6. Self-development - the path to a better life
It is important to understand that it is extremely difficult to change other people, it is better to learn how to get along with relatives, to establish a good relationship with colleagues, to understand how to bring a piece of happiness into your home, relationships, giving - we receive. Life reciprocates. People say: "What you sow, you will reap." In these words - the truth, the main rule of successful communication. So, to receive love - you need to learn to love, to improve communication - to be open and attentive to people, to receive help - to help others.
The rules of psychology for happiness are logical and fair, they correspond to the rules of the universe.
7. Live here and now
Life is today, the current moment, yesterday is the past, tomorrow is the future. The secret of a happy life is to live today, leaving insults and troubles in the past. Awareness of the importance of life in this moment time, makes a person more attentive, responsible, allows you to get rid of anxiety past life. The past is experience, you need to accept it and forgive yourself and others for mistakes, strive for the best in the future, you can’t change the past, but you can create the future!
8. Give thanks to life
It is important to get rid of the feeling of pity and worthlessness that arise in pessimistic people. Noticing the positive aspects of life, it is easier to move forward, to believe in the best. Life is to be thanked for the good and the bad, without negative experience it is impossible to realize the difference, to feel joy and happiness. Recognizing and noticing the good in life, we create the basis for even better, we are looking for new ways and means to achieve high goals.
9. The world is in harmony
Happy people, for example, Buddhists know for sure: everything in the world stands in its place - the sun moves, day changes night, winter and spring come, everything changes and is in harmony, according to the laws of the Universe. Such thoughts help to relax, accept the inevitable, it is difficult to control everything in life, only the concentration of attention depends on the person and the thought. Therefore, it is worth observing the beauty in life and thinking calmly, sovereignly, positively, which will ensure a happy life, haste and nervousness harm life, reduce work efficiency.
"Calm, only calm," as Carlson said. This supreme power helping a person in all life situations.
10. New day - new chance
The psychology of life becomes simple if we think as follows: what would I do if it were my last day, what desires would I strive to realize, would I value time more? It is important to realize your interests, aspirations, not to waste time. Learn to appreciate life, because it is given to people only once. Of course, it is difficult to change life drastically. First you need to learn to enjoy life: work, family, benefit from the experience of life, and then change for the better, achieve more.
The rules of psychology for happiness are simple and important, often echoing folk wisdom, people noticed the laws of life, reflecting in sayings and parables. It is worth gradually changing life, introducing new rules, attitudes, changing ourselves, we take a step towards changes in our own lives, relationships with the outside world, loved ones. Step by step, you can build your own picture of the world, become a truly happy person.
A good happy life is possible
You can live a happy life by learning to use the rules of psychology, changing your attitude to life. Happiness is a state of mind, it needs to be cultivated, radiated, not sought. People who are able to be happy in their souls attract other positive-minded individuals, find jobs more easily, find new chances, and achieve success.
So, the basic principles of the life of a happy person
Everything that happens is for the best
An internal mood for positive changes helps to catch a wave of good luck, to see new opportunities. When life gives you a sour lemon, know how to extract lemonade from it. Any event, situation has 2 sides - positive and negative, often the bright side is harder to find, but it exists.
Forget grievances
A happy person does not hold evil, he understands: forgiveness helps, first of all, the one who forgives. You need to be healthy, calm, joyful. And the accumulation of resentment leads to diseases and neuroses.
Be open to communication
Happy people love to meet, communicate, listen and express their point of view. They understand: every person has the right to different views, this is not a hindrance to friendship and communication. They are always sincere, friendly, positive charge. Ready for cooperation and partnership.
Take responsibility for life
They perfectly understand that life is the result of their own efforts, desires, they cultivate a positive perception, set goals and achieve what they want. They never accuse others and the world of injustice, they always begin the analysis with themselves. Calmly perceive mistakes and mistakes. A happy person does not despair in case of failure, but continues to look for ways to get what he wants or sets new tasks: "Everything will work out, good is on our side."
Be able to give
For a happy life and harmony in the soul, it is important to be able to give: love, attention, care for people around, share thoughts, time, knowledge with others. By giving, a person becomes more open to the world and, as a result, receives more - love, happiness, well-being. IN modern world consumerism is cultivated, but it does not help to find happiness, but interferes, creates a system of values for egoists. Giving a part of life to others, helping loved ones, we become really happy, we feel our own importance.
The psychology of human behavior pays special attention to the ability to build relationships, the desire to initially understand, show interest in others, and help create the ground for communication. Each person thinks about his own interests, and, feeling attention from others, begins to reveal his best qualities, to make contact.
Respect yourself and others
Self-respect is a necessary condition for a successful and happy life. Understanding your value, you can learn to respect and love other people, show attention, be open to the world. Respect for one's own personality means recognition of one's features, merits, understanding of the importance of one's own life. It also helps to have a mission and its implementation.
Human psychology is a complex and simple topic, first of all, you need to understand that people are similar, you should treat others as if you were yourself. Kindness, humanity, attention, understanding - have always contributed to mutual understanding.
Self-confidence
The psychology of a person's personality speaks of the importance of confidence in a person's life. With faith in your own strength, you can move mountains, reach unprecedented heights. Happy people believe that they can find everything they want in life, all that is needed is knowledge, perseverance and time to implement plans. Everything is in the hands of man. Confidence can be strengthened with the help of a success diary - write down all the achievements in life, new achievements, positive reviews. Re-read in difficult periods of life, realizing that the difficulties are temporary, you need to continue to act.
radiate love
The ability to love the world associated with self-love, when a person can take care of himself, fill own life joy, then he treats the people around him kindly. Naturally, a negative attitude towards oneself is also projected onto the outside world. It is important to preserve harmony in the soul, to grow goodness, joy, to be able to reduce the impact of stress on life, not allowing you to take your anger out on others. There are other ways to discharge - sports, music, hobbies, reading literature.
The rules of psychology also speak of reciprocity in the world, love gives birth to love, and evil only destroys the world and relationships between people.
Strive for knowledge
Happy people read books, constantly striving for development, knowledge of the world, acquiring new knowledge and skills. They realize the importance of obtaining knowledge for a successful life, who owns the information - owns the world. A happy person learns easily, is ready to change jobs, environment, tries not to get hung up on some actions, looking for new ways for self-realization. Although you can get joy from life by changing your attitude to work, family, thanks to the search for positive aspects is the first and necessary step.
Don't expect gratitude
The psychology of human behavior speaks of the tendency of people to forget about gratitude, therefore, when doing good, you should not wait for a response. It will come from life, not always from a specific person, you need to learn to enjoy giving energy, attention, knowledge. And gratitude is a secondary action, does not always take place in people's behavior and is not worth worrying about.
be able to switch
The psychology of human life reminds us that it is harmful to accumulate stress, happy people live in the present moment and do not constantly keep only events and thoughts in their memory. It is important, when leaving work, to forget about work, to be able to switch to household chores, not to bring problems into the house. And at work, concentrate only on work issues. Any action must be completed and the ability to quickly switch helps to maintain a feeling of happiness and health.
be able to forgive
A happy person does not hold a grudge in his soul, realizing the futility of such actions, negative thoughts only destroy life and health, it is easier to forgive, understand and live on, enjoying good events in life. The rules of psychology also call for harmony and tranquility, and forgiveness is the path to finding inner peace.
love to joke
A smile and laughter save in many situations, humor helps to avoid conflicts, defuse the situation, get out of an uncomfortable situation. Laughter, as psychologists say, prolongs life. It is no coincidence that humor saves from troubles, helps to maintain good relations with people, charges with positive energy.
Understand the mirror image of the world
The attitude towards people and life shapes our reality. In addition, each person teaches us something, if something does not suit or annoys, it is worth observing yourself, correcting your own mistakes, negative traits. Honesty, punctuality and responsibility help build trust, find love and great colleagues.
Simplify life
A happy person tries to smooth things over, avoid conflicts, minimize troubles, transfer everything into the sphere of kindness and light. Dramatization of the complexities of life only exacerbates their condition, the impact on a person, and a calm attitude helps to find solutions, quickly navigate in the living space, and emerge victorious from any situation. It is important to understand that our problems are not commensurate with the global scale, there are situations that are more complicated, everything is known in comparison. The main principle of life: "everything is fine, but the tasks of life are the regime."
The rules of psychology help determine the basic principles of life for finding inner happiness.
It is important to live with an open heart, to be able to rejoice, to notice the light in life. To create happiness - tune in every morning to a positive wave, believe in yourself, love your loved ones. Then happiness will gladly come to the house and will accompany you through life, because a person who radiates light never freezes. People and life are mutual - there is a cycle of happiness and love.
The happiest life for everyone is their own, they often talk about love, friends, children, well-being, self-realization in their favorite area. All this is possible, observing the rules of psychology and the principles of life of a happy person. For success, you need perseverance and faith, the desire for knowledge, for love - the ability to love and give, for friendship - the ability to understand, show attention, support, for health - love for yourself, care and peace of mind, and also - playing sports.
Changing the approach to our desires, we realize that in many ways we determine life and our own achievements, which means that any desires and aspirations can become a reality with some effort. The psychology of life helps to acquire important knowledge - to understand the principles of achieving success and the state of happiness. Initially, you need to become a source of happiness, to understand what is missing for calmness, peace, confidence. Learn to create the mood of a happy, successful person.
How to do it?
- Smile more often, in the morning, approaching the mirror, say: "I am a wonderful person and a successful and interesting day awaits me", "I easily realize all desires", "my life is changing for the better." Ideally, the selected phrases are repeated 20 times for better perception at the subconscious level;
- it is useful to listen to positive music - jazz, classical, melodic rock, something inspiring for exploits;
- keep track of your successes, achievements, write in a diary;
- learn to find solutions in any situation;
- remember - it is easier and more efficient to live on the positive, drive away sad thoughts, switch to the good.
The theme of a happy person in the modern world has gained new form- used to consider the search for happiness in the outside world, they were looking for a bird of happiness, now a new approach has appeared - to find happiness in oneself and create in the world around. Such ideas are more productive, because a person can actively participate in creating his own happiness, and this is more pleasant than waiting on the shore for the good fortune.
We wish everyone only happiness and success in life!
